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#1 of 11 Old 12-31-2003, 05:40 AM - Thread Starter
 
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It "finally" came up.

The Talk.

We were cuddled up on the couch a matter of days ago.

I VERY Gently Explained.

He turned his head and held it with both hands mostly covering his face.

I asked:

"What's Wrong, Sweetie?"

He replied:

"That's Mean . . . "
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Awwww I'm going to have to have that talk with my sons one day. The older is circ'd and the younger is not.
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Same As Me.

I was TOTALLY Dreading This.

But we were in a close, loving proximity AND the moment was ripe.

His tiny hands covering most of head will stay with me for a long, long time . . .

And cutting into his penis will stay with me longer still . . .
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This is the hard moment - and the reason, I think, that at least some parents continue to circ, even when/if they know it is wrong.

You are a strong, loving mama. Your sons are lucky to have you.
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Yeah, But "They" Don't Realize Just How Wrong . .. .
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Oh shoot... hugs to you both. Poor kid. Poor mom! I hope that you guys can continue to work through it and keep closely cuddled.

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What a wonderful, strong mama you are. Your boys are lucky to have you.
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that must have been so hard for you both.
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It was even more difficult the next day when he brought it up again and was so sure that they don't do circumcisions anymore and I had to explain that they are still being done to about half the baby boys born in North America.

His little almost-six-year-old face paled.
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Tonimom,
If you want to start your own thread, go ahead and do so, but changing the topic on someone else's thread is generally regarded as impolite.

Laila.......back to you!
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I'd be willing to admit my son's circumcision to him a hundred times over as opposed to seeing the sweeping realization and subsequent rage of his forty yo Father's discovery of what his own circumcision meant had been done to the most private and sensitive part of his body and that he pushed the same onto his first-born son . . .

<edited to try to make sense of my garbled jargon>
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