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I can't imagine regrets for not circ'ing, considering it is still an option for any one who wasn't and they are free to make that decision. When people are adults, they might not like any number of things about their bodies, and if they choose, they can alter it any way they so choose (circ, penile implants, labiaplasty, butt implants, breast implants, nose jobs, chest implants, etc. etc.) That is why it is the only right decision..... to give that decision to the individual who wants the altering. However many people do regret not having the money to do any of those things, but that is no one else's fault.
I usually feel uncomfortable discussing my son's privates but - yes. He never had a problem. He is almost 16. Not the slightest issue.
When he was young, I didn't have a lot of information around me about intact boys, as he was one of the only ones I'd ever seen, and I used to worry about infections and retract and clean him *winces from the memory*. After he cried so much from that, after a time I stopped, feeling that couldn't be the right thing to do with him being so upset about it. Later I found that is correct. But even retracting it a bit didn't do more than irritate him slightly as I was doing it.
He never went to daycare.
I should say that I was very surprised when I saw that circumcision is so common in US. As we live in Europe, circumcision is very rare and infant routine circumcision doesn't even exist. Men and little boys don't have any problems with it.
My husband is 26 and has never had a problem. My son is 18 months and has never had a problem. I'm 25 and I've had more problems than any male in my household has. I managed to solve them without cutting parts of my genitals off though.
Breastfeeding, Cloth-Diapering, Co-Sleeping, Babywearing Mama to a Sweet Little Boy
Hah, sounds about right!
My son is 7 and has never had a problem. He doesn't fully retract yet, but his pediatrician (who won't touch anything, just asks him how things are going down there) is not concerned in the least and says that he's progressing normally.
My son's father is 35 and has never had a problem
His grandfather is....jeez, 60? And never had a problem and openly discusses it as much as we don't want to hear it.
My brother - at least in his childhood years (he wouldn't DARE discuss it with me now) has never had a problem.
DH is 26 and never had a problem. DS is 12mo and no problems so far.
DH is from a country that doesn't routinely circumcised and he's never heard of anyone having problems b/c they weren't circed. You'd think that if being intact routinely led to serious problems it would be more widely known in such countries.
Wife to DH from Mexico, and mother to DD (01/10); DS (09/11); and one on the way (03 or 04/14)
DH is also from a country that doesn't circumcise, and he said the same. Problems are not the norm!
love of DH and mama to DS born 1/12
I dont know any man or boy who has been circumsized (perhaps because i am in the UK). I have only ever heard of one problem which was n a boyfriend who had tenderness retracting foreskin at the age of 16 he was told by his doctor that they didnt worry until he was closer to 20 and that it would resolve itself - and it did. Other than that I have never heard of any issues at all.
I also have never heard of any special care instructions, I just put my son in the bath the same as my daughters it has never occured to me to do any special care of his penis at all not has he ever been seen by a doctor.
Mine had plenty of bath time, and alone time/naked time. He didn't keep his hands off it from ages 1-4...lol
My (almost) 6 year old has never had a problem with his foreskin. It does balloon up when he pees but that is normal and does not cause any issues for him. He had a UTI once when he was 3 yo but that could happen to a circumcised boy or a girl so I don't consider that to have anything to do with his foreskin. I think it mainly had to do with him holding in his pee because he didn't want to stop playing and go to the bathroom haha. My partner is circumcised and was really concerned about leaving DS intact at first but now he agrees it's the right thing to do since there have been no actual problems. I would never circumcise without a valid medical reason.
Mom to a bright & energetic 6 y.o. boy With my sweetie for 10 years now Registered nurse
I think I might have posted in this thread somewhere, but I'm not willing to dig through and see. lol Ds is 14 now. We've never had problems, but we've had a little excitement a couple times.
The first was when he was a toddler and xh used dishsoap as bubble bath. Ds's foreskin was inflamed, but even the pro-circ pediatrician didn't claim circ would have changed anything. lol
The second was when he was 8 and said ped was feeling particularly frustrated that there hadn't been any issues with ds's genitals. We went in for a camp check up, and he forcibly retracted ds's not entirely retractable foreskin so hard and fast that he tore ds's frenulum!!! Then tried to claim it wouldn't have happened if he was circ'd. >=/ Ds made a full recovery, though, not to worry.
Now, he's homeschooled but taking classes part time at the high school, including PE. He plays sports, camps out with boy scouts, goes on leadership excursions with 4H where he shares hotel rooms with other boys, etc. etc. etc.. No one has ever had anything negative to say (some curiosity, some jealousy, some harmless "boy" antics, mostly disinterest), and he's never had any infections or issues with his genitals...unlike his feet!!!! (Good thing we don't see that ped anymore. He'd have had them amputated by now, for sure!!! lol)
Might as well update this thread. When I posted earlier my son was six and had never had a problem with his foreskin. He is now eight and has still never had a single problem. He knows what circumcision is and thinks it is horrendous. He is very happy that he wasn't put through that.
I have 3 intact boys and none have ever had a problem. When my oldest was 4 the pediatrician tried to check to see if he was retractable. I asked her not to do that. She got all upset with me and told me she had a 10 year old patient "who had to be circumcised" because he couldn't retract. We switched doctors. As far as I know, he still can't retract. But since 10 years old is the average ago of retractibility, I'm not the slightest bit worried.
I just meant making sure he washes with soap and water down there at bath time. No moving any foreskin or anything. Just thought I should clarify.
At one point I wasn't making sure he did that and he was getting baths so I didn't think anything, but his wee wee got a little red and irritated looking. As soon as I made sure he used soap, it cleared up and looked healthy again. I have his circed older brother wash with soap and water there too now, but he has never had any irritation like that. I don't know if it's because of circed or not. I still wouldn't consider that a good enough reason to circ.
Happily married Christian SAHM of 2 boys, DD1 , and DD2 July 2013
Ds only got red and irritated if he did use soap. I think that changed with puberty though. I can't imagine how careful he'd have to be with all the scented products he uses in the shower now, if it was still an issue! lol
I use burt bees baby wash on my kids or sometimes castor soap. And he doesn't use any more than what he'd use on the rest of his body. Guess each kid is different.
Happily married Christian SAHM of 2 boys, DD1 , and DD2 July 2013
my ds is 3 and no issues at all. my next door neighbor has 4 sons and a dh that are all intact and no issues from any of them. i personally don't have issues with circ vs. non-circ it was just what we chose for our ds. hopefully our ds will continue to be trouble free.