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I posted a while back in regards to the discussions I had with my sister on circ. She ended up c'rcing a mere 36 week old premie who later became jaundice. He spent his first week under Billi lights. Ironically he was fine until 8 hours after the circ. Does anyone know if there is a connection between the two?
She actually did not even tell me she circ'd him because she knows I will go off. In fact I was visting about a week after they had returned from hospital an her landlord was there visting. He was telling us how his grandson contracted MRSA from guess what??? His circ. Sad part was he almost died twice. I saw my sister and husband turn pale. I said that is "so awful" I am glad I did not have to worry about that. (probably crass but..) I did not know at the time they had c'rcd. I should have known when I offered to change his diaper and she said no and hid his penis while she did it that they had c'rced.
So yes after so much time giving her info she completely ignored it and sent him off to be c'rcd in a two hour line and went and took a shower. I am so upset I feel like vomitting. He will be the only one (besides his father who was adopted) who is cir'd in his entire family. So sad.

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i'm so sorry. just prayers for the baby... and all the babies who are circumcised.

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I'm so sorry, it's so painful to think of babies being circumcised (although much more so for them ) but even worse when it's someone in your own family to whom you gave the right information so they don't have the excuse of being ignorant.

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I'm so sorry, it's so painful to think of babies being circumcised (although much more so for them ) but even worse when it's someone in your own family to whom you gave the right information so they don't have the excuse of being ignorant.

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so sorry
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I'm so sorry, it's so painful to think of babies being circumcised (although much more so for them ) but even worse when it's someone in your own family to whom you gave the right information so they don't have the excuse of being ignorant.
Thank You, I think that is why I am so emotional. She knows I am a intactivist and how hard I work to educate others on the dangers of circ.. She pulls "the it is my husband's choice. He has a penis I don't" card. So very sad because when all of his cousin's on both sides are running naked in the yard, he will be the only cut one

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I'm so sorry. You did your best.

 
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you did all you could, sometimes people are just that way. i had a friend who pretty much did the same thing, without really explaining why, she just said 'oh we decided to do it', and i didnt feel like asking why.
it made me very sad, but at least she had all the facts, all the information, and i really couldnt do anything else.
you did a great job
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I'm so sorry, it's so painful to think of babies being circumcised (although much more so for them ) but even worse when it's someone in your own family to whom you gave the right information so they don't have the excuse of being ignorant.
My thoughts exactly.

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I've read on a nursing board that there is a connection with jaundice. Basically, the baby stops feeding, becomes dehydrated, and then develops jaundice.

Sorry that happened to your nephew. You did your best.

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So sad. I am sorry for him and for you. The level of disconnect for a mother to consent to this with full knowledge of what is really is....it boggles my mind. It's sad for her too because some day, she might be able to grasp the depth of it and the regret she will harbor will be yet another damage of circumcision. It saddens me greatly. I can only imagine how you feel having your sister do this. I am sorry.

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