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#1 of 13 Old 09-07-2010, 04:08 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My intact, 17-month DS has lately (past 3-4 days) been tugging quite a bit on his penis/scrotum. Around the house he generally wears either no bottoms, or cotton undies (he's potty trained), and it happens whether he's clothed or unclothed, so I don't think that's the issue.

He acts as though something is bothering him, and though he doesn't cry like it's actually painful, it could be itchy. His penis looks completely normal, no redness, discharge, etc. that I've seen.

Can anyone enlighten me as to what might be going on? We have a WCV coming up this week so I will run it past his ped, though to be honest I hate to even mention anything penis-related because I don't want to be worried about her trying to retract him. TIA!
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I don't know, but this happens with circumcised boys a lot at that age, too.

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This is completely normal behavior for boys- they need to tug in order to loosen the skin gradually. They then stretch it until some day it is completely retractible (with some boys this will happen when they are in puberty).

If you see redness or other signs that something might be wrong, please consult a doctor but usually it is just nature on its course.
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Totally normal behaviour. Once they get older you just have to teach them when it is appropriate. ie when alone. Both my boys would stretch out their foreskin until it was cringe worthy.

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Totally normal behaviour. Once they get older you just have to teach them when it is appropriate. ie when alone. Both my boys would stretch out their foreskin until it was cringe worthy.

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Males like to touch/adjust/play with their parts. If you watch a baseball game closely on TV, it is amazing how often the players adjust themselves (and that's in public.)

I would not mention it to the Dr, they often make mountains out of mole hills. This is perfectly normal.

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One of my sons really likes to grab and yank and twist during diaper changes. The other one likes to treat things a little more delicately, but I think it's pretty normal behavior for boys in this age range.

To quote George Costanza from Seinfeld, they do it "cause it's there".

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I'm pretty sure they do it because it feels good. Unfortunately, I was RICed, but as a kid I still loved handling my scrotum.

Didn't get over that.
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I would be really careful about mentioning it to a ped as they are unlikely to be comfortable & educated about intact little boys! I have two boys & they both tug & stretch their foreskin a lot. In fact, it seems my 3 year old's foreskin is already retractable because of the way he plays with it (I'm guessing?). But everytime I casually asked if it was hurting he assured me it was not, so I leave him to it!

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Totally normal behaviour. Once they get older you just have to teach them when it is appropriate. ie when alone. Both my boys would stretch out their foreskin until it was cringe worthy.
Ain't that the truth! I cringe for him!

Well thanks so much for the feedback. I wish he were verbal already so he could just tell me what's going on...but I will try to lay my mind to rest since it seems pretty normal. I do agree with PP that to mention it to the dr might create an issue where there is none. He is still tugging and grabbing a lot so I've been letting him sleep nude lately as it seems to make him happier having free and open access. Boys...go figure!
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My ds makes me cringe too. Oh well, he's a boy, and I'm guessing its fun to play with
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totally normal! it feels good, so why not?!
my daughter is thisclose to being an EC grad so she is also constantly bottomless around the house. She is ALWAYS playing with her vagina. ALWAYS. baths, storytime, with 1 hand while she 'cooks' at her kitchen set with the other... literally ALWAYS. I just make sure she washes her hands after she eats anything and don't mention it to her. I'll start teaching her fiddling ettiquite when she's old enough to understand that some things are only appropriate some places.

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I wish I could tell you how incredibly normal (and, IMHO, great!) this is.

I have FOUR intact boys, from 10 mos to 6 years. The oldest two, second son in particular, can stretch his foreskin for ... miles?? OK not, miles, but INCREDIBLY far. My DH, who is (sadly) cut, often marvels at it (in a positive way ... he is such an intactivist!)

I think that it's a part of the normal separation process, and part of learning about erogenous zones. NORMAL and GOOD. I would do nothing, and say nothing. Until such time as there is a glaring problem, there's no problem whatsoever. That approach has worked for me for a cumulative 12-child-years, and I'm stickin' with it

Honestly, my biggest issue ISN'T with my 4 intact and gorgeous sons ... my bigger issue is that I wish my DH hadn't been circ'd in England in the 70s. Pretty tight. He doesn't seem to notice, but I do...

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