last night my gf 8 month pregnant sister brought her pit bull over to our house, her mother told her the dog needs to get fixed before the baby, so talking about genital mutilation I asked if they decided what they would do about the penis she said they are going to circ. I tried to give her a few reasons not to but shes too hard headed and mainstream, but she was just talking about how she doesnt have equal bc its bad for the baby ( I wanted to comment on that but didnt) So I asked her if her or her husband would watch the circ. She said no thats too "sad". But i asked her if my gf (her sister) would possibly be able to observe that way she can be there to support the baby. She wasnt against it and said she would ask her dr. I think that would be good that way if the child is gna be mutilated my gf can see how awful it is and hopefully change her mind and save us a fight down the road. Then in 20 years i can tell their son his pain and loss was not in vain that some good came of it. Do you think that the hospital will allow my gf to observe the circ she will be there for the birth?
Most hospitals don't allow it, although I know people in my area who have watched.
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I would think that if the mom or dad wanted to go with the baby they'd allow that... my brother went with his son... came out saying it was the most awful thing ever, but that at least he "looks good." pffffttt. I don't think they should do circs without a parent present to witness what is happening to their child.
What she thinks she's wrong and I can't allow that to happen to my child. On my fathers side of
The family my gparents married in 1941 and no child on that side has ever been mutilated and
I certainly don't want to be the first.
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But you said you are intact, right? Do you suffer from all kinds of infections??? Sorry, I don't know how serious you and your girl friend are, if you really plan on having children one day. But this is one of the few things I would *not* budge on and I'd make that known in advance. There is no way in the world I would ever consider marrying or having children with someone hell bent on circumcising. It would definitely be a deal breaker to me.
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I really don't know what to tell you. I don't participate in this kind of thing. Dh knows not to tell me when babies-to-be-cut are born. I can't handle it. I can't sleep thinking about it. My nephew that I'll never know (my brother disowned me because I don't put up w/ his BS games) is going to be kicked out of his mother (repeat cesarean) on the 14th. I'm trying really hard to forget it. I'm pretty sure he'll be cut. I have to occupy my mind to not think about it. I couldn't go to the hospital & not say something. I tried when my brother had his first boy & I don't know what they decided to do. I imagine they just decided I was crazy. Funny, they're the crazy ones.
Anyway, personally, I'd stay away & try to get as few details as possible. But that's just how I protect myself.
the other part that makes me angry is they want everyone to get shots to protect the baby, I live w my gf and her mother so if they really want me to get it I will, But i have already made it clear to them thats it rediculous to get shots to protect the baby. So once the child is mutilated and brought home then its time to start protecting them. I really want my gf to watch the circ but i dont think she will. She will be over her house for the first few weeks helping with the baby so I think i want to stop by and see how bad the damage is and reinforce to my gf that this isnt happening to our child. I wish we could just have all girls!
Have to circ, I still would rather have girls. I told her when she holds this baby to ask herself
Is he perfect so hopefully that will reinforce it!
Sat night bc I wanted a pic w the whole baby but I realized I couldn't emotionally
Handle it, I went to the house to see him tonite when I was holding him he pooped his
Diaper and I got nervous bc I didn't want it to get his wound infected. They went to change
Him and I wanted to get a chance to see the damage but didnt get to I heard him scream for
20 minutes, then I saw a list on the counter that had only gauze and vasoline on it so I ran out without
Telling them and got them just bc I figured they weren't prepared. I'm just glad my gf finally caved
And said that we can keep our kids whole, I think I finally have shown her how awful
And unnecessary it is
thats SUPER that you could come to agreement like this before you have kids :) very wonderful!