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View Poll Results: Have you been with an intact male?
Yes - and I prefer it 60 50.00%
Yes - but it was gross 8 6.67%
No - and I prefer it that way 8 6.67%
No - but I want to 44 36.67%
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#1 of 78 Old 09-29-2004, 07:05 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm just wondering. Most people I know have never seen one and think that it's gross. I've been with an intact male and wish every day that DH was intact.

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never have been, but I would be more than happy to if DH decides to restore I used to do CNA work though and have seen intact men and I don't see anything gross about it at all and honestly it irritates me when anyone says an intact man is gross....
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I've never been with a circ'd man! I've never seen a circ'd man in real life. I've seen some babies and small children that were circ'd.
I had a friend in Jamaica that was Jewish, and the first time I saw her ds naked, I thought there was something horribly wrong with him, I thought he had a birth defect! Me in my ignorance actually asked what was wrong with him, and if they were going to perform surgery to correct it
It still looks so strange to me, I can't get used to it.
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i've never been an intact man, i never even saw an intact penis irl until ds.

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I've never been with a circ'd man! I've never seen a circ'd man in real life. I've seen some babies and small children that were circ'd.
Ditto for me.

I really am disturbed when I see a circ'd baby too. I really try not to change my friends' babies' diapers just so I don't have to think about what happened to them. It's given me nightmares in the past.

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Well, my dh is intact, and he's the only man I've been with, so I don't have anything to compare to sexually.

But I've seen circed little boys (my brothers were circed, all my cousins are circed, etc) and growing up, that was the 'norm'.

But I've never thought dh's penis was gross. I never even thought about the fact that he was intact, rather than circed. I only became an activist once I had ds, and realised that there were people out there who would cut off part of his penis if I let them.

Now that I know, I am very, very grateful (for any number of reasons! ) that dh is intact.
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I posted yes, it was gross, but not because his penis was gross. He was just small and didn't seem that sensitive.
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I voted no but I want to. But I don't really want to. My dh is circed and I never want to be with anyone else but him again. Having said that however, if I were single, I would love to have an experience with an intact man.

Confused yet? LOL

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My husband is intact. Call me stupid, but it took me a while to even figure out what was different about him...It's not in the least bit gross to me. This is the love of my life, everything about him was perfect in my eyes In fact, I think it actually makes things a bit more fun

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My husband is intact....and I love it. I have been with one other intact man too and it is definitely better with an intact man. I can't even really recall the others they were so forgetable. But these two...

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I have only been with circ'ed guys. I voted No and I prefer it that way. But thats only because I dont ever want to have sex with another man. So thats the option that fit me best.
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I have only been with my husband who is circ'd. I cant say i am overly curious to be with an intact man.

But, i have cared for many men who were intact, as a nurse, and i dont think its gross at all.
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I married my first- and he is intact (so is everyone else in my country) so I have no idea how circed men are, they gross me out just thinking about their unnatural, foreskin-less penises, YUCK.
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LMB, I understand that this is the Circ forum. So I am treading lightyly.

But i dont think its really nice of you to criticize my husbands penis, especially since he had no choice in the matter.
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LMB, I understand that this is the Circ forum. So I am treading lightyly.

But i dont think its really nice of you to criticize my husbands penis, especially since he had no choice in the matter.

I really don't think she is trying to critisize your husband (many of us have stated that our husbands are circ'ed, including my own) I really don't think this was aimed at your or meant to be offensive.
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I don't think either is gross. One as more skin then the other.
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Ok, I think I voted wrong.

i said "No, and I like it that way" because dh is circ'd and I don't want to be with anyone else. BUT after years of this, I should have bought stock in KY so, I would like to still be with dh, but it probably sould be better in bed for both of us if her were intact!

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Point taken, Tara.
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i have been with mainly intact men as intact is the norm here. the only guy i have slept with who was circ'd had it done as an adult as he had a prob with retracting. i think they were all fine and dandy!
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Those are the kind of things that are acceptable and normally said about intact men instead of circumcised men. While we are not *allowed* to complain about this treatment of intact men, it is often seen as politically incorrect to say the same things about circumcised men. That's just wrong. Those kind of things are very hurtful to intact men because it is so often stated with impunity and is "common knowledge" while circumcised men readily recognize that this is just the opinion of a single person and don't take it as offense. That clearly needs to change.




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Those are the kind of things that are normally said about intact men instead of circumcised men. While we are not *allowed* to complain about this treatment of intact men, it is often seen as politically incorrect to say the same things about circumcised men. That's just wrong. Those kind of things are very hurtful to intact men because it si so often stated and is "common knowledge" while circumcised men readily recognize that this is just the opinion of a single person and don't take it as offense. That clearly needs to change.




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exactly. ofcourse you wont say anything about an intact penis being called gross, sweetbaby. I keep my position of finding cut penises unnatural and yes, GROSS. I dont think your husband is, it's not a personal attack.
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How about "yes- no prefence"?

LMB- how about some tact? It shouldn't be said about any man and his penis, circ'd or uncirc'd. Nor should the same be said of women who have been forcively circ'd without their permission.

And Frank- "While we are not *allowed* to complain about this treatment of intact men" We certainly should be, and hopefully many of us DO speak out against such disgusting and hurtful comments.
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see it doesn't make sense. the poll options say "yes, and it's gross" but how come there isn't a "no, I would never because it's gross" option. unfair, if you ask me.
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and for like about the fifth time i didn't say any MAN WAS GROSS.
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I would venture that LMB meant that it wasn't the MAN who is disgusting, but a circ'd penis makes her think of the circumcision itself, how it is embedded in the American culture, how doctors practically force it on us, how everyone thinks it's NORMAL to cut baby boys.
THAT is disgusting.
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You said: They gross me out just thinking about their unnatural foreskin-less penises, YUCK.

We are talking about having been or not been intimate with an intact man.

I suppose we could split hairs and say she was talking about the penis and not the man, but the reality is the penis is attached to the man, and we are specifically talking about sex with an intact or not intact penis. So when she said "gross' and "yuck" one can assume she is referring to the whole person and not just the appendage.

That said, Frank, i agree with your pov.
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well, again, I was not referring to the man, I am referring to the penis. Let me explain... for example, let's say I was single, and dating a cut man. I would refuse to have sex with him even if I he were Brad Pitt. because, even though Brad Pitt is OH MY GOSH so cute, I would be grossed out by the penis. not the man. the penis. I feel terribly bad for what his mother did to him, I do. and I hope he gets over the trauma, I wish him the best, but would *I* sleep with him? NO.
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Probably TMI...

My first serious boyfriend was intact. There was definitely less chafing and he had a lot of staying power esp for a guy that age (16-19 while we were together). Unfortunately he wasn't particularly, ah, skilled so it's hard to make an objective comparison.
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Posted "Yes and prefer it"

But, you know, seriously folks, there is a person attached to the penis. An a$$h**e with a foreskin ( is that anatomically possible?) is still a creep. (Or would it be crepe-y?)



>cough< Sorry. I've gotten like my son who now, at an uncirc'ed 2.5 years says "poop" or "penis" and giggles uncontrollably. My mind is in the gutter.
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Something about this thread makes me sad...
LMB, I do see your point, and you're being very honest. But that's so sad that a hypothetical man is now repulsive to you because of something done to him as a baby.
But I can understand it, nevertheless.
To really see where you're coming from requires a streach of the imagination, though.
I have to think in terms of "Suppose I was a lesbian" (which is already pretty far out, but not inconcieveable)...and suppose I met a woman I liked immensely who immigrated to America from Africa when she was little. But she'd been circed before she got here.
Honestly, I think this would affect my attraction to her. It would just be terribly disturbing...
This might be shallow, but I wouldn't be able to help it.
Sad, sad, sad...
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