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Or "all the men you've loved before...."?

My DH is uncirc'd, he was born in Germany, his mother is British his dad is American. He says that his mother didn't even know what circ was when he was born.
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My husband is from France and he is not circ'ed.
My brother and father are from here and they are not circed either.

It was pretty easy for me to feel normal with not circ'ing my sons
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My husband is circumcised. In fact, I've never seen an adult intact penis (in real life - I have seen pictures of them).

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My DH is intact.

He was a month preemie. I wonder sometimes whether his mama would have cut him if he were born full term. His elder brother is cut. His two younger brothers are intact, but there is a 4 year difference between he and his younger brother and a 10 year difference between he and his youngest brother.

At any rate, I'm very happy he has a normal penis. I would never have considered circumsizing my son, so I feel we've avoided issues about that because it's always been a "given" what we'd do.
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My dh is, as was every other man I have known.

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My husband is cut....but my ex-boyfriend was not....
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DH is circ'ed and it took very little research on his part to decide not to circ our DS. I truly admire him for being secure enough in himself that he didn't need his son to "look like his daddy."
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My dp is American and is circ'ed, my previous partners were not circ'ed (from the UK). It was not even a conversation when ds2 was born, my dp has no need to have his son be "like" him.
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My babydaddy is not cut.
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mine is...he wanted to circ in the beginning but was swayed due to the baby not having pain relief...plus it not being his choice. If for some crazy reason the babe want's to be circ'd as an adult, I told him I'd pay for it!
At least then it would be his choice as an informed adult.

I've never seen an intact male IRL, my "baby daddy" is the only person I"ve had intercourse with...when I "hooked up" with people in my younger years they were all circ'd....

I think it is getting a lot more common to leave babies intact, so when our children are adults it won't seem out of place!!

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yes, he is cut...but has started to restore...

oldest boy is cut, the youngest two are not...

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my dh is circ'ed. we have a son due in late dec./early jan. and he will NOT be circ'ed-my dh is as adamently against it as I am.

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baby daddy yes, handful of ex boyfriends no, handful of ex boyfriends yes
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My partner is, and my oldest son's dad is, and every man whose penis I've seen has been.
But not my boys or most of the little boys I know.
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My DH is. His is the only I've ever seen...

He's talked about restoring, and we even bought a tugger...but he doesn't use it. Honestly, I don't think he likes to try, since it is a CONSTANT reminder of what he is missing.
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Yes he is, and he's the only guy I've ever been with.
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Yep. He is circ'd. In fact, the only intact penis I have seen is my 2 boys.
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Mine is, but not too happy about it. Cutting our son was never a consideration.
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nope, mine is intact.

not that you asked about siblings but both my bro's are intact too my mom is a very anti-circ midwife and I just got lucky and married someone who was not circ'd so it was never an issue when our 3 boys were born.

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I've never been with an intact man. If I had only known when I was younger...
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DH is circ'd. I haven't had sex with anyone else, so I can't compare. I am a nurse, and have seem MANY penis's. It's rare I see an intact one. But they are usually much older men that I see. I have no idea what is common in other age groups.
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Nope, he's intact. Born in MN, fwiw.
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I really hate the term babydaddy. I'm not 17!

Anyhow, my child father isn't. I'm not sure why-most of the guys his age (mid 50's) I've been with have been circumsized.

I don't care either way.

Oh, I have a daughter, but I would not have had a son circumsized.
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DH is intact. His mom was paying the hospital bill out of pocket and saw no reason to add the procedure thank God. DS is intact too, we didn't see a single reason to bother with the surgery, wound, and loss of a body part for him either.
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My husband is circumcised. In fact, I've never seen an adult intact penis (in real life - I have seen pictures of them).
Same here.

Luckily, once I showed my Dh what I learned about circ, he said that he couldn't believe guys would "pull the 'our son needs to look like me' BS!" That made me very happy to hear! He was adopted, so he doesn't blame his parents for it (and his parents don't seem so keen on it after I showed them articles and resources as to why we weren't cutting our son).

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My dh is British and intact. We live in Scotland, so circ was never on the cards.

I'd never even thought about it until ds was about 3 weeks old and I was talking to an American friend - who asked me if we'd had him circed.

That's when I started looking into it (my immediate was reaction was - why in the world would we do that?), and I've been an intactivist ever since.

DH is the only man I've been with, so I can't compare first hand experiences. But when I compare my experience of sex with my friends' experiences (all my friends I can 'talk sex' with are American and have circ'ed husbands) - I am very, very thankful that I was lucky enough to marry an intact Brit (DH is great for many other reasons as well!).
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My husband is circumcised. In fact, I've never seen an adult intact penis (in real life - I have seen pictures of them).
Yep mine too. My brother is intact but I have never seen him, and I really wouldn't care to. :
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XH and BF are both circumcised. When I told XH I didn't want to have our (future) child circumcised, he just shrugged and said ok. It was never any big deal for him. I've shared a lot of info with BF about circ and he is definitely behind not circ'ing. He's not restoring, but considering it.

I have been with one intact person. There is definitely a difference.

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Yes - not as an infant, but as part of hypospadias surgery when he was a toddler. I had never seen an intact penis in real life until DS.
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Yes, his was as an infant against his will :.

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