For me it is still easier to nurse them separately, but I am still trying to nurse them together, working on positions.
I try to focus on the good things: 2 happy nurslings, great milk supply, etc. ...
Liv, SAHM of 3 kiddos
The last time DD nursed, my water broke(11/9). She has latched on about twice since then, but no real nursing. It is like she forgot how to nurse. I am soooo ok with her being done. And she seems fine with it as well.
always missing our (11/04, 4/07, 8/07, 5/10)
Dd 1 has been asking a lot more since dd 2 came on the scene last week. The first few days I didn't try to limit it because I wanted her to accept the new baby at the breast and feel like she was welcome too. The last few days, though, I'm trying to limit it to what it was before dd 2 arrived which was after waking up in the morning and after the nap (2x a day). It seems to be working pretty well, but that time is so hard for me. Because positioning is tough with a newborn on the other breast, I'm getting lots of teeth marks on my nipples from dd 1. I always have to encourage her to break off and she always asks for "just a little more." Then we count to ten for the second round. I'm hoping to stick with this routine and hopefully get somewhere. It's really hard mentally to nurse a GIGANTIC child (at least that's what she seems like to me). I've got really mixed feelings about it. I really want her to wean on her own, but at the same time, SHE'S HUGE!
For positions I have found that it is best to latch on the newborn in the positon that works best for them. For us it was the cradle hold. then allow the toddler to latch. Several ways that works is: while sitting in a chair have the toddler standing next to you and nursing, while laying down w/ the newborn the toddler can latch over top, if sitting on the couch the toddler can lay across the couch kindof like a football hold just w/ a big kid, or you can have them both in the cradle hold w/ the baby on the toddlers lap. That was always a favorite for my kiddos.
When I tandemed for the first time I nursed them both at the same time all the time and it worked ok for us. I finally started limiting ds1 when ds2 was about 5months old (I waited too long for us). When I tandemed the second time It didn't feel right (kind of gave me the chills) to nurse them both at the same time so I would alternate and tried to limit ds2. I found to avoid tantrums the best thing to do was to allow ds2 to nurse first to the count of 10 and then after the baby was done. That worked well for us.
When I started tandeming the first time ds1 was 22.5 months
When I started the second time ds2 was 32 months.
This time ds3 will be 24 months
Good job to everyone that is keeping up w/ this. It isn't always easy. Eat plenty and drink lots of water.
nicole , mom to 3 boys here on earth 9, 7 and 4.5 and 2 girl's 2.5 and 10/16/11. Always remembering my babies in heaven: Sam (9/7/05) at 12.5 wks , Morgan (2/13/06) at 6 wks , Emeric (8/9/10 at 17 wks) and Pepper (11/26/10) at 8wks.
Thanks for the encouragement theboysmama