I guess everything is relative - to me, 2 hours of sleep straight would be nice!! LOL. How sad is that?!?!?! I rarely get that - Isabelle is one of those babies who would stay latched on 24/7 if she could! At night, she typically nurses in shorter, more frequent spurts as opposed to longer, less frequent nursings. So she probably nurses for 5-10 minutes out of every hour during the night. Yet somehow, I don't really feel sleep-deprived. Maybe I'm just used to it because I've been nursing at least one baby/child for more than 6 years now - I think it's harder to adjust at first, but your body eventually gets used to it - I remember feeling much more sleep-deprived with my first baby, even though she went several hours between nursings, just because the whole interrupted-sleep thing was so new, KWIM?
So, arismama, you said your mw said you look
tired, but how do YOU actually feel? If you feel OK, I wouldn't worry or analyze too much. If you're so exhausted you can't function, that's different. But if it's not too much of an issue for you, then I wouldn't worry about what is "average" or what other people's babies are doing, KWIM?
Anyway, ITA with the advice of NOT looking at the clock! It's much better when you don't know what time it is/how long you've been sleeping. I try not to look myself, but I'm usually tempted. And I'm admittedly an extremist on this
, but I never do bottles or pacifiers, ever (don't even own any of either). That's just me, though - if someone else were feeding my DD, I wouldn't be able to sleep anyway because it would just feel wrong to me to be separated from her at all (at this age anyway).
So this is why I love co-sleeping so much - I may be nursing on and off all night, but I don't need to wake up fully - most of the night I just leave my shirt up and latch her on while half-asleep, so even though I know she's "waking" me every hour or so, I don't feel like I'm being awakened really, if that makes any sense. I get into bed with some diapers & wipes and a glass of water on my nightstand, and I don't get out of bed for like 10 hours or so, so I feel more rested than I would expect to, knowing how much she nurses at night.
Incidentally, this is how most babies nurse in traditional societies - I learned this when becoming an LLL Leader - when they study mom/baby pairs in cultures that are not influenced by modern media, etc., they find that the babies nurse much more often, but for shorter times, than we typically see in industrialized societies. So maybe the 2-3 hour thing isn't really the "norm" after all...
ETA that I'm not judging anyone who does pump/give a bottle to get more sleep - didn't want it to sound like that. I did try that with my first, and decided it was actually harder for me than just rolling over and nursing her myself!! I also have oversupply though, so for me, going 4 hours without nursing would be painful anyway and I'd probably wake up from engorgement and leaking!