Strange Situation - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 12:58 AM - Thread Starter
 
PookieMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Missouri
Posts: 1,084
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Okay, I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right spot. If I'm not, feel free to move me.

Well....here's my situation. Right now, I'm seeing a wonderful doctor at my local hospital that doesn't allow vbac. He thinks I'll be transfering to The Birthing Center two hours away and is totally okay with it. This will be my second vbac. I have a Doula who is working to become a midwife, when midwifery becomes legal in my state. Right now it's not. My options are:

*Go to a birthing center two hours away
*Go to a vbac hospital 45 minutes away with bad reputation
*Go to local hospital 10 minutes away when dilated to 8 or 9 and hope for the best
*Stay home
*Wait and see how I feel when the time comes.

I'm leaning toward staying home (or at least waiting to see how I feel). Does anyone have a link to a nice handy list of what I'll need on hand, just in case. I feel I need to be prepared for anything.

I would love to hear everyone's opinion on my situation. I'm very new to this but right now the thought of getting in a car and driving anywhere while in labor makes me cringe. I think that's a good sign that my body's saying, "stay home!!!" I think I'm going to go ahead and post this in "homebirth" and "UC" also.

Thanks in advance! Please, any comments welcome!

In love with the Hubs (6-03) & : Kookie Pookie Girl (c/s 5-05) & Bouncy Big Boy (vbac 2-07) & : Miss Cheeky Cheeks (hbac 11-08) 100*90* 100lbs = Las Vegas : Almost there!
PookieMom is offline  
#2 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 10:19 AM
 
semomama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: outside Springfield, MO
Posts: 176
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't know that I would be comfortable with at all with the first three options. If you really wanted to do the Birth Center, maybe you could drive and get a hotel as soon as early labor starts. It is always just so iffy though. With staying home, I lean towards wanting support. If your doula felt comfortable assisting you, that would be something. Or, have you checked to see if there are any lay-midwives in your area? I'm in SW MO and having a homebirth in Nov. PM if you're in my area and have questions. Otherwise, you can contact Friends of Missouri Midwives to see if there are any around you. I wish you the best as you make your plans.
semomama is offline  
#3 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 01:06 PM
 
AugustineM's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Whidbey Island, WA
Posts: 3,161
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I would stay away from any unsupportive hospital. Really any hospital, but that's just me!!

I personally am fairly comfortable with the idea of UC -- I guess it all depends on how you feel about that. I think that each woman knows how she feels for herself, and what she is comfortable with. So, you could always plan that and be prepared and then see how it goes while you're in labor and have a backup plan. There is a sticky at the top of the UC forum for supplies you neeed, I think. There's also a sitcky at the top of the homebirth forum, I believe.

I second the idea from stephanie about looking around for lay midwives. I have a friend in Kansas City who used a lay midwife for her homebirth vbac and loved her. If you look around you can usuallly find someone who works under the radar.... you could try posting in FYT.

Mama to 3 kids. We live in a yurt!
AugustineM is offline  
#4 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 03:20 PM
 
nurnur's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Pacific NW
Posts: 996
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
I think whats important is to follow your gut, sounds like staying home is where it is leading you right now and I understand having lots of things come up to work thru when this becomes the path. My last birth was my first vbac...after 2csecs. In the beginning homebirth was not even on the radar, I didn't really have a clue about MW in my state and just figured that they could all deliver at the hospital, but as I turned over all the stones and learned everything I did, not just about birth and the logistics but also about myself I found that homebirth was my path. It was such a journey, by the end, after thinking and working everything thru there was no way I would birth anywhere else. It sounds like maybe your doula would be the perfect support (hopefully Im not reading too much into your post) as she has experience/knowledge in MW as well. Follow your intuition. I have seen lots of supply lists on the UC board, I will try to dig one of mine up too.
nurnur is offline  
#5 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 03:36 PM
 
Katielady's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Living in a van down by the river
Posts: 2,048
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I agree with what some of the OPs have said- sounds like your gut is telling you to stay home, and that might be the best option for you. You could always transfer to the local hospital if at any point you feel you need to.

Good luck!

SAHM to 6.5yo DS and 4yo DD. PCOS with two early m/cs. Married 8 yrs. Certified birth doula, writer, editor.

Some stuff I like: hbac.gifteapot2.GIFeat.gifnocirc.gifbftoddler.giffemalesling.GIFcrochetsmilie.gif read.gifcat.gif

Katielady is offline  
#6 of 6 Old 05-28-2008, 11:35 PM
 
Bella Catalina's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: L.A.
Posts: 1,633
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I would lean towards asking your doula to assist you if she's comfortable, or finding a mw in your area. You have an OB for now, and as long as you are comfortable with knowing things are going as planned, I say trust your instincts, mama!

write@home mama to big boy (04-06) and little boy (10-08)
and someone new in november stork-suprise.gif

Bella Catalina is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off