Got my first "twins" comment - Mothering Forums
Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 14 Old 10-04-2008, 08:47 PM - Thread Starter
 
Mrs-Mama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Newport News, VA
Posts: 2,603
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I got my first "twins" comment tonight. We were leaving a restaurant and one of the hostesses asked me:

Hostess: How many months are you?
Me: Eight months.
Hostess: Really? And it's just one?
Me: Yeah, just one.
Hostess: Oh...boy or girl?
Me: Girl.

Disclaimer: I am 8 months pregnant...I am not (nor should I be) small.

The thing that annoyed me the most about it all was how her jaw hit the floor when I told her it was just one. Give me a break. I've gained 27 pounds (average) and I'm nearly 36 weeks pregnant :

I started getting asked about twins about a week or so before DS was born, so maybe this is the end?

Wife to J, SAHM to W (03/06) ribboncesarean.gif at 32w4d, C (10/08) ribboncesarean.gif, and H (02/11) ribboncesarean.gif

Mrs-Mama is offline  
#2 of 14 Old 10-04-2008, 10:33 PM
 
slinginhipmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Webster NY
Posts: 814
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh, yes...I know all about "twin" comments. I even asked my Dr. how I was measuring (maybe I was big??) and he said right on target and looked alittle puzzled as to why I've asked two appt in a row. Then I explained about how everyone is saying how big I am and how I couldn't possibly be carrying just one. His advice was this "You have one of two options, you can just smile and say "My doctor says I'm measuring perfect" or I can kick them in the groin!" haha I love my Doctor!

Tara--mama to Riley (9/01) Nolan (4/04) and Finnegan (11/08). Unschooling Rocks!!!
slinginhipmama is offline  
#3 of 14 Old 10-04-2008, 11:19 PM
 
littlehalo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Posts: 168
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Welcome to the club. I have been getting those comments for at least 2 months now. And I've only gained 10 pounds this whole pregnancy.

Someone suggested to me that maybe not many women are out and about their last month or two of pregnancy. So the general population doesn't really realize how big women get when they are close to term. It's because we're all hiding at home with our big bellies!

Quoteriginally Posted by littlehaloSAHMama to Dylan 08/12/05 & Delia 11/04/08 , and
littlehalo is offline  
#4 of 14 Old 10-05-2008, 02:28 AM
 
two bricks shy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Austin, Tx
Posts: 332
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
gosh...why do people say that?!!

I've decided that most people just don't know how to say "congratulations" and leave it alone. They usually decide to just open their mouth and insert their foot by coming up with some really uncalled for comment.

I've decided that all people should be required to tell obviously pregnant woman that they are beautiful.
two bricks shy is offline  
#5 of 14 Old 10-05-2008, 09:56 AM
 
Sativarain1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: Pacific Northwest
Posts: 1,872
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
It's so frusterating isn't it? I literally get these type of comments everytime I go anywhere. It's to the point where I don't want anyone commenting on me or my belly at all anymore. I wish people would be more considerate.

"If you truly love nature, you will find beauty everywhere." -Vincent Van Gogh
Sativarain1 is offline  
#6 of 14 Old 10-05-2008, 10:02 AM
 
BookishVonLiberal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 681
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
You'd think someone in a job that is dependent on customer satisfaction would have a LITTLE bit of sense.
BookishVonLiberal is offline  
#7 of 14 Old 10-06-2008, 10:21 AM
 
mochimama's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Colorado Mountains
Posts: 1,040
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have gotten the twins comment several times. I agree with littlehalo that people just don't know what a full-term mom looks like (or an 8 month mom). Let's get out there ladies and educate these people!
mochimama is offline  
#8 of 14 Old 10-06-2008, 11:38 AM
 
titania8's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: flint, mi
Posts: 1,368
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
you know what's funny? the other day a friend of mine looked at me and said "i can totally tell you are only having one this time!" it was hilarious.

and what's more, i only got the "twins" question one time when i was actually pg with twins, and it was from another twin mama. she recognized the enormity for what it was. :

i like the idea of telling pg mamas they are beautiful. i may start doing that.

~helen~ mama to 5 yo twins jonas and micah and my 2 yo baby boy eli
titania8 is offline  
#9 of 14 Old 10-06-2008, 05:29 PM
 
BundleFishMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Philadelphia suburbs
Posts: 1,515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh my gosh, I can so relate....this past weekend we were at our niece's baby's baptism, and a woman who had just held our niece's newborn came up to me and said, "And now when is this one due?" I said, "Next month." And she looks me up and down and sort of snort-laughs and says, "Really? Looks more like last month to me!"

I think if we hadn't been in church I would not have been able to resist saying something nasty. LOL.

I am well aware that I look huge for barely 33 weeks. But I always look huge, I carry all out in front like a basketball, and this is my 4th baby in 6 years, so give me a break!

Kerriintactlact.gif blessed single mama to Teresa 8/2/02blahblah.gif, Madeleine 5/28/04dust.gif, Andrew 6/25/06jammin.gif, and Isabelle ribboncesarean.gif11/27/08energy.gif

BundleFishMama is offline  
#10 of 14 Old 10-06-2008, 09:03 PM
 
CheriK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: central valley, California
Posts: 442
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh, goodness I've been hearing this forever. Last time, it WAS twins, so people who know me keep insisting it's another set (especially since we've been very low-intervention this pregnancy and didn't have an US until quite late). I've got almost 2 months left and am now having complete strangers make these comments (Them: "You must be due any day now!" Me: "End of next month." Them: "Are you sure there's only one?!?").

If it's any consolation, last time when I WAS carrrying two, people stopped asking the "when are you due"-type questions and just immediately said "you must be having twins!".

Cheri
fencing.gifDD and DS are 11 & toddler.gif DD is 4    hbac.gif  Our car is a bike!bikenew.gif

Sharing our homeschool.gifwith 3cat.gif, 2 dog2.gif & 4 chicken3.gif

CheriK is offline  
#11 of 14 Old 10-07-2008, 01:15 AM
 
erynw's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 115
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I had someone at Costco say, "You can't possibly get any bigger" when I said I had almost two months left.

I agree with a PP that people just don't know what to say (as if "Congratulations!" isn't enough) so say something, which generally makes the mama feel bad.

Equally as bad (although I've never had this comment, only overheard it said to others) is when people comment on how small a pregnant women is for how far along she is. As if we don't have enough to worry about without people insinuating our babes aren't growing enough (or too much, whatever the case may be).

I like to tell pregnant women that they look perfect and are just the right size!
erynw is offline  
#12 of 14 Old 10-08-2008, 03:18 AM
 
Bella Catalina's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: L.A.
Posts: 1,633
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
The nerve of some people! I seem to be tiny this time compared to many, but some people just have no idea. I take it all with a grain of salt now... one person implies I'm huge (like the lady in Target a few weeks back who said "Wow, you're about to pop, huh?" - I just smiled and nodded cause I was dealing with a testy toddler, but I had like 7 or 8 weeks left) and then another will turn around and say I'm tiny... Whatever lol. I'm just happy no one has tried to touch my belly

write@home mama to big boy (04-06) and little boy (10-08)
and someone new in november stork-suprise.gif

Bella Catalina is offline  
#13 of 14 Old 10-08-2008, 05:07 PM
 
raek622's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: NY
Posts: 26
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've decided that the next person that says "you're going to have a really big baby" is going to have their intestines pulled out of their mouth and tied around their necks. (Especially when that person is a man who has never been and will never be pregnant.)
raek622 is offline  
#14 of 14 Old 10-08-2008, 10:06 PM
 
slinginhipmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Webster NY
Posts: 814
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by raek622 View Post
I've decided that the next person that says "you're going to have a really big baby" is going to have their intestines pulled out of their mouth and tied around their necks. (Especially when that person is a man who has never been and will never be pregnant.)
laughup so true!

Tara--mama to Riley (9/01) Nolan (4/04) and Finnegan (11/08). Unschooling Rocks!!!
slinginhipmama is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off