my son was 4 when we went to my friend's birth and her daughter was 3 and they were so over it after like 2 seconds, they wanted to go play! my son, now age 7, remembers the birth as being "weird and disgusting and why was andy wiping maari's butt?", lol. he certainly wasn't scared as far as i could tell, he was just not interested.
i have arranged to have my dad come over and hang out with DS age 7 and DSS age 6 and DSS age 7.5 if they are awake and if they are even here- we have shared custody so it's very possible none of the kids will be here. i might call my son's dad and have him bring over DS if i am in labour during the day and he is at his dad's house cause i want him to meet his sister asap. i have been watching homebirth movies on YouTube with DSS age 6 who is very interested in it all but the other two could care less.
my midwives said their experience with kids at birth is that kids usually find it ammusing and boring. kids don't think of it as a big deal like us adults because they really have no context for it, people are just born, ya know? they hopefully havent heard lots of drama and scary stuff about birth yet so they really just see it as it is; a natural bodily function that is hard work for mom and not all that interesting for them!
oh, one thing my midwives said is that it seems like birth often or almost always happens in the middle of the night and then they kids wake up instinctively just as the baby is coming out.
RT knitting mama to 3 (& 8 who didn't make it) wife working on 13 years to a silly man who drives me crazy.
write@home mama to big boy (04-06) and little boy (10-08)
and someone new in november
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Kelly, married to the love of my life, Den , DD1 5/07 , 11/07, DD2 10/08 , DDS 8/10, expecting our next blessing this winter!
In terms of preparation, we answer his questions as they arise, talk about what will happen, read books and talk about his homebirth.
Some other things we are planning to do as my EDD approaches: watch birth videos, role play, look at photos from his birth and just continue to treat it like the natural miracle it truly is!