Now I'm home (still uncomfortable) wishing I could rest or at least soak in the bathtub (but ours sucks for taking baths). I want to go into labor. I want to not be pregnant. I want to hold my baby in my arms. I don't even care that I'm having a c/s at this point; I just want her out.
Thanks for listening.
Wife to J, SAHM to W (03/06) at 32w4d, C (10/08) , and H (02/11)
Any chance of being able to get a prenatal massage? I still need to schedule mine, but it sounds like that might help you unwind a bit. They are every bit as good as that hot bath imo.
RT knitting mama to 3 (& 8 who didn't make it) wife working on 13 years to a silly man who drives me crazy.
And we are joyfully awaiting a new addition in April 2011! <><
I"m so sorry. I know just how you feel. I seriously think it's all part of our culture not honoring and respecting women's fertility and ability to grow a baby and give birth. It's miraculous and powerful and mystical. But it's so rarely treated that way...instead, it's turned into a big joke. Look at how many sitcom plots center around childbirth- haha, she's screaming for an epidural, hee, now she's yelling at her husband! Everything focuses on pregnant women being huge and awkward and volatile, and how funny that apparently is. Well, it can be funny, but it's also incredibly intense and important and just a very heavy time in a person's life.
I'm big on having a sense of humor, but I *hate* being laughed at when I'm upset or feeling vulnerable. I think it's so mean when people see a pregnant woman get emotional, and instead of their heart just going out to her, they laugh. It isn't right!
Anyway, I'm sorry you're feeling so miserable, and I hope you get some comfort and relief soon.
SAHM to 6.5yo DS and 4yo DD. PCOS with two early m/cs. Married 8 yrs. Certified birth doula, writer, editor.
Some stuff I like:
My mom is not one to give any sympathy, so I totally understand how you felt in that moment. I must have never gotten it as a child because I STILL tell her things looking for her understanding, yet mostly get told that I'm doing things wrong or that every other person in my situation has been fine and survived without complaining nearly as much as me. It's been a frustrating relationship.
I hope the laughing was just a one time thing for her and that she gives you understanding more often than not.
Hang in there--just a few more weeks!
My mother and I don't get along whatsoever and her generally negative, selfish attitude and ability to make everything about her have kept me from talking to her more than was strictly necessary for the duration of this pregnancy. She and my father are coming to visit a few weeks after my EDD and I'm already dreading it.
Hang in there, mama. For what it's worth, I'm 38 weeks tomorrow and so ready to have this baby I almost can't stand it any longer. Knowing that it could be four more weeks is making me feel a bit crazy and emotional.
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw