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#1 of 10 Old 10-25-2008, 01:21 AM - Thread Starter
 
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So... I'm wondering... I realistically know there is no way to be sure, but what has me really worried is tearing... I tore pretty extensively with my first delivery and am wondering how likely that is to affect my tearing again with this upcoming one?

Granted, I was on my back with the first (my choice, was actually most comfortable) and the pushing stage was really fast and intense, and so I know there are things to work with... but...

how likely is already having scar tissue going to affect things?

Anyone out there tear with their first but not their second?

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Anyone out there tear with their first but not their second?
Yes! My first was 8lbs 5oz and was born after 3 hours of pushing, and I tore. My second was 9lbs 5oz and was born after 10 minutes of pushing... with no tears.

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With my first I had a small tear, and with my second they placed one stitch.

I think you are less likely to tear with the second and subsequent children, but it can still happen. I have a friend who was 3rd degree with both first and second. It's probably a pretty individual thing.

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I was just talking to my dr about this and he said that while there are things you can do to minimise it (ie slower pushing stage, positioning etc) in his experience it's kind of a crap shoot. I am also worried about this as I had a 3rd degree with my first (super long labour but pushed him out in 10 mins) and have scar tissue. He said it can stretch and there's no reason it would necessarily happen again but that if I do tear it's likely to be in the same place due to the scar tissue.
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i was just reading about this subject in ina may's guide last night. she says she has never seen any tearing in a mama who was engorged. and one way of getting to that state is to stimulate the clit. i'll take a second look later when i get a chance to see what else she had to say about it.

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Titania, I'm reading that book now so I'll look that up!

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Im a little worried about this as well. I had so much tearing and so many stitches with DD.. However, DD did come out with her hand beside her head which I guess isn't a good birth position. Im hoping that its not that bad this time.

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I am planning a waterbirth this time, and aiming to birth on my hands and knees. Obviously that may not happen, I will go with what my body is telling me to do at the time, but I am hoping that I don't tear again. I'd also like to try the engorgement theory

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I hear perineal stretching before labor is really beneficial, too... I liked the mantra the one lady did in Ina May's book -- she just kept repeating to herself "I'm gonna get huge, I'm gonna get huge..." and she did... I might just have to try that, too!
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I hear perineal stretching before labor is really beneficial, too... I liked the mantra the one lady did in Ina May's book -- she just kept repeating to herself "I'm gonna get huge, I'm gonna get huge..." and she did... I might just have to try that, too!
yes! i loved that!

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