DH came home from taking the older boys to the river, and tells me MIL (who is our childcare while we are working) has told him FIL is mad that we aren't vaxing (either prior or post-illness - why would we vax after getting the sickness?!?) and says our kids can't be over at their house anymore. Fortunately, MIL is willing to come to our house to watch DS2 & 3.
It just ticks me off - FIL had his chance to raise his kids, he doesn't get to tell us how to raise ours. His loss if he doesn't want to spend time with his grandkids; he wasn't doing much of that to begin with. I had a m/c last year, and not long before I m/c, his response to DH about the pregnancy was that DH should have gotten fixed, that we have too many kids (5 now). Never mind that he wasn't great to DH growing up either, telling him to either move out or drop out of high school to support himself. Too bad his almighty vaccinations won't be able to keep him safe from my overwhelmingly sick kiddos.
And for the record, I think I would rather have whooping cough myself than asthma attacks! My biggest concern was for my DS3 being so young. Beyond that, it hasn't scared me as much as it had before we had to deal with it!
FIL is now allowing the kids to go ahead and be there again starting tomorrow, but "the immunization thing really bothered him. It bothered a lot of people..." MIL means well, I know she does.... but I'm capable of raising my kids.
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If the people let government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as are the souls of those who live under tyranny." Thomas Jefferson.