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#31 of 35 Old 10-13-2010, 06:01 PM - Thread Starter
 
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If your kids are still having coughing spells, even mild ones, it's probably best to stay away from newborns anyway, regardless of anyone's vaccine status.
I know I've said this already, but I want to make it clear I have no intention of bringing my children around anyone's newborn as long as they are coughing. Like I said we have other friends who live nearby with a new baby (born in July) and we haven't even seen that baby because we're waiting until the cough is completely gone. I only mentioned the cough because I think it was whoopin cough and once they are totally well then it isn't really different then being around a vaxed kid. Otherwise the situation has nothing to do with the cough, as the baby in question isn't even born yet. I was originally just afraid that they wouldn't want to see us for the next year or more because of our vax status, and since that is no longer the case, I'm feeling much better about the situation

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There have been 10 reported infant deaths due to pertussis in California this year. I think the parents are doing the right thing. This is a choice you made, and if the tables were turned I'm sure you'd want your wishes respected.
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Your friends are making a reasonable request, and it's nothing personal. No, you don't need to change anything you're doing. Just wait until their baby has a stronger immune system (in about 2 months) & has been immunized, and then you could visit. Just say, "I understand, no problem", send a card, and talk on the phone. A newborn is highly vulnerable, and there is the potential of transmission even in those who appear asymptomatic. Respect their wishes w/out getting offended or second-guessing yourself.

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This is a choice you made, and if the tables were turned I'm sure you'd want your wishes respected.
Read the entire thread. She never said she was going over with her children and a battering ram.

"It should be a rule in all prophylactic work that no harm should ever be unnecessarily inflicted on a healthy person (Sir Graham Wilson, The Hazards of Immunization, 1967)."
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Read the entire thread. She never said she was going over with her children and a battering ram.
Best mental picture ever- Smiling, waving family with a basket of new baby gifts and a giant battering ram wielded by a team of Vikings...
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