We have a set of friends that are fun to hang around with but I don’t really like to talk about my lifestyle with them since they are very medical people. The guy is studying to be a doctor. So we had them over for supper a couple weeks ago and I never in a million years thought vaccines would come up but what do I know lol.
About half way through dinner, he asked what the well baby visit schedule is like. I said we went at 3 days because of the homebirth then at 4 weeks, 8 weeks and 6 months. He asked why we skipped the 4 month visit because a lot of vaccines are given during that one. I said that we were scheduled wrong to avoid the topic and at the exact same time my proud DH said “We don’t vaccinate!” My mind started racing and I was trying to rack my brain for any info I can remember.
The guy asked why we didn’t vaccinate and my DH told him there were too many vaccines on the schedule and we aren’t comfortable with that. He explained when we were kids, we only got 10 doses and now, kids get 36 doses before age 5. The girl then asked if we were home schooling because DS can’t go to school without vaccines. I said that is a common myth and that you can get an exemption if you feel your personal beliefs go against vaccinating. She was very annoyed because she just signed up to go back to school after a 10 year break and had to get 2 or 3 shots to get in. She said if she had known that, she would not have gotten the shots. I just pointed out the fact that vaccines are not well researched and we do not feel comfortable with the ingredients. I then gave them my little “anti-vax” business cards that have the ingredients on one side and a few resources on the other. They were very surprised and thanked me saying they would for sure check out these resources because they had no idea about anything we were telling them!!!
The guy then asked if we could go to another country to get the “important” ones like polio and MMR so we wouldn’t mess up our exemption. I said that we technically could go but we really aren’t worried about these diseases and gave some reasons why.
I am so happy to have such a civil conversation with a med student. I didn’t expect it and I am so happy that he asked now because I got to expose him to a view he has never seen.
Has this ever happened to anyone? I was fully expecting a heated discussion once it came up and instead, they were all ears and even thanked me. I honestly believe he will look at the sources and look further into this issue.