Congratulations on coming to the right decision!
My dd stopped vaccinating her son at age 15 mo. and never took him to the ped again. She was so pissed off at him for telling her such stupid things that the child will die without vaccines, etc. Her son is now 10 yo and is perfectly healthy and has never seen another doctor.
I have two more grandchildren (different dd) and they were not vaccinated right from the start. They are 2 and 4 and have seen a ped maybe 3 times altogether and that most more to be nice to the ped since he is a friend. LOL
Social services have no right to talk to you about vaccines. That is outside of their jurisdiction. And you don't ever have to talk to them should they come to your house for any reason whatsoever.
This is your child. You and your dh have the right to decide what is right for your child.
No state has the power to overrule that. We do not live in a police state. You don't have to be afraid. And don't believe anyone who tells you differently.
The only thing the state requires is that you vaccinate the child before the child goes to school. But the government also recognizes that there are people who oppose vaccines for various reasons and therefore they put vaccine exemptions in place. The exemptions are philosophicla/religious based but the religion is not defined. It can be as loose as a home religion or a personal/philosophical belief that guides you to be against injecting your child. Basically it's up to the parents.
You do not have to home school in order to avoid vaccines. We use a religious exemption although we are not religious in the way most people consider it, and my grandson goes to a regular public school. No problem.If I were you, I would cancel the appointment. There is no need to take a healthy child to a doctor.
Those wbv are mostly just to give vaccines. When you don't want to vaccinate and you tell the doctor, he will most likely tell you to either don't bother coming in or he will see you when you need him and treat you as a "new patient" each time. That's what the ped of my grandchildren does. (Maybe this way it doesn't mess up his perfect record of vaccinating all his patients for his Pharma bonuses.)
If you do go and the ped gives you a paper to sign relinquishing him of all liability, take it home with you to read thoroughly before you sign it. You can always bring it back. DD did and threw it away.
He never asked her again. lolYou do not owe the ped an explanation of your decisions.
Simply state the fact that you will no longer be vaccinating. Don't let him persuade you in any other direction because if he manages to vaccinate your child you will be very upset with yourself afterward. If you do go in, maybe take a support person with you. Your dh or mom or whoever is on your side.
Go to the appointment totally decided. Don't let the ped talk about vaccines. Change the subject by saying "we have made up our mind." If it becomes too coercive, take your child OUT OF THERE IMMEDIATELY.
Generally nurses are the worst. So, don't answer any questions as to why or how did you decide? They will start out very friendly and then get out the big guns. Don't let them get that far. Stop them right away by saying, "this is my child and I have decided to not vaccinate".
You may be looking for a new ped soon.
We'll help you.