And btw, why do you have to debate it with her? It isn't any of her business what medical decisions you make for your children even if she is a nurse.
Traditional & nutrient-dense foods/Weston A. Price Foundation advocate, Reiki II practitioner, EFT practitioner, past life & life between lives Hypnotherapist practitioner. Home birth with DD 2007 = never vaccinated, breastfed 3 years
It's hard to argue with people in the medical community at all much less someone who is also your MIL. I agree that its none of her business but I also know that she still may act like it is, especially if your DH is offering her information. That puts you in a tough spot.
The more you read though, the more comfortable you should feel and eventually will have a few zingers under your belt to use when confronted. You'll pick up a few of those even just casually browsing around here .
Good luck and don't forget to breathe!
I like www.thedoctorwithin.com --see the chapters on vaccination. Dr. Tim O'Shea is the author of "The Sanctity of Human Blood: Vaccination is Not Immunization" and he put excerpts from that book on his web site. Its very informative and explains very well why vaccines are unhealthy, harmful and ineffective.
Just because you are not good at debating does not mean that you are ignorant and are making a bad decision. For an even handed treatment of the issue I recommend "Vaccinations, A Thoughfull Parents Guide" by Aviva Romm. For keeping your dcn healthy and to treat VPDs: "Naturally Healthy Babies and Children: A Commonsense Guide to Herbal Remedies, Nutrition, and Health" by Aviva Romm and "How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor" by pediatrician Dr. Mendelsohn.
This site is great Inside Vaccines.
And you may find this video helpful:Vaccines-The Risks, the Benefits, the Choices DVD, By Dr. Sherri J. TENPENNY
Answer these for yourself:
1. Name of the disease
2. Description of the disease
3. Length of time from initial infection to end of all symptoms
4. Infectious period
5. Normal symptoms of the disease
6. Known serious consequences of the disease
7. Proportion of persons infected developing serious consequences
8. Transmission route of the disease
9. Prevalence of the disease
10. Treatments of the disease and efficacy of those treatments
11. Relevant research about the disease
12. Name of the vaccine
13. Company that makes the vaccine
14. Contents of the vaccine
14A. The significance of whether or not the vaccine is live
15. History of development of the vaccine
16. Known side-effects of the vaccine and rate of incidence of those side-effects
17. Possible side-effects not yet acknowledged by the vaccine maker
18. Relevant research into the vaccine
19. How effective is the vaccine at preventing the disease?
20.What is the vaccine meant to do? (Many vaccines are not meant to prevent infection or transmission).
21.Number of cases reported each year.
22.Number of deaths reported each year from the vaccine and natural disease.
Here are some sources to help you out:
http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/mmwr_wk.html (download the current issue)
You can read this book which is a good start about the different diseases.
Rather then just being concerned about the possible vaccine reactions, you can take a stance on knowing how easy it is to treat a particular disease if your child should contract one. Because this is the worry from your MIL. If you can intelligently tell her that if your LO gets XYZ disease you are not concerned because they can be successfully treated in a healthy child.
Laura~ wife to my stuntman, Stig, mama to Gavin Rutgar (4) and now Wyatt Andreas (1) and 2 little .
Good Luck and rememebr you don't have to justify your choices to your MIL!
If the people let government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as are the souls of those who live under tyranny." Thomas Jefferson.
I hope your dh stands by your decision. If not, make a lot of information available to him. He might not feel comfortable arguing with her without lots of information. If you make him a non-vax advocate, then you don't have to worry.
Our children make a study of us in a way no one else ever will. If we don't act according to our values, they will know.~Starhawk New User Agreement! http://www.mothering.com/community/wiki/user-agreement
You have a lifetime to learn, and a lifetime to decide to vaccinate. You can never take it back though. If you need to tell your MIL something, I would tell her that you are currently researching the subject, and are not comfortable vaccinating until you have more information. And I would just repeat that, until you get to the point in your inquiry when you start to feel that you can respond with specific objections. That's assuming you EVER want to get into the discussion - you might not, and that's okay, too. There are a lot of moms I know who know enough to be comfortable with their decisions, and who don't feel a need to know enough to argue.
Yep, I hear ya on the MIL/nurse thing. NOT fun. But I agree with the others - YOUR child YOUR decision. She had the opportunity to make decisions for her children and now it's time for you to make them for yours.