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KSLaura 02-03-2009 08:18 PM

Just wondered if anyone is using pacifiers.
We've been using them for car rides and occaisionally in the evening. I'll probably leave some with the baby when I go back to work, too.

Sage_SS 02-03-2009 08:23 PM

I have three daughters. DD1 and DD2 were big soother babies! They were always happy babies, never fussy.
DD3 wouldn't take a soother for anything! She prefered to voice her unhappiness. lol.. man, we tried so hard to get her to take one!

Lucien would have nothing to do with one when he was breastfeeding. We tried but he kept spitting them out. We had to quit nursing just over a week ago and in that time he's turned into a big soother guy too! But his bad latch translates into a problem holding onto the soother too. His tongue is in the way so he loses it often, then cries for it. Thats fun. He's slowly starting to get the hang of it.

So to answer your question I'm a supporter of the soother!

peacefulT 02-03-2009 09:40 PM

Well we REALLY tried to get DD to take a pacifier ..cause she LOVES to comfort suck .. but there was no way she was havin it .. spit it out every time .. so I just gave up on it (never really tried that hard cause I guess I was never big on them to begin with .. just thought it would be nice to have a boob break every so often )..but now at 6 weeks .. she has found her fingers ... and constantly has them in her mouth if she's not at the boob .. and IMO its sooo much cuter But hey whatever works for you and your LO .. go with it !

Biscuits & Gravy 02-03-2009 09:49 PM

He'll take one in the car once in a while, and he would take one if my mom was trying to soothe him while I was showering or busy. He will not take one if I'm holding him though. No way!

arahzel 02-03-2009 09:49 PM

I don't mind pacifiers. I had to fight for ODD to take one. Took us a while.

This one took to a pacifier right away. She'll slurp on her hands, too, but I'd rather she take the pacifier. You can't take a thumb away later!

I do have a pet peeve regarding pacifiers though. I can't stand it when the kid spits it out (especially an older child), and the parent just pops it back into their mouth immediately rather than let the child fuss first.

jspring0308 02-03-2009 09:54 PM

I wish my LO would take one but alas when she's upset the only thing that comforts her is bouncing...not even nursing! She's started sucking her hand not just fingers but the whole darn hand and so I'm trying to push the pacifier in lieu of having a red, raw hand so we'll see. My first loved her pacifier until 7 months and then literally one day spit it out and never took it again!

namistenicole 02-03-2009 11:38 PM

God I wish DD would take a pacifier in the car (or anywhere)! She prefers to "voice her displeasure" as well! Car rides are no fun at this point. But she's just figuring out her hands and beginning to suck on them... so maybe it will get better.

terrainthailand 02-04-2009 12:13 AM

My brother and I both sucked our thumbs until we were about 10 so when Hazel started searching in earnest for that thumb (so cute!! ) DH and I started discussing what we wanted to do. She seems to have a lot of sucking needs and we do comfort nurse, but my breasts never seem empty and it seems to upset her sometimes... suck, fuss, suck, fuss, suck, fuss. At first I decided I would just let her stick with the thumb... seems very natural, don't have to worry about it getting lost, falling out, etc.. But we have also been giving her the paci sometimes to get her down for daytime naps... which are a big challenge for us! I'm still okay with the thumb but she isn't consistent enough with it yet... she starts sucking her fist, her arm, two fingers... sometimes she gets the thumb in there and seems to choke herself!! Sometimes I feel bad about using the paci, but it seems to make her happy so I'm going with it. I'm really restricting its use though to daytime naps.

mom2annika 02-04-2009 01:31 AM

DD1 would have nothing to do with it. She's 3.5 y.o. and still sucking her thumb. No biggie.

DD2 got a different kind of paci in the hospital (which we didn't plan at all cause we didn't plan to be in the hospital to begin with). It's shaped like a baby-bottle top. She likes it. She doesn't seem to have any problems with nipple confusion. But she also slurps her hands, and this morning I found her sucking her thumb. Soo cute!

So whatever makes 'em happy, is OK with me.

jenniferadurham 02-04-2009 02:27 AM

Evan doesn't really use them. I give them to him when he wants soothing. I'm not against them. I'd rather have to break a paci addiction than a thumb addiction.

Swandira 02-04-2009 03:29 AM

I'm with Jennifer -- if they're going to suck on something, it's easier to take away the binky than the thumb.

That said, none of mine has been a huge paci fan, and I haven't really pushed it. My DS1 never once took a paci. He didn't suck his thumb or fingers either -- he just wanted the boob. He nursed for five years.
My DD took a paci occasionally until she was about 6 months old, when she suddenly wanted nothing to do with it. She sometimes sucks her thumb and other fingers, but not much. And, of course, she still likes to suck the boobie. DS2 takes the paci for his dad sometimes when I'm reading to the big kids in their room before bed, but he has to be swaddled and lying down in bed with his dad with the fan and the white noise machine both going before he'll take it. I don't imagine we'll have much trouble taking the binky from him -- probably he'll wean himself off it like his big sister did.

Edited to add that I saw a baby about the same age as mine today who had a paci in his mouth that said "Mute Button" on the handle. Hahaha.

leavemealone 02-04-2009 12:50 PM

My son seems to only be willing to take a pacifier when daddy's holding him. If I'm holding him, he knows I have the real thing and doesn't want a pacifier. I can sometimes get him to take one for about five minutes, but that's about it. DD had a pacifier for about two years, but my other DS never wanted one at all.

sarahmagoo 02-04-2009 01:39 PM

DD1 took a paci. but really only for bedtime. I didn't offer it to her during the day unless she was teething or sick.

DS had a paci... ME. : He was a comfort nurser and no matter how hard I tried, he wouldn't take the paci.

The newest little one is happy without a paci, and doesn't seem to comfort suck as much as my son did.

caedmyn 02-04-2009 02:02 PM

I was totally against them with DD and she wouldn't take one anyway the few times I tried...although I really wish I'd tried a little harder as she was a screamer in the car and once screamed for FIVE HOURS STRAIGHT on a long road trip (no matter how often I stopped and what I did, she'd start right up again once the car started moving). She was a thumb sucker (although she never would use it to comfort her self in the car: ) but weaned herself off it before she was one.

DS loves his binky, and I am so glad he takes one. He's also a screamer in the car although he's fine after the first couple of minutes if he has his binky. Plus he's a very intense baby with a strong need to suck and he has reflux that's partly caused by my oversupply & overactive letdown issues, so comfort nursing is not a good thing for him. It did take about ten days to get him to the point where he'd really take one well--before that he preferred to suck on my pinky finger. He is starting to suck on his fists now, though, so hopefully I can gradually start weaning him off the pacifier.

ChesapeakeBorn 02-04-2009 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by terrainthailand View Post
My brother and I both sucked our thumbs until we were about 10 so when Hazel started searching in earnest for that thumb (so cute!! ) DH and I started discussing what we wanted to do. She seems to have a lot of sucking needs and we do comfort nurse, but my breasts never seem empty and it seems to upset her sometimes... suck, fuss, suck, fuss, suck, fuss. At first I decided I would just let her stick with the thumb... seems very natural, don't have to worry about it getting lost, falling out, etc.. But we have also been giving her the paci sometimes to get her down for daytime naps... which are a big challenge for us! I'm still okay with the thumb but she isn't consistent enough with it yet... she starts sucking her fist, her arm, two fingers... sometimes she gets the thumb in there and seems to choke herself!! Sometimes I feel bad about using the paci, but it seems to make her happy so I'm going with it. I'm really restricting its use though to daytime naps.
Sounds like my son! Sometimes when he is fussing he makes his "I want to eat" sound, but when I put him to the breast he gets mad that milk comes out! (He has usually eaten recently so his tummy is quite full). He is a very oral baby and tries to suck his hands, but doesn't quite have the hang of it. All of our ultrasounds showed him suck his fist! He's never had a pacifier (or bottle), so I may try introducing it today. Poor little guy just wants to suck on something sometimes and I would like to help calm that craving!

felix23 02-04-2009 04:06 PM

I've been trying to get her to take a paci since the day she was born, but she hates them. She really wants her thumb, but she just can't get it yet. I hope she does soon.

THANKFULFORFIVE 02-04-2009 05:01 PM

Love 'em. We never used them during the day... but they were wonderful in the car, naptime and bedtime! I still keep 3 or 4 in the crib so if dd3wakes...she can always find one and soothe right back to sleep. When ds2 turned two years old, we let him cut the binky up and throw it in the trash and said bye-bye....he never asked for it, just started sucking his blankey instead! Some babes just need to suck more than others.

Starfish11 02-04-2009 05:02 PM

Chalk this up to another lesson we've learned about doing what works for your baby. We were not going to use a pacman b/c we thought it would work better for her to suck on our fingers, her fingers to soothe. BUT she is incredibly oral and one night, after hours of crying/screaming we popped on of those suckers in her mouth and she was relieved. Immediately stopped crying, closed her eyes and went right to sleep. She doesn't fall asleep while nursing so this is the perfect remedy for that.

WE alternate between her pacman and her fingers.

She's actually figured out how to pop her pacman back in her mouth when she's in need of it and it falls out.

Phoenix~Mama 02-06-2009 02:15 PM

We try off and on... sometimes Mama needs a boob break. lol She hasn't quite figured out how to suck on a paci though... it's almost like it's too big for her mouth. We have two different kinds in the smallest we could find. She loves to suck though, and will suck on her wrist, her whole hand, any fingers she will find, our pinky's... she just loves to suck on things to calm herself down. I kind of wish she would get the paci figured out a little more, cause as others said it is easier to take a paci away than a hand. And I am terrified of DD picking up DSD's habit of sucking her thumb and picking her nose at the same time... the picking the nose thing grosses me out so much!

Starfish11 02-06-2009 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by JSMa View Post
We try off and on... sometimes Mama needs a boob break. lol She hasn't quite figured out how to suck on a paci though... it's almost like it's too big for her mouth. We have two different kinds in the smallest we could find. She loves to suck though, and will suck on her wrist, her whole hand, any fingers she will find, our pinky's... she just loves to suck on things to calm herself down. I kind of wish she would get the paci figured out a little more, cause as others said it is easier to take a paci away than a hand. And I am terrified of DD picking up DSD's habit of sucking her thumb and picking her nose at the same time... the picking the nose thing grosses me out so much!
Wow, that's an advanced manuever!

CAKJNH 02-06-2009 08:05 PM

DD1 HATED pacifiers. DDs2 & 3 were addicted the first year, lol. But they each grew out of them together (DD2 is autistic and was a comfort. We didn't even try to take it away until she was almost 3 1/2, when all the tests etc, were done). DD3 decided to give hers up at the same time as DD2. All binkies went in the trash, until my nephew moved in. Then they ALL needed them again (our girls needed something when Mommy was runnin like a chicken with her head cut off dealing w/2 more kids in the house - who had almost NEVER met me before!). But again, when the time came, they all outgrew them together. :

DS however, only takes one for a few minutes here and there, mostly in the car. And almost NEVER from me. He also rarely takes a bottle from me. I hated even introducing the bottle, but I'm having surgery next week so DH needs to be able to feed him while I'm incapacitated.

I'm all for anything that helps and isn't harmful, lol. (Though I still think about that Bendadryl for bedtime when I finally get the baby to sleep and DD2 is still up lol. Can't do it, but the thought pops in every now and then hahaha)

bmcneal 02-06-2009 08:41 PM

When DS was born, I was completely against using a binky, as it can affect nursing success, and I was/am bound and determined for nursing to be successful this time. HOWEVER. DS's latch wasn't the best at first, and he is a comfort nurser, wanting to nurse all.the.time. and finally, with nipples cracked and bleeding, I decided it would be alright for him to have a binky sometimes. I was really upset at first, because I was worried that he would get horrible nipple confusion and nursing would be sabotaged (I know I spelled it wrong), but it doesn't seem to have affected him much. And it was a *lifesaver* on our 10 hour trip last weekend. He still doesn't get it much, usually only if he's nursed to his fill, has comfort nursed for a *really* long time, my nipples are really sore because at that point he's just chewing on them, and he still wakes up when I try and break the latch. That way Im *kind of* sure he's full.

dsaucone 02-06-2009 08:58 PM

We used them in the beginning. They seemed to work well when we first got home from the hospital and I was busy doing something and the baby was hungry, or when the baby wanted to nurse all day long and my boobs just couldn't take it. By 6 weeks neither one of my kids really cared for them much.

hollyvangogh 02-07-2009 12:21 AM

Well, DD was finally starting to take a binky for a while. Then she decided she much prefers DH or I's pinky. *sigh*

BF is going well so I don't see a problem letting her use a soother, especially if it helps keep us sane.

i0lanthe 02-07-2009 10:12 AM

ds2 will take it in the car which is good b/c he really hates the car; but ds1 is HEARTBROKEN that he does not get to have one (hi! you're turning 6 next month!), absolutely heartbroken. He had one for a long, long time and never wanted to stop AFAICT (at the end he was chewing holes in them awfully fast. Yesterday I dug out the chewy tube that his OT gave us when he was still doing OT. for kids with oral fixation to chew on. he rejected it. he never really liked it.) So I need to rethink this b/c ds1 has already swiped it once. **sigh**. Pacifiers as a controlled substance...

Swandira 02-07-2009 02:03 PM

I sooooo wish my baby would take a binky in the car. He prefers to scream and scream instead. I hand the pacifier to his almost-3-year-old sister (her carseat is next to his), hoping she'll keep offering it to him, but she ignores him and sucks the pacifier herself, even though she hadn't had them since she was 6 months old.

rebecca03 02-07-2009 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by dsaucone View Post
We used them in the beginning. They seemed to work well when we first got home from the hospital and I was busy doing something and the baby was hungry, or when the baby wanted to nurse all day long and my boobs just couldn't take it. By 6 weeks neither one of my kids really cared for them much.
This. Jennifer doesn't care for them anymore, but for awhile she liked them.

Mommy2anangel 02-09-2009 10:39 PM

Although DD is 2 months, I'm still on the fence about this. I've tried giving it to her a few times and she may have sucked on it for a little while. She does love sucking on her hand, and of course the boob, so some of the time, I know she is just comfort feeding. I may try again to see if she'll take it or not though.

phatchristy 02-10-2009 02:51 PM

A pacifier is a tool, just like everything else. Definitely though research has shown that it reduces breastfeeding duration, but I definitely think in certain situations it works.

Kiddo #1 used one slightly (used it in the car/eating out)...not regularly though, and after a couple months or so I tried and she wouldn't take it. #2#3 didn't use at all. With this one, haven't even tried one, don't have one in the house.

Swandira 02-10-2009 06:59 PM

It looks like Odin is done using the paci. He wouldn't take it even going to sleep with his dad last night. Oh, well! He still likes being swaddled, fortunately.


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