We've been using them for car rides and occaisionally in the evening. I'll probably leave some with the baby when I go back to work, too.
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DD3 wouldn't take a soother for anything! She prefered to voice her unhappiness. lol.. man, we tried so hard to get her to take one!
Lucien would have nothing to do with one when he was breastfeeding. We tried but he kept spitting them out. We had to quit nursing just over a week ago and in that time he's turned into a big soother guy too! But his bad latch translates into a problem holding onto the soother too. His tongue is in the way so he loses it often, then cries for it. Thats fun. He's slowly starting to get the hang of it.
So to answer your question I'm a supporter of the soother!
This one took to a pacifier right away. She'll slurp on her hands, too, but I'd rather she take the pacifier. You can't take a thumb away later!
I do have a pet peeve regarding pacifiers though. I can't stand it when the kid spits it out (especially an older child), and the parent just pops it back into their mouth immediately rather than let the child fuss first.
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DD2 got a different kind of paci in the hospital (which we didn't plan at all cause we didn't plan to be in the hospital to begin with). It's shaped like a baby-bottle top. She likes it. She doesn't seem to have any problems with nipple confusion. But she also slurps her hands, and this morning I found her sucking her thumb. Soo cute!
So whatever makes 'em happy, is OK with me.
That said, none of mine has been a huge paci fan, and I haven't really pushed it. My DS1 never once took a paci. He didn't suck his thumb or fingers either -- he just wanted the boob. He nursed for five years.
My DD took a paci occasionally until she was about 6 months old, when she suddenly wanted nothing to do with it. She sometimes sucks her thumb and other fingers, but not much. And, of course, she still likes to suck the boobie. DS2 takes the paci for his dad sometimes when I'm reading to the big kids in their room before bed, but he has to be swaddled and lying down in bed with his dad with the fan and the white noise machine both going before he'll take it. I don't imagine we'll have much trouble taking the binky from him -- probably he'll wean himself off it like his big sister did.
Edited to add that I saw a baby about the same age as mine today who had a paci in his mouth that said "Mute Button" on the handle. Hahaha.
DS had a paci... ME. : He was a comfort nurser and no matter how hard I tried, he wouldn't take the paci.
The newest little one is happy without a paci, and doesn't seem to comfort suck as much as my son did.
DS loves his binky, and I am so glad he takes one. He's also a screamer in the car although he's fine after the first couple of minutes if he has his binky. Plus he's a very intense baby with a strong need to suck and he has reflux that's partly caused by my oversupply & overactive letdown issues, so comfort nursing is not a good thing for him. It did take about ten days to get him to the point where he'd really take one well--before that he preferred to suck on my pinky finger. He is starting to suck on his fists now, though, so hopefully I can gradually start weaning him off the pacifier.
My brother and I both sucked our thumbs until we were about 10 so when Hazel started searching in earnest for that thumb (so cute!! ) DH and I started discussing what we wanted to do. She seems to have a lot of sucking needs and we do comfort nurse, but my breasts never seem empty and it seems to upset her sometimes... suck, fuss, suck, fuss, suck, fuss. At first I decided I would just let her stick with the thumb... seems very natural, don't have to worry about it getting lost, falling out, etc.. But we have also been giving her the paci sometimes to get her down for daytime naps... which are a big challenge for us! I'm still okay with the thumb but she isn't consistent enough with it yet... she starts sucking her fist, her arm, two fingers... sometimes she gets the thumb in there and seems to choke herself!! Sometimes I feel bad about using the paci, but it seems to make her happy so I'm going with it. I'm really restricting its use though to daytime naps.
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WE alternate between her pacman and her fingers.
She's actually figured out how to pop her pacman back in her mouth when she's in need of it and it falls out.
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We try off and on... sometimes Mama needs a boob break. lol She hasn't quite figured out how to suck on a paci though... it's almost like it's too big for her mouth. We have two different kinds in the smallest we could find. She loves to suck though, and will suck on her wrist, her whole hand, any fingers she will find, our pinky's... she just loves to suck on things to calm herself down. I kind of wish she would get the paci figured out a little more, cause as others said it is easier to take a paci away than a hand. And I am terrified of DD picking up DSD's habit of sucking her thumb and picking her nose at the same time... the picking the nose thing grosses me out so much!
DS however, only takes one for a few minutes here and there, mostly in the car. And almost NEVER from me. He also rarely takes a bottle from me. I hated even introducing the bottle, but I'm having surgery next week so DH needs to be able to feed him while I'm incapacitated.
I'm all for anything that helps and isn't harmful, lol. (Though I still think about that Bendadryl for bedtime when I finally get the baby to sleep and DD2 is still up lol. Can't do it, but the thought pops in every now and then hahaha)
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BF is going well so I don't see a problem letting her use a soother, especially if it helps keep us sane.
We used them in the beginning. They seemed to work well when we first got home from the hospital and I was busy doing something and the baby was hungry, or when the baby wanted to nurse all day long and my boobs just couldn't take it. By 6 weeks neither one of my kids really cared for them much.
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Kiddo #1 used one slightly (used it in the car/eating out)...not regularly though, and after a couple months or so I tried and she wouldn't take it. #2#3 didn't use at all. With this one, haven't even tried one, don't have one in the house.
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