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#31 of 33 Old 11-20-2008, 01:12 AM
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I'm glad you were able to get an appointment. Way to stand your ground. Good Luck!
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Originally Posted by StarMama View Post
Well I haven't decided for sure anything yet... but I've decided to at least look at how the midwife situation works at kaiser.
Definitely remember this is *your* birth. I definitely understand researching all of your options. I would just hate anyone putting pressure on you!

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Ugh, unfortunately I *do* feel pressured already. *Sigh* We have therapy tonight, I hope it goes well.

I *get* that he's feeling choiceless, but being upset that I want a $200 doula and acting like I'm blowing things out of proportion regarding a hospital birth is really feeling like he's not willing to compromise at all either.

It seems very similar to the co-sleeping with our 5 year old issue. We were working on getting him in his bed most of the time, or in his "nest" on our floor, but it was so much work and so much lack of sleep on my part... his solution is to just let him scream and cry in his room until he gets the message. Which is not acceptable to me at all, and he knows it. But again he feels like he has no choice, but if he's unwilling to compromise then I'm tired of putting all the effort into getting him into his bed full time because *I* don't mind bed sharing.

Compromise, compromise, compromise! Otherwise one of us is going to just feel like we have no say and no choice in every matter! We had that figured out before in therapy, why can't we get it figured out again?

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