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#1 of 4 Old 04-20-2009, 06:50 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My DS didn't watch TV at all until he was 3 (and I went back to work).

Now he's 5, and he's addicted, and I'm addicted to the Food Network!

I am thinking I will cancel our cable (costs $60 a month!) but I'm not sure how to explain it to him.

I think I need to explain it a few days ahead of time, so it's not a surprise (that would be bad).

Any suggestions on ways to explain it to a 5yo in a way that will help it not be a horrible thing?

I think we will both benefit greatly from it and it will be very worthwhile... my only hesitation is that it's a big change for a TV addict like my 5yo. I don't want to be left with a screaming, fit-throwing, horrible child during the transition, if it's avoidable, kwim?

Any suggestions on how t obreak the news would be greatly appreciated. I think this is the right season, since it's spring.
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This may not strike you as entirely honest, but I would say something like:

"Oh, I have some interesting news. In a few days the television will no longer get the channels it used to. That's going to be a little weird a round here for a while. We all like a little tv time, huh."

You'll probably get a lot of whys so you'll have to decide what to do from there.

"The tv company can't deliver the shows to our house anymore." (technically true, since you won't be paying for it.) "Let's think up some fun things we can do instead."

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"Well, we have to pay $60 a month to get the tv company to send us the television and I just think we could have a lot more fun with that money than watching tv. What are some things we can do with $60 that would be fun. Should we get a membership to the zoo and go three times next month?"

One thing I would not do is ask for dc's permission or approval. It's not really fair to put him in that position since you've already made up your mind. I also wouldn't make it punitive in the least (by saying, "We were both watching too much tv and rotting our brains with all that drivel," for example.)

Then brace yourself for a few days of kvetching. It will end!

Good luck.

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I'd go for doing it matter of factly and just being really positive about it. I'd also be prepared with some suggestions for fun things for him to do after the TV actually goes off.

He'll get used to it soon!
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"Well, we have to pay $60 a month to get the tv company to send us the television and I just think we could have a lot more fun with that money than watching tv. What are some things we can do with $60 that would be fun. Should we get a membership to the zoo and go three times next month?"


I think that is both honest and straightforward.

We just canceled Netflix, because we felt we were wasting too much time watching the online movies, and we thought we could do something better with our $20 a month.

A couple of days ago, ds asked if he could watch a Netflix movie. I just said, "Sorry, bud, we canceled it. We decided that it would be more fun to go out to dinner or buy a new book or go to the movies with that money." DS (9) scowled and humpfed a minute, then went outside to look for a stick to make a fishing pole. I think that with a 5-year-old, there will be an initial protest, with a very quick recovery and he will forget about it quite soon.
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