We have gone over 2 years without a T.V. before. Then we moved and got cable (this was 3 years ago). So we have lived without T.V. just fine before. Which is why I believe my children don't seem to care to watch T.V. Their first few years of life we didn't even own a T.V.
The problem is since he does work so much the kids only see him on the weekend (he usually comes home right at bed time during the week). This causes many arguments since when he IS home he is shut in a room watching T.V.
Not to mention we pay $90 a month just so he can watch football plus the 42" flatscreen that only gets used on the weekends.
He is military and I stay at home so we can't really afford cable anyways.
I love DH and I want him to be happy so I try to not say anything. I did mention once that maybe he could watch the games online or something, but he quickly shot me down since he just bought the big T.V.
Honestly we could REALLY use the money if we sold that honkin T.V. lol But, we do movie night on Friday night with the kids and it does make a difference. So DH says it is just silly to have such a T.V. with no cable.
Anyone have any experience or advice? I really, really, really want to throw it out the window
dreadlock mom to Israel 01/23/07 & Titus 07/10/09
Can you talk to your husband about spending more time with the kids? I think that would be top on my list. It is very hard to see things when you are right in the middle.
I didn't have cable growing up. I first had cable at 19 or maybe even 20. Didn't miss it, spent a lot of time outside as a kid.
I hope we never have cable again personally, I don't care for it much, or the outrageous price tag each month.
I am much more addicted to the Internet , which I also didn't have until adulthood.
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The tip of the iceberg was DH reading this book:
Seriously... it really made us think. And it really, really, disgusted us both
I will recommend this book to anyone who is even contemplating going tv free!!
Kourtney, happily married to my soldier and raising ds 7/08 .... dd 7/10..... and ds 11/11
DH(9/04) DS(12/08) and DD(5/11)
Totally feel your pain. My DH is a huge sports fanatic and insists on paying ridiculous amounts of money for a sports cable package. Our cable bill is through the roof. I grew up in a TV-free home and so I have a hard time grasping his attachment to the television. While I would be 100% okay with a TV free household, DH is not buying it. He grew up with a TV and sad as it sounds, it's how he and his family relate to each other. Sports is their main thing that they talk about, which is fine...I just don't like paying the disgusting cable bill for it. I've been working on him to watch his games online so that we can cut our bill down and he is coming around, but progress is slow.
We had a huge argument recently about the television and I made it clear that I felt like spending time together as a family NOT in front of the tube was really important. Once he got the idea that I really just wanted us to spend more time together doing something other than watching TV, he was much more open about cutting back the TV time. Maybe if you make spending time together the issue as opposed to razzing him about his television watching, he'll come around and the amount of time spent watching TV will cut down on its own. Men are stubborn like that...you have to make think it was their idea. *rolls eyes* :)
Since you said he's in the Military... I don't care how mundane his job is at work, there are so many stressors it's ridiculous. They have you constantly going. And if he's coming home rather than going out as a lot do... that's even better. And he's not deployed?
Of course all jobs are different and everyone wants to spend family time together. However sometimes, we think our way to spend time together is the only way. Look I didn't like football for the longest time. I'm a soccer fan, but I found a way to enjoy the game. And now I'm playing fantasy football... I'm so going to win this year! He didn't like hiking, found it boring. However I put in the effort to find a way to like something he likes and I can usually get everyone out for a hike on Saturdays and out in the yard to play a game of soccer (he's terrible).
Also quality family time isn't necessarily how you're spending your time it's who you're spending your time with. I listened to DD1 and her dad talk for an hour last night about Lance Briggs, and how he's a decent offensive lineman... Really, she was pretty into it too.
I don't know there is just so many ways you can spend time together.