Also posted in the Childhood years forum, but I think it's appropriate here, maybe more so. ?
This is what my dd, 3.75y exclaimed the other day when switching the green silky she'd been dancing with for a pink one. Of course this prompted a bunch of "You are beautiful no matter what you wear" and "Green is a lovely color too!" comments from me.
We are tv-free and watch the occasional family movie together - wizard of oz, some live action stuff, we just watched Up. She's pretty clueless about the pink princess stuff, other than what she's picking up from friends. We dont go to malls and only 'natural' toy stores (since that's all that is around us). I'm not shielding her, this is just our way right now.
But today she put a sparkly head band on and her new ballet shoes and said "Now I am Special." So i asked, "Of course you are special, but what do you mean?" To my surprise/horror/dismay/amusement she screamed "Because now I am a PINK BALLERINA PRINCESS FAIRY!"
The culture really seeps in, eh?
The funny thing is, and I guess the reason I'm posting is that dd seems to be naturally inclined to be a tomboy. She likes jeans, shirts, pretends to have a penis......... She's also not as delicate as some of the other girls we know and can 'hang' with the rough boys pretty well. But it seems that she's still getting the message that 'pink' and 'sparkly' are good things and she should want them.
btw - I am going to x-post in the tv-free forum.
mama to : my spirited star 2/06, my sweet love 5/08, and a little lovey 5/12