Finally taking some time to talk on this thread.
Yeah, the going over to some else's house can be an issue. Fortunately, very, very few people I spend lots of time with have the TV on a lot.
Most I know only have it on for a movie...and then we all agree about it.
Frankly, I don't work very hard to keep him from it if we are out of our house. ( I explained it about half way through this very long post http://www.mothering.com/discussions...54#post2082954
on a thread where I grumbled a lot.
) If he points at one and says something, I just respond very factually and very literally. I have been told that my answers are "over his head"
; but, I figure that that is how we learn. I'm not going to dumb it down. So, when he saw someone watching Wheel of Fortune, and said something about it, I said that is a game being played by people far away for money. And he looked for a minute longer, shrugged and walked away to try and take stuff off the dining table and make a mess. :nana:
If he goes for the remote (and what kid doesn't
love buttons?), then it is removed because I told him it turns on the TV and we aren't watching the TV.
I'm pretty lucky that I grew up in a family that really didn't watch a lot. When I went to visit my aunt and uncle in August, my uncle was watching a lot of TV (this is something that has happened to him in the last few years, a lot of us have been worried about it, especially as he watches all those "fear" programs like Law and Order). My cousin and I were outside fussing with something in the garden and he went over to the satellite dish and started leaning on it, covering it up. :LOL He said he wanted to see how long it took his dad to get out of the barca lounger and come outside to investigate. (I told him that at 50-something, he should have grown up by now.
But I laughed, too.)
On the other hand, I know that TV gets watched a lot in my husband's family, but they are in So. Cal. and I don't go there much. We'll deal with that when we have to.
I don't see my pixie ever bored, that I know of.
But, let's think about "bored".
What is so bad about boredom? The way I look at it, boredom leads to creativity. Some think that it automatically leads to the most "negative" creativity -- that stuff that is naughty or troublemaking. Yeah, I'm sure that is true. But, again, I think it is a matter of perspective.
I remember in Minnesota one summer's day many years ago >>>>she gets a dreamy expression on her face<<<<< when I and some friends decided to build a cannon out of a tennis ball can. (OK, I'm dating myself here. Yes, once upon a time, tennis balls came in actual cans, made of metal. They even had metal lids that went pssssssst when you snapped them back.) So, we drilled a hole in the side near the bottom, put in a few drops of gasoline from an eyedropper
, loaded an old tennis ball in from the top, braced it against a small earth-berm, and put a match to the touch-hole.
KA-----BLOOEY! That ball went a long way.
And we proceeded to do that for the rest of the afternoon.
Well, none of us got hurt.
And, seriously, I think we were really lucky.
But, I learned a lot from that. I learned first-hand stuff about expanding gasses. Thermodynamics in action. (I did really well in that class in college.)
Anyhow, most of the time, my creativity was far more benign. D&D, painting, figuring out new versions of tag and follow the leader. Reading books. Climbing trees. Taking my nickle and getting on the 3 Jackson bus (in San Francisco) and going downtown and going to an exhibit of Ansel Adams or to a library or bookstore or photo equipment store.
Taking a Super 8 movie camera and some playdoh and making snakes out of balls that when all the frames were run at normal speed kept morphing into other ball-snakes and towers and trees.
Or I went to the Mechanics' Institute and up to the 4th floor and played chess (badly) against friendly grown-ups who had dreams of playing Kasparov. (Boy, I must have really wasted their time.
And I was an only child.
There, was that long and OT enough?