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#1 of 5 Old 05-02-2008, 02:25 AM - Thread Starter
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We live in a city (for 29 more days!) and so I can't send them out to the yard and curl up on a lawn chair with my tea.

I'm tempted to pop on a dvd when the baby naps as a way to break up the day and give me a chance to rest.

This is what I usually do when I'm sick--which is thankfully rare--but I'd really rather not.

So what do the rest of you do?


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#2 of 5 Old 05-02-2008, 01:57 PM
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I have one child, so my information isn't so much about what to do with four children while you are sick. I wouldn't have a clue. LOL However, I try to think of the big picture for these types of things. What lesson or overall experience do I want my child to learn about this "situation"? For me, it has changed over the years as my child has gotten older (age 7 now). I also balance how effective I am as a mother at that given moment. Are my needs being met? Is my child physically safe?

Personally, I see nothing wrong with popping in a DVD here and there. I rarely choose to do it myself, but it is because my child is not entertained by movies or TV and I don't rest well when it is on.

My advice is to trust your instincts and do what is best for your family. So much of it depends on your values and the ages and maturity levels of your children.

As for specific ideas... My DD has always wanted to be in the same room as me. We can do different things, but she always wants to be where she can see me and hear me. Therefore, I have always requested she choose quiet activities when I am ill. At different ages, the level of "quiet" is certainly subjective. LOL And I am sure four children are rarely truly QUIET. So, I am talking RELATIVELY quiet.

Magnetic dolls/bears
Color Wonder activities (about the only time we used these gifts LOL)
Cards (I taught her to sort them by color and shape when she was YOUNG and she LOVED it! Number sorting came much later.)
Reading (Even before she could really read, she loved looking through a pile of books.)
Pretend nap (A game I would play with her where we'd "pretend" to nap and the ultimate result was we would really fall asleep. )

Do you have any friends, neighbors, and/or relatives who would be willing to entertain a child or two for a few hours? Over the years, we've had a few neighbors who have done this for me here and there. We had no relatives within a few hours' drive for many years. My dad was 8-9 hours away and did come down a couple times when DH & I were both very sick (extenuating circumstances existed, too) when DD was really little. Now my dad lives within a two-minute walk and he'll help me whenever he is in town and home. He has a second home in another state and is very active in both places, so he isn't always available.

I hope you feel better soon!!!!

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How are you doing?

Personally, when I'm sick I make DP stay home. (And by "make", I mean, of course, that he chooses to, because that's our parenting philosophy -- but I know not everyone has that luxury.)
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I'm back on my feet. Thanks for asking, Arwyn.

My dh, wonderful as he is, can't really stay home. He's a journalist and he travels a lot and the publication he works for is voracious.

That said, we survived. I did succumb and put a dvd on my computer on Saturday and by Monday I was feeling better.

I remember reading an account by a homeschooling mother of 6 small children about this very issue. She painted a lovely picture: the children would take care of mom, even if imperfectly. They'd all be in her room, the baby nursing, the next child being playing with the oldest, the second oldest prepared snacks that didn't need cooking or cutting. And they'd all pet mom's hot brow and bring her drinks.

Here it was a little different--maybe I just don't have enough children--my oldest had set out the markers and paper as I had asked, but he included my sharpie which my almost 2 got a hold of. He tattooed his sister. Lollipops were procured. And so was playdo. Both were eaten. And so on. And whenever my kids see me lying down, they assume it is time to read, and so many, many books were read in my far-too throaty voice (think lauren bacall after two packs of luckys).

But we survived.

Still would love to hear more about how others manage this.

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I know you have been well for weeks but.....I do audiobooks from the library when DS (I can only read for so many hours a day) or I are sick. You have a wide range of ages so it might be harder to find an engaging/appropriate story for all. Maybe Cricket in Times Square?
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