Join Date: Jan 2006
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So, we don't have an actual TV in the house, but we do have computers and loads of videos for ds (2yo). I absolutely let him watch videos, I'm not innocent here at all, but I do try to limit it to just a couple a day, if any. Dh, whom ds adores and sometimes barely gets to see because of his work, will come home from work, understandably exhausted and wanting to unwind. (Not like I don't want to relax also, but whatever) Ds is always so excited to see dh and just wants to hang out with him, and what does dh do? Puts on a video (or 2 or 3 or 4), sometimes until it's his bedtime, if I don't step in!
I hate arguing about it, and if I say anything at all, it turns into an argument. Like today, dh comes home, says hey what's up, takes a long, luxurious bath (upwards of 30 minutes), does some more of his own thing, and after getting home late from work, by the time he's done with all this, it's nearly ds' bedtime. So a video comes on, and I tell him, in the sweetest way I can, that there are other things he can do with ds besides watch "tv" - read books, color, play with his trains and cars, heck, something where they can actually interact! But he zombifies ds in front of the tv anyway. At least I'm done with bedtime duty - that's dh's job now.
Sorry this got so long. I'm frustrated. I need a gentle way to stop this, something that's not going to make dh immediately defensive. I am willing to change, too. Becoming computer-free is not an option (we both also work from home) but something needs to change. I can just see this getting worse and worse with the new baby.
ETA: Oh yea, I'm 30 weeks preggers.