It all started when the new babe was born. He has GERD and had colic. He is just a super tough baby. He rarely sleeps at night. Most days I am exhausted and so is dp. We just kind of slid into a routine of letting ds watch TV whenever he wanted so we could rest. Its gotten worse and worse. Ds wants the TV on all the time. He refuses to play outside.
So I laid down the law. NO MORE TV......at all. The only exception is if we have had a bad night, he may watch it before I get up with the baby in the morning.
He cried, he thinks I am punishing him. I tried to explain why we weren't having anymore TV.
How can I make this transition easier?
My feeling is your ds is young enough that cold turkey is a good idea - for him. He's young enough not to be totally set in his ways wrt playing and will eventually figure out other things to do, and after a while, he'll forget about the time he used to watch TV so much. (Does he play with Legos? 3.5 was the age my ds got totally obsessed and would spend hours on them - it was the best). Also, because of his age, it's hard for him to really understand why the TV is ok sometimes but not others, so removing it entirely sends a very clear message.
On the other hand, this method might be better for him, but harder for you. You are in a tough situation, exhausted, with a high needs baby. You won't get any flak from this tv-free mama if you decide that using the tv is going to make your life easier. However, I would advise that you decide when you need it most and really stick to the schedule, no exceptions.
I guess it comes down to what you want to prioritize at this particular point in time: you having the option of a regularly scheduled break from an exhausting stage of motherhood, or getting the TV-free show on the road right now. Both are equally valid in my book.
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i've kind of had it today too. the kids are sitting here watching the movie elf while its beautiful and sunny (and hot) outside. it just doesn't sit right with me - they are not meant to be on the couch watching a movie! the TV watching is getting out of control even though we only watch movies. we start off okay but then more and more media starts to sneak in. i'm getting tired of fighting this battle.
the problem is dh doesn't know how to really play with the kids and his idea of bonding has been sitting there watching a movie with them. which is okay with me.. but it seems that they are now asking for more and more TV in the day time too even when he is not here.
they are getting much less creative as time goes on and instead keep relaying the stuff they watch on the movies.
i watched a lot of TV as a child but i also had a brilliant imagination and was very crafty and non commerical as a child. my kids are just not like that - they really need to be pushed.
i want to smash the damn thing. and i don't get a break from them whatsoever so TV is used as a bit of escape for me too (like right now, they are inside watching elf and i'm here on MDC just trying to get away from them a bit). i don't know if i could handle being with them in my face 24-7 with no breaks and no escape and absolutely no where else for them to go. something has to change. i'm tired of the way things are.
op, i find that when ds (3) is freaking out and i'm tempted to turn on a movie for him it works to distract him with something out of the ordinary. i pull out a sheet of stickers or a colouring sheet or give him a really specific request - can you draw a picture for nana for christmas? can you make me a sandwich with your kitchen? can you tell me about what you did yesterday?
or i just throw him in the tub. water is the ultimate distraction.
water and bubbles, how can you go wrong with that! : i do feel that sometimes my kids know i am trying to distract them and then they suddenly don't want to do whatever "distracting" activity i mentioned.
i notice that small things from the movies we watch are starting to creep up more and more into everyday play and conversation and that is scaring me. my kids have reached the point where its possible they can be addicted. it's no longer just a hypothesis like it was 6 months ago.
i want to get on the right path before its too late. i don't want them to feel like they are missing out on TV, i want them to feel like they are missing out on life if they are glued to the TV all the time. and i've reached a critical point here in which it's become now or never.
justvanessa, i really have no advice, just a whole lot of whining and commiserating since i am in the same boat. just want to let you know you are not alone.
My DS is pretty close to 3.5 years and we are going through the same thing. I let TV time slide so that I could get more time to myself .... and more time to get things done around the house. Now he seems addicted. He watches TV all day and each day I become increasingly more guilty. I just told him that when the show he is currently watching is over, we are turning the TV off and finding something else to do. I am going to have to unplug the TV because he will refuse.
Married to DH 7 years and have three fantastic kiddos! DS 6, DD 4, and DS 2 ...... lo and behold another is on the way!
...the TV watching is getting out of control even though we only watch movies. we start off okay but then more and more media starts to sneak in. i'm getting tired of fighting this battle....
they are getting much less creative as time goes on and instead keep relaying the stuff they watch on the movies....
i want to smash the damn thing... something has to change. i'm tired of the way things are. *sigh*
Our New Year's resolution is to go completely (as in, no movies, either) TV-free again.
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So are you able to move or cover the TV at all, or is it still sitting out in the open? I know many people find that if it's out of sight, it's more likely to be out of mind.
Keep with it!
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