My son was born healthy and had all the usual checkups at the hospital. My midwife did all the well baby visits for the first few months. I knew I did NOT want him vaccinated so was in no rush to find a doctor. Here it is 2 years later and I still have not taken him. He has had only 3 minor illnesses in these 2 years which were easily treated at home.
I have extensive knowledge of herbal and homeopathic healing methods and have always incorporated those. Having that knowledge also keeps me from freaking out and not knowing what to do when he does seem a little "off". I realize there may be a time in the future, though, when what I can do at home may not be enough and he will need a doctor. I've searched online a few times for one who is non-vax friendly but always had a sick feeling in my gut that I shouldn't take him just to take him. He is the healthiest, happiest child I know who is in the 95th percentile on height and weight. Just a big, healthy boy with a great disposition.
Now, of course, I feel as if I will be reprimanded or looked at as a horrible mother for not having a doctor for him or taking him to "well" visits all the time. I even fear a doctor may call CPS or something on me. Is there anyone else out there in this same situation?
If you have a few names that you could try if you needed to see someone, that could help your peace of mind, knowing that maybe they wouldn't have openings and you'd need to go to an Urgent Care place, but that's not the end of the world.
I wouldn't worry about it -- it's not medical neglect to not take your kids in when they are healthy. I believe doctors are for sick/hurt people and have never hesitated to take my kids in to be seen if I had any concerns. We've just been lucky that in 8 years and with four kids, it has been very infrequently.
eta: oh, I just thought about this: when my 3rd child was 16 mos. old I took him into a peds office b/c I thought maybe he had a hernia (my oldest son did as a baby, so I was concerned) he didn't, but OMgoodness - the PA really did freak out a bit on me and couldn't believe that he'd never been seen in 16 mos. She kept saying, "he's never been sick?" well, yes, he's had minor colds a couple times, but nothing that required medical care, lady. I mentioned that my mom was a CNM and had looked over him from time to time and that seemed to calm her down a bit. She also pushed the vax issue, and gave me a bunch of propaganda on paper. The worst thing of all (and what made me never go back there) was that she attempted to retract my DS after I mentioned not touching him there. . I do think, of course, it's important to find a HCP that you are comfortable with in case of concerns that don't warrant an ER visit -- but man, I wonder what that PA would think to find out my DS not only went 16 mos w/o a major health concern but that he hadn't been seen in almost 5 years (until I took him in a couple weeks ago).
We don't vax and I do a lot of reading on health stuff and alternative ways to treat illness. I wouldn't hesitate to take them to the doctor if I felt whatever was wrong was outside my realm of knowledge but so far we are doing pretty good.
I am not overly concerned about CPS, but have been thinking it'd probably be a good idea to keep some records of my own on how much they weigh, growth, etc...
So...we haven't done well baby visits or anything and the doc we went to this week did not ask for records, did not ask about vaxes, and did not pressure us on well baby visits or anything else for that matter. I think the fact that he is a DO helped, rather than an MD, although our old doc was an MD and he was a holistic MD.
Anyway, I say just take that happy healthy boy only if he really needs to go, and keep doin' what you're doin!
If they get sick, we treat them at home. Doctors can't do anything for normal colds or viruses anyway.
Meghan : Kayla~ 10/19/04 Jack~ 5/27/07
DS15 Has been to the Dr twice in the last 10 years and maybe twice before that
DS3 hasnt been to Dr since his 1 year check up. He is healthy happy cant think of a single reason he might need a Dr.
Congrats on a healthy kiddo!
For greater things are yet to come...
My son (18 months) has never been to a doctor, he was born at home and checked out by the midwife and I just never found a doc I liked so he's never been in a hospital or drs office ever. I worry about the CPS thing too, I think its just irrational fears...but you never know! I feel like its been so long now it would be hard to find a PEDI. I even let my WIC go because I didn't have the shot records they asked for and I was scared to tell him he didn't have a Pedi!