I also cannot sleep when my husband and/or husband and son are away. If my husband goes out at night, I cannot sleep until he gets back. I have these thoughts that someone is going to break into my house. If both my husband and son are gone for a night visiting grandma or something, same thing, I can't sleep until the sun comes up (which is a problem if I have to work in the morning!).
I feel like these thoughts of losing my son are getting worse. I am afraid to see my dr b/c I think she would be very quick to prescribe meds, which I don't want to do. I try to exercise daily, either by myself in the morning or my son and I go on a walk on my days off.
Any advice out there? Herbal remedies? Books?
(I also posted this in the Mental Health sub forum.)
See our own MDC mama Amanda Rose's site www.rebuildfromdepression.com for nutritional support for anxiety and depression. Also Julia Ross's book, The Mood Cure which explains more about the "chemical imbalance" that is often talked about but never fully understood by mainstream medicine as to how the body actually creates the chemicals!
You might look into amino acid supplements as well. The brain neurotransmitters are made from amino acids (protein) which can be effected by not eating enough protein, or eating too high carb, or too high processed carb/sugar (insulin sweeps out the amino acids from bloodstream) or even low stomach acid.
Lots and lots of magnesium and vitamin D really helped me a lot. And changing my diet, lots of protein, omega 3 fatty acids, etc. I cannot tell you how different I feel, even going thru the most stressful time of my life (divorce).
I would try to find an ND or MD with alternative learning to help you.
You could also try Rescue Remedy to see if that helps.
Kate, mom to 7 year old Djuna and 4 yr old Alden. Missing our good friend Hal the cat who died June 2, 2010
I've tried a combination of medication, therapy and holistic treatments and am still deep in the middle of working through it.
Will post later, just wanted to say a quick hello and give you a hug!
Supplements that have helped me are: inositol and n-acetylcysteine. 5-HTP should also help. You can google them all and you'll see that they have research support with anxiety including some of the hardest to treat forms of anxiety such as OCD (which, by the way, can be all mental).
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the best type of non-medicine help for anxiety if you can find a therapist.
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- Breathe deeply
- Sunshine during the daytime hours
- Go to bed before 10PM for serotonin/melatonin balance
- Flaxseed oil
- And, eat more cleansing/eliminating foods like vegetables/fruits and not clogging foods like cheese/meat. Yes, try vegetarian for 2 weeks
- Drink plenty of water (at least half your weight in ounces)
Thanks everyone for the replies. Sorry I wasn't able to respond sooner. What's funny is that when I originally posted this I was just a few days away from conceiving our second! I bought some rescue remedy and that seems to help some. Staying hydrated has been challenging for me, as a mom running around with a toddler I just don't take care of myself like I used to. But not that I am pregnant, I'm really focused on making sure I drink enough water. I think good nutrition is part of this too. I have practiced yoga on and off through the years, but now I'm really diving into yoga philosophy, which is helping. It's weird though, I go though periods of time when I seem OK, and then times where I worry.Maybe the pregnancy hormones are helping...we'll see what it's like after the birth.
Just a small comment regarding Rescue Remedy. I have tried it periodically over the past ten years and never found it to do a think for me. Same with the sleep formula. I asked DH to try Rescue Remedy, and he felt a very slight amount of relaxation, but he is not an anxious person in the first place. I would recommend massage therapy (if you can afford the $ and time) or just a partner's/friend's massage if you prefer. Not to get personal, but orgasm can be very good for stress relief, whatever the method of getting there. Breastfeeding has been my most reliable anti-anxiety strategy...all that good oxytocin and whatever that other thing is that I can't remember because I am so tired. Good luck.
I got tired of my signature, but I still love my children and husband and miss my little brother.
I've started doing The Linden Method and have found it's awesome! Since I started I haven't had an anxiety attack, and my anxiety has been at worst...about a 5 out of 10. I was running on days of a defenite 10 out of 10 for anxiety. If your still having problems, message me and I'll try and make you a copy of the program. It's expensive when I bought it, but well worth it!
I wasn't really turned on to natural remedies when I went through my anxiety, but therapy helped me get through it & I haven't had a panic attack since finishing therapy.
You may not need to go through your doctor to find a therapist -- If you have health insurance you can call your HMOs mental health helpline & they can give you a referral. Obviously, you can find & pay for a therapist on your own if you have the means.
I think any drug (natural, herbal, etc.) will only treat the symptoms, but therapy will give you the tools you need to overcome it more long-term. I was amazed at what I discovered about myself & my fears through therapy. It was a lot of hard work after that (many tears at home & in my therapist's office) to get to a place in my life where I could be free of my anxiety, but I'm there now & it feel so much better!
And congrats on your pregnancy!
Mama to my little busy bee.
It could have been thyroid issues, as people with those sometimes feel better when pregnant. If I were you, I wold make sure to have the thyroid labs, as hypothyroidism can harm the baby. Not trying to make you feel worse, but that is such a simple little test.