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I have a copper IUD I had gotten put in a couple months after I had DD(1yrs old)...so today i felt funny (have AF) but could feel something in there and it seems my IUD is out of place but is still in there. one string feels fine and the other is very long (which is not normal)

so the main dilemma is that I DO NOT have health insurance and now idk what the heck to do. Will it just fall out? any way i can take it out? i certainly can not afford to go to the hospital or Drs to get it fixed...
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oh come on no one has anything? im kind of freaking out here

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I'm not sure about your IUD. I wouldn't mess with it myself.

And I don't mean this in a snarky way, but if you don't have money for a simple doctor's visit, you don't have money for a baby. Think about it.
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I'm not sure about your IUD. I wouldn't mess with it myself.

And I don't mean this in a snarky way, but if you don't have money for a simple doctor's visit, you don't have money for a baby. Think about it.
She simply said that she does not have health insurance right now. You do not know what her situation will be in the future, you do not know that her child will not have insurance. You also do not know if becoming pregnant will make her eligible for state insurance. You did not "mean" to be snarky, and it wasn't, it was just outright mean. I am a low income mama who cannot "afford" a child, and I take great offense at the above statement.

As for the IUD, OP, is there any way you can call a doctor's office and speak to a nurse about it? Are there any low cost clinics that do a sliding scale? What about Planned Parenthood? I would want to at least talk to someone, even if you can't go in. That way you know if it is an urgent thing or something that you can take care of at home.

Good luck on your TTC journey.

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[QUOTE=Pumpkin_Pie;15931317 You also do not know if becoming pregnant will make her eligible for state insurance.
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Being eligible for state insurance is not "affording" a child.
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I'd call planned parenthood. I know that women sometimes remove their IUDs themselves (you can probably google instructions, and I'm pretty sure it's been discussed in some detail here on MDC), but I would worry since it sounds like it's not in correctly, that it could damage your cervix to just yank it out. If I were you, I'd be sure to use another form of birth control until you figure it out. I think the comments about whether you should TTC are rude and uncalled for, but conceiving while you have an IUD puts you at risk for a tubal pregnancy, which obviously can be very dangerous.
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TY pumpkin and Eclipse i did not even think of planned parenthood! great idea!

i for one dont think money makes a family, also DH is in school and will be graduatin in 6 months= better job not like its you're business. also i BF and CD so how much does a baby REALLY cost? we have toys i can get second hand clothes ect. there are plenty of people who are low income parents who do a far better job of raising a child than parents who have money.

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TY pumpkin and Eclipse i did not even think of planned parenthood! great idea!

i for one dont think money makes a family, also DH is in school and will be graduatin in 6 months= better job not like its you're business. also i BF and CD so how much does a baby REALLY cost? we have toys i can get second hand clothes ect. there are plenty of people who are low income parents who do a far better job of raising a child than parents who have money.
I never said low income parents can't do a good job raising a child. There are good and bad parents of every income level. But I believe in personal responsibility, not taxpayer responsibility.
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I second the recommendation to find a sliding scale clinic. Also, don't listen to the people who think you need tons of money to take good care of a baby.
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i have NEVER depended on the state for anything thank you. i literally dont even do WIC. you have NO idea what you are talking about and even if i DID get help at least i would be a citizen doing so. i personally know illegal immigrants who live off the state, and the state is fine with it. so dont give me oh TAXPAYERS money b/c i PAY taxes.

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Also, don't listen to the people who think you need tons of money to take good care of a baby.
Nobody has said you need "tons of money" to take care of a baby. What Mama1803 and both said (she more succinctly than I), is that becoming eligible for assistance is not the same thing as being able to afford a baby.

And Pumpkin_Pie, the OP said that she does not have health insurance AND that she does not have money to go to the doctor. You are right in that she doesn't know what the future will hold, and the expenses that may come with it. She doesn't know for a fact that her DH will find better employment.

I am definitely not saying you have to be well off to have children. I, myself, am not well off. I'm saying that if money is so tight that a doctor's visit is out of the question, then maybe growing one's family should wait. It's not like a trip to the doctor's office costs thousands of dollars. And anyway, if she was thinking of TTC before this slip of the IUD, but can't afford to go to the doctor, how were they going to get the IUD out in order to conceive?
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i have NEVER depended on the state for anything thank you. i literally dont even do WIC. you have NO idea what you are talking about and even if i DID get help at least i would be a citizen doing so. i personally know illegal immigrants who live off the state, and the state is fine with it. so dont give me oh TAXPAYERS money b/c i PAY taxes.
All the talk about state assistance was in response to the person who brought it up.

For some reason I doubt the state is "fine" with giving illegals welfare. There's probably more to the story.
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no its a single man on section 8 who is healthy...idk if he has welfare but he has an apartment paid for by the state...i literally know him and he makes fun of this country for giving him all that he has gotten just for coming here...

so THIS IS ALL IRRELEVANT to my question and in the beggining i said we were thinking about it...not just doing it. im the one who wans to wait actually so im completely done with defending myself.

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You need to use backup birth control until you get this figured out. Getting pregnant with an IUD semi-in-place is not good. Puts you at risk of infection, miscarriage, etc. Do not try to pull it out yourself. Can you feel any hard plastic at your cervix or only the strings?
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If you can only feel threads and no hard poky plastic sticking through your cervix then the thing should still be where it should be.

Your cervix can be in a very different place when menstruating than at other times in your cycle so maybe you can just feel something different now but once AF is gone you may feel that everything is back to normal.

I'd see if you could get someone to have a quick look at it if you still feel that something is wrong in a few days.

The OT content of this thread is waaay OT and not anybody's business.

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ok so i can not feel any plastic. i had my thread cut REALLY short b/c im sensitive. one thread feels fine but one is a couple inches long at least so i assumed that meant it was out of place. so it may not be?
should i wait until AF is over and see how it goes?

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if the threads still feel the same after AF is over, I would get thee to Planned Parenthood ASAP and make sure all is well. I wouldn't risk getting pregnant with an out of place IUD.

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