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What are your thoughts on this? DD is 5 mos and we still haven't taken her for her 4 mo because we don't want vax or the tear duct surgery being recommended. I know the ultimate answer is finding another ped but we are planning to move within the next 5 mos so it seems silly to switch peds only to move to switch again for checkups where they check her weight, vitals, and that's about it.

I'm not sure what I want to do. Should I go to old ped so they can scold me for skipping a visit, delaying vax, and surgery? Find new ped in area between now and when we move? Find new ped which will be at least an hour's drive away and start going there? Or just wait until we move and not worry about visits unless there is a problem? What are others doing in similar situations?
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wbv are set up to get you to vaccinate...there really is NO point if you arent vaxing...
the only thing that im wondering about is tear duct surgery? im not really sure what that is, what would happen if you delayed that?

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dd has never seen an MD.

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DS3 has seen an MD once to check on his hernia at 1 week old. He hasn't been back.
DS1 and DS2 have not seen an MD in over 2 years.
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We don't do WBV - total waste of time.

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Re: the tear duct surgery- is it for a clogged tear duct? My understanding is that it frequently clears up on its own but that there are nonsurgical treatments that you can try. The pedi at the wbv would just refer you on to a specialist so maybe you should just ask for a recommendation if it doesn't clear up on its own.

One thing that a specialist might recommend is antibiotic eye drops as well as massaging the tear duct (there's a specific way to do this and I don't know what it is so don't take my recommendation here)- this clears the problem up in almost all cases. I can also understand wanting to avoid antibiotics at this age but if it enables you to prevent future, more invasive surgery, it might be worth considering. I hope that helps!

My friend's son had this and did end up having the surgery rather early (6 months or so) and it went smoothly but she wonders now if it could have been avoided with the tear duct massage and drops.
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I think I took James for a quick check up at 18 months...before that it was 4 months. I'm not an idiot. I can look at my child and say 'yup he's healthy' so far I'm doing a bang up job. LOL

I intend to buy one of those infant digital scales from BRU (they are like $100 but o'well) and keep track of Wee One's weight on that. Otherwise, I think they are a total waste of time.

Besides, what it the point of taking my HEALTHY baby into a building full of sick people?

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Besides, what it the point of taking my HEALTHY baby into a building full of sick people?
No kidding!

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Hey everybody, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking I have enough confidence to know if baby needs a check up.

As for the clogged tear duct, we have already tried the massage and eye ointment from early on and it hasn't worked. I've read on here already that sometimes it resolves itself after a year so I don't see any reason to do anything just yet if I don't have to. If anyone has any other suggestions though I'd be happy to hear them since the massage and ointment hasn't helped.
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Hey everybody, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking I have enough confidence to know if baby needs a check up.

As for the clogged tear duct, we have already tried the massage and eye ointment from early on and it hasn't worked. I've read on here already that sometimes it resolves itself after a year so I don't see any reason to do anything just yet if I don't have to. If anyone has any other suggestions though I'd be happy to hear them since the massage and ointment hasn't helped.
My dd's resolved right around six months. If the fluid started to look a bit yellow, I'd drip some mother's milk in the eye, but other than that left it alone.
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We do well baby checks. Our family Dr., though not anti-vax, does not hound me about them, so- I feel like I am somewhat covering our butts in case anyone ever does go after us for not vaccinating. If I have to take one of my DC to the hospital, I want to be sure we have a Dr. who knows us well, respects us and will "vouch" for u us, so to speak. YMMV, esp. considering you don't feel your ped does respect you/ your choices.

FWIW, my son's clogged duct finally cleared on it's own at 5 months, and even our ultra-intervention happy ped that we had at the time, felt waiting until after a year was the way to go.

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We were wondering about this too. We don't vax, so we are basically paying to have him weighed, measured, and to get lectured on "how terrible it would be if he died from a disease we could have prevented". I think it's a waste of time & money but my husband is not so sure. He likes the idea of having records of his trends and whatnot.
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We've done WBV so far... but I honestly wouldn't go if I had to pay anything... I suppose thats one good thing about being dirt poor - medicaid! I also wouldn't go if my doc wasn't OK with my decision to not vax - which I'm in the process of firming up for both myself and DH with books Z. ******'s and Kirby's books
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Another "we don't do WBV" here. Until about two weeks ago, my dd#2 hadn't been to the ped since she was about a week old. She got sick and I decided to take her in. I was totally prepared to be interrogated about vaxes and such. After the nurse checked us in, she said, "Are you planning on getting any shots?" My reply was, "We're currently planning on delaying until at least two." (we're really planning on not getting any vaxes at this point) And.......that was the end of the discussion! I was a little surprised, but pleasantly so.

I had my baby checked at birth, one week (or ten days, can't remember), have called the consulting nurse w/questions, and have taken her in to be looked at (once) when I was really concerned. I think that shows that I can and do provide her medical care when necessary. Since we're not vaxing and I can see with my own two eyes that she's healthy and thriving, I'll not be taking her in for WBV.

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We don't do them normally.. We went to the 2 month, a 6 month (because dh was hounding me about a rash she had) and that was it until this one last week, and that was just because I keep hearing about people getting divorced, and then during custody battles it not looking good to never take the child to the doctor to the courts, ETC.. and it got me paranoid, even though i don't count on getting divorced or anything, me and DH are perfectly happy. lol like I said, Paranoid. Now that i know the doctor is okay with no vaccines, I'll be doing a yearly thing Possibly now. I haven't decided. I figure I go yearly. lol

I'm actually kinda glad I went as miranda had a chunk of blue playdoh in the ear, and I would of never known if it wasn't for the appt. lol but before this one I didn't count on doctors to make sure she was okay or not, and I still don't. But they are great for Diagnosing Playdoh in the ear. lol
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WBV are basically vaccine visits, so they are really not necessary. I do them just to have a "medical record" though. They are free with our ins., so might as well, you know? Our doctor has specific hours for only well babies, so we aren't really exposed to too much, I wouldn't think.

As for the tear duct, ds had a blocked one that resolved itself. I don't remember how old he was. I squirted breast milk in it every now and then when the discharge looked yellow and that was it.

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IMO 4 months is really early to consider surgery for the tear duct. DS had it, cleared at 15 months the Eye Doc we saw said he wouldn't cinsdier anything until at least 12 months. Try breastmilk in the eye and a Chiropractor that is what eventually worked for us. We do not do WBV. I am confident that Elliot is meeting milestones and as long as he his healthy why drag him to a place crawling with the germies?

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We see a family practice doctor (if/ when we are sick) and he said that wbv are designed to accomodate the vax schedule. He said he saw no point in seeing my ds unless we would like to bring him in or if/ when he is sick. Ds2 saw him at about 4 weeks and has not been back since

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None of my kids have been for a well baby visit.

Edited to add we only go to a dr when really sick or somethings wrong we cant figure out.
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I was pretty confident that my MW would have picked up a heart problem or genetic defect of DS had one, so he hasn't been to well visits at all.

I would only take my kiddos to the doctor if I knew there was a SERIOUS problem, otherwise it seems for a number of reasons more dangerous to take them than not to. Learned this the hard way with 1st 2 kids.

However, it's good to have a doctor in place for when the kids DO need them. Preferably one that you can trust not to damage your kids.

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We've skipped the well-baby visits too. I went to the first few, but the advice was so wacky that we stopped going.
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No WBV anymore for us either. Our DD presented with issues that almost every ped in the world considered a disaster of major proprtions. It took her over 1 month to regain her birthweight because of terrible suck problems that didn't right themselves until she was 3 mos old. I was told she would never breastfeed and that I had a responsibility to her to put her on formula. She is now a healthy 34lb 28 mo, who was exclusively bf'd until 16 months. Which brought us to our next problem: the fact that she vomited at the mere SIGHT of food until 16 mos. She was growing and developing fine, but didn't want to eat solids. Who could blame her with all the effort we went to to help her nurse . But, our ped told us, again, that we needed to force her to eat. I told him that unless he had a way of forcing her not to vomit, then I didn't really see how that was going to be possible.

THen, I switched to a "natural" nurse-practitioner. ON our first visit, she asked me if I was still night-nursing my then 16mo. When I responded yes (this is before I have even put my diaperbag down) she said "Well, you'll have to stop that now."

I got in my car that day and realized that I have NEVER had a WBV that didn't end up with me seriously reconsidering my natural mothering instincts and the ideas about parenting that I really believed in. So, we keep a ped on hand that we would want to use in the event that we are ever in an ER, but other than that I avoid all roads that lead to a pediatrician's office! My daughter has never been healthier for it.

As for the tear duct thing...My DD had that too. Our Ped, of course, acclaimed all the virtues of antibiotics and surgery, and told us that no amount of breastmilk would cure it and that leaving it alone would be akin to leaving her in the middle of the freeway during rushour. We did nothing and it cleared up, with no damage done whatsoever, at around 1 year.
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I really enjoyed your post. I know all too well that pang of guilt after leaving the office and questioning your personal values. When I surround myself with loving people and those who share my values I feel very confident with my parenting decisions, especially with the second child, but I tell ya, all it takes is one visit to an MD and I suddenly feel about an inch high when I leave.
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I do them just to have a "medical record" though. They are free with our ins., so might as well, you know? Our doctor has specific hours for only well babies, so we aren't really exposed to too much, I wouldn't think.
Same here - we've gone to every WBV that is recommended and we don't vax. Our ped hasn't mentioned vaxes since dd's 2 month visit when vaxes were supposed to start (and we declined, signed the paperwork and we've never heard about it again). For us, WBV is important just for cultivating a relationship w/ our ped, so that if we need him, we'll have a history, he knows us, etc and knows how we care for our kids. Claire had a double ear infection at 9 months, and even though the AAP recommends routing abx for children under 2, he knew that we wouldn't want it, so he gave it to me and said "just take it in case she throws a high fever, and call me tomorrow with an update". Since I have small kids (size-wise), I wanted to know how they were growing and I just like having the numbers to record in their baby books!

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My DS had a clogged tear duct until about 16 mos and it just magically went away one day. I wouldn't worry about it.
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My 4 y.o. dd has only been to the doctor about three times. Two of the times were when she was under two, and the quality of "care" at those visits were so underwhelming, I was tempted to ask for a refund of my co-payment.

The third time, last year, my dd insisted she had an ear infection and needed to see a doctor. So I took her, knowing full well that there was nothing wrong with her.

Other than the hassle with the nurse about deliberately not having a vax card (she was rendered speechless for a moment at that revelation), that visit actually was okay, sweet and short with no stupid questions (still nursing? etc.).

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No WBV here.....actually he saw a ped at 24 hours and hasn't seen one since..although he's never been sick....we've been blessed!!!
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I intend to buy one of those infant digital scales from BRU (they are like $100 but o'well) and keep track of Wee One's weight on that. Otherwise, I think they are a total waste of time.
I got a great baby scale from ebay very cheap so you might want to check out there before spending that much for a scale

I stopped taking ds after his 4 month appt. when I found out that vax were not manditory (if only I had known this years ago ) He did have a heart murmur at birth but a EKG and chest X ray showed no problems so I havnt taken him back for it. He only goes in when he is sick. Same for dd.

 
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I used to do all the visits on schedule, but got tired of the kids getting sick within a week of being there! So no more visits for us, although DH is wanting Abby to get checked out again here soon. Kayla had a heart problem that wasn't detected until 15 months, and he's worried that something might be wrong with Abby too.

The docs know us & our family, and tolerate us for not vaxing. Finding others isn't possible here. DH has problems so he's in there quite a bit (still trying to figure out what's causing them). Plus he's an EMT, so he's in their ER quite a bit too. Most thought we were crazy for having a HB too.

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I think the previous poster's remark about not harming my child is the kicker for me. Why just today I called the allergist because DS is very stuffy and coughing. He has been diagnosed with various allergies and I'm always concerned that we are developing asthma. He has a horrible cough and so I called. Because I made the comment to the nurse that he sometimes has a slight greenish color to his nose drainage, she calls me back after talking to the doc and all they want to do is put him on antibiotics. Didn't want to see him and or anything. I feel like the docs that I'm working with give me absolutely no credit to know what the heck I'm talking about. I just want to yell at them that I'm not one of those moms that calls the doc office all the time and at the drop of a hat and that I know from my mommy instincts that something is different. We've been through colds and such before and this is different. Anyway. I told them that I wasn't comfortable with giving him antibiotics without a much better reason. Nurse gave me attitude. "what do you want us to do then".. Ummm.... Maybe see him sometime before the June 25th appointment I could get.. Frankly.. I don't know that I want them to see him now if that's the way they practice medicine.. AARRRGGGHHHHH.. I'm so frustrated!

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