Originally Posted by Jessica88
Or is it because doctors are trained to not trust someone who says they are a virgin and are led to assume that everyone may or may not have problems so it's important to treat everyone like they are "high risk"?
Where are you getting this from? I know plenty of doctors (Hi, I'm a nurse) both professionally and personally and they aren't trained to not trust their patients. The only time health care professionals treat everyone as if they have "problems" is when Standard Precautions are concerned. We treat everyone in the hospital like they have a communicable disease (grandmas, kids, nuns, EVERYONE) so that we aren't lax with the whole glove/hand washing thing at any time keeping both ourselves and our other patients safe. I don't care if it's the Virgin Mary herself, I'm still wearing gloves.
I think the reason it's encouraged so much is because reproductive health is a very big deal for some women. Abnormalities or infections can make pregnancy difficult or seemingly impossible. Although some things cannot be detected unless a provider is looking specifically for it, for some it's comforting to know that everything is ok. If you don't feel that way, fine, do what you want.
As for not wanting a male provider, find yourself a female provider be it a midwife or an MD. You have the right to request a female provider at all times. If a male MD is bringing in another staff member (nurse, medical assistant) to watch the procedure it's not to further embarrass you it's to cover his butt since people are sue happy these days. Trust me, I don't want to be staring at your vag but it has to be done to protect the MD.
Not partaking in any pelvic exams until you feel necessary is your right plain and simple. But you must also accept the consequences of your choice. Cervical cancer is the easiest cancer to detect early and treat.
It seems as if you have made up your mind about the situation I don't know why you are asking opinions of others. Do the research and make your own decision.