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#1 of 2 Old 12-14-2007, 12:12 PM - Thread Starter
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I'm not sure if this is where I should post this inquiry.

DF's DD is 8 yo and in 3rd grade. She was enrolled in a Montessori School for 1st grade but was put into public ed in 2nd grade when the Montessori rates went up. When she entered public ed she was miles ahead of her classmates and, subsequently, became bored and inattentive. Her teacher approached her parents saying DD was possibly ADHD and that she should be tested.

That was a over a year ago and her current teacher has not said anything about her possibly being ADHD.

Her mother is taking her in to be tested, totally against DF's wishes. It should also be noted that when DD is with her mother (they have 50/50 joint custody) she has unrestricted access to soda and a plethora of junk-food, complete with food dyes and refined sugars. We've been doing a lot of research and do NOT want her to be put on any kind of amphetamine when a simple change in her diet would do wonders. When she's with us we are conscientious about her diet and have noticed a dramatic difference when she does not have soda or junk food. We even did a little experiment with homemade Christmas cookies where she had not had any sugar for several days and then we all sat around the table to decorate the cookies. Of course she licked the small amount of frosting and colored sugar off of her fingers (but didn't even eat a cookie) and within minutes was wide-eyed, jittery and running laps around the house. We couldn't even get her to slow down long enough to help clean up the mess.

DF has suggested to his X that DD go to a nutrition counselor to assist in uncovering food intolerances which are likely the culprit responsible for her behavior LAST YEAR. X is not open to it and insisting on ADHD testing. I don't know if I'm justified or if I'm being judgmental but this is a pretty big brick in the wall that is forming my opinion of this woman. I feel that in her greedy haste for career advancement, her children have been back-burnered. It is much easier for her to give DD a pill that will "fix" her than to make conscious changes in her diet. We desperately do NOT want this little girl to be doped up on amphetamines but feel helpless. DF is planning to attend the appointment with the ADHD specialist but it just feels like a losing battle. If they determine DD has ADHD then they are going to push hard for drugs. We don't know what to do. Please help.
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Why not make it an as-well-as instead of an instead-of? Like, "You think the best way forward is to do X, but we feel pretty strongly about Y, so why don't we do both? If the nutrition counselor comes up with some suggestions AND you get an ADHD diagnosis with a prescription attached, let's agree to try to least interventive method first and see how she responds, and then if there really seems to be a persistent problem we'll think again."

It sounds like you won't have much luck trying to prevent her getting tested, but you might be able to follow up on some of your ideas if you don't go head-to-head with her over the testing. Maybe?
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