Originally Posted by EBeth0000
Also, you can do what I would do every time DH would forget about how just sitting there on the stitches hurt--I would offer to punch him in the nuts and see how well he could do laundry
Thanks for the laugh!
Your DB will survive without sex for much longer than that if needed! For perspective, I have spent months - since the end of July - on variations of bed rest and modified rest. We couldn't have sex from 13-34wks during the pregnancy, I was really sick and not interested weeks 6-11, and now we are postpartum so my DH has only had a few weeks of sex in the last 9 months! Yes, the lack of sex and the extra responsibility DH faced while trying to work 80hrs a week were really challenging for him, and for the whole family. But we happily are accepting all of this because we didn't think our little one would make it through this pregnancy, and now she is here!
I am not trying to belittle your frustration, but to add a little perspective from someone who has happily chosen to have another baby again, even after a traumatic birth, life threatening complications, and all 3 pregnancies high risk! It seems really hard right now, but think of what you have earned! You have a precious little one in your arms! You have another person in your family! Parenting will not be all roses and sunshine, nor will the postpartum period. There are times in both that you will probably want to throw your hands up and cry - I know I have. But in time, you will see, it is worth all of this and probably more to you! You have so many little snuggles, smiles, and beautiful moments to look forward to. Then in a year or two's time, all of the pain of childbirth and recovery, even if it gets worse from here, will probably pale in comparison to how much you love your little one! That is why people can go through such things, and dive back in headfirst for another child! Just my two cents, since you asked!
And don't feel bad about whining either, especially here with a group of postpartum Moms! I am in a whiny mood about my postpartum issues too today, and I am not in pain! We have a right to whine, complain, and cry. You just went through a natural labor, your recovery is challenging, you're balancing the new demands of parenthood and doing it all in the midst of raging hormones - you have a right to do and say a lot! So go with it, vent it out, take a nap because you deserve to, eat some chocolate, take a hot bath, tell db to sit on the couch and sunggle with you and like it! And this will all be behind you before you know it!
And for a practical bit of advice - I highly recommend the Maya Wrap or some sort of baby carrier! My kids never liked the newborn position, but all seem to like being upright against my chest. It is kind of like being pregnant again, only a little higher on your body, but you can carry laundry, do the dishes, etc. as soon as your body heals up a bit! Until then, try and get some rest, and you will feel a lot better emotionally too!
Best of luck to you!