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#1 of 4 Old 03-17-2009, 08:53 PM - Thread Starter
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Or am I the only one?

I tore really badly and weirdly and I'm still REALLY sore. It's awful, and has stopped getting better! In fact, in some ways its getting worse and is more sore than it was a week ago. I don't know if thats b/c I stopped taking ibuprofen completely and so now I just feel it all or if its just not healing anymore. I'm really frustrated though - I want to feel NORMAL AGAIN!!!!

I'm tired of my boyfriend asking when we can have another, I don't want my family to tell me again that Lincoln needs a sibling - he doesn't!! I don't want anymore b/c I don't want to go through another PP healing time again! I know thats selfish.

Also, PLEASE someone tell me this is better than a c/s - everyone in my family seems to think I'm still in pain b/c I had an all natural birth and not a c/s. They tell me just have a c/s for the next one - and I'm TERRIFIED of that! The birth was the easy part - this just sucks!

Oh yeah, Lincoln is 9.5 weeks right now, so I'm getting really impatient about this whole healing thing. I'm even too scared to have sex - theres just NO WAY my fragile perineum could handle that right now!
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#2 of 4 Old 03-20-2009, 11:09 AM
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I'm not still sore besides sex, or if I stretch that area somehow.

But I've had a c/s and YES natural childbirth is much easier! Recovery too!

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Thyra, you just had a particularly bad experience this time around. Every childbirth experience is different. I would say that a c/s recovery is more difficult, in general, but like I said, you just had a rough go of things. If it's still bothering you, why not make an appt with your mw and have her take a look at it and give you some suggestions? :

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another option: there are specialists that deal w/this - like in SF there are these folks
expensive. not covered by insurance. but just so u know there are specialists out there...

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