thanks for all the feedback, you guys!
juls, the one thing i hear about AIOs is that they don't want to dry in the dryer. did your friend say anything about that?? they are tempting, but yes, so expensive.
vm, i have been looking at mother ease and thinking prefolds with wraps might be the way to go. or contours with wraps?? they have those at mother ease, too. what do you think of contours??
jkuneau, thanks for sling recommendations. i ordered the rebozo and will order the huggamonkey as soon as i take the measurement, so thanks!!
one more question to put to you guys: breastfeeding. on one side he will NOT open his mouth far enough and when he does he is keeping his tongue on the roof of his mouth. he is tearing that nipple to SHREDS. i just broke his latch on the side more than a dozen times before just giving up and giving him the other, onto which he latches perfectly and with ease every time. WHAT THE HELL!?!?! i am really frustrated with this and really hurting. i have tried numerous positions, i'm tickling his nose with my nipple, all that, but he *will not* put his tongue down on that side only. he is not tongue tied. ideas?? advice?? it's driving me **insane**!!
ok, one more question: letting go of anger. my birth experience was great, at home, peaceful, and unassisted since my mw got caught in bad weather. my doula made it for the last five minutes. i had told both of these women over and over and over and over that i was going to catch my son and that i didn't want them touching him. i told them that with a water birth i would have plenty of time to reach around for him. when he was born i practically threw a hip out trying to beat my doula to my baby. she reached for him at the same time i did, and after a few seconds let go and i brought him to my chest. however, when she tells the story she did 'the catch'. my mw wife has now announced several times how carol 'did the catch'. i sometimes lay awake at night burning with anger over this!! i don't want to feel this way, but i do. i would think she wouldn't want to admit that she nearly robbed me of an experience so precious to me and that she completely disrespected my wishes, and yet 'carol did the catch' rings in my ears night and day. it is tainting this experience and that enrages me more. advice?? help with this??? i really don't want to feel like this.
mommy to arthur, erik
AND baby juicy!!! born 2-5-09