Anyway, I know most of you ladies are far more educated on this than I am, so I would like to hear your thoughts.
Lookin' for answers
My dh was circed...and planned that his ds would be...he admitted just cause thats what he has always known. After reading up on it in various books ect he decided strongly against it(of course I made him believe it was all his decision, ahh men fall for anything!!!)
Mothering this month has an article about circ, actually shows pictures of how they do it. Scary. Theres also many books, im sure if you search your library log you'll find one.
My midwives were actually quite great at making sure I didn't get ds circed. They lent me a book that REALLY hit home, about circ within different cultures, religions and female circ(VERY SCARY)...and that helped me alot with people who pushed the clean factor...girls get way more infections then boys and you would NEVER think of messing around with theyre genitals(most people will say cause you cant do it to girls) then when you say we'll some cultures do.....(dont even want to say!!!) why is it alright for boys but not girls??? people shut up real quick!
Read whatever you can find...here are my two big reasons
1) what makes me feel that I have a right to take something off my beautiful born perfect son...if at some point he needs to get circed(doubtful) and he asks why I didn't do it at birth, I'll tell him because I didn't think it was right for me to make that kind of decision that couldn't be reversed
2) less and less boys are getting circed...before if you werent you would be the odd man out in the changeroom, by the time our lil boys end up in school only around 20% will be circed(midwives gave me that lil gem)
HTHs I cant tell you what to do, but those were my reasons for not circing...all i can tell you is to read up and make your own decision, listen to what advice people give you but make your own decision!
The anti-circ forum here has a wealth of information that I really recommend you read.
Have your husband watch a circ video - they are on YouTube and elsewhere - and see if he feels the same way for very long.
My husband and I feel the removal of healthy tissue from a child (who cannot consent) is mutilation, and I see no difference between female circumcision/genital mutilation and male circumcision, other than current levels of social acceptance.
My husband is circumcised, and it upsets him that his parents made that decision for him because it was "the thing to do."
So, in sum: Absent a legitimate, specific medical reason to remove a boy's foreskin, there's no way in hell we'll be circumcising.
If your dh is not circ why in the world would he want to remove part of your ds's penis?? Your dh still has the "best" part your ds should as well. Please come over to the CAC forum and you will find all the information you need to keep your ds intact. There are a few links in CAC with circ video and 1 that is just still pictures that one is the only one I could bring myself to look at and it made me so ill I couldnt finish.
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We're not circumcising our son. It's not my body, I have no right to modify it without his consent. I'd rather he be angry that I left him the option than angry that I violated/mutilated him (depending on his POV on the subject and how bad they botched it--the year I was born, 80% of circumcisions were botched in some way). As for DH--he's left it in my hands because he honestly doesn't care and agrees with my reasoning listed above.
DH is fine being circumcised and I am fine with his penis. But I don't feel the need to make my son more attractive to ME. Ew, lol.
SAHM to DS Jan09, DD Mar11.
If this is a boy (and that is a big if), we won't circ.
But, I still kept saying 'it was up to my husband' I don't know why I felt that way at the time. I wouldn't now! But luckily, my DH was on board after talking to my mom about it. My friend left it up to her husband and he did for no other reason than looking like daddy, and it makes me sad whenever I babysit their son and do a diaper change or whatever. . .it was really bad looking as a newborn.
My in-laws made a few comments to DH about it after DS was born (thankfully never within my earshot) but finally he was just like, "look, we're obviously not doing it NOW, so just drop it" And they have. DS has never had any problems with anything so far because of not being circ'd (and why would he?)
So now I wouldn't do it for any subsequent boys. That was just our journey.
If I have a boy I do not want to circ but DH is being very stubborn. he says he doesnt remember it, it didnt scar him and he thinks his mother did him a favor by making him "socailly acceptable."
Ugh! Doesnt matter what I show him or what he reads... :
I am really really hoping for a boy but this is making me consider hoping for a girl.
homeschooling mama to ella (9) and maya (5)
I think if my first had been a boy, he probably would have been circ'd, my Ex is from the US and is circ'd and was pretty gung-ho on the idea. Though living in BC it's an elective surgery, so maybe beween my MW's and my Mum I would have had some sense knocked into me in time. I'll never know though, as luckily I had a girl and din't have to think about it
My two boys are uncut, not nesesarily because I was any more educated on the matter (at least for the first), but because my DH's Mum somehow got a gem of a Doctor when she was pregnant with him, and she talked her and my FIL out of circ'ing him And this was back in '68, when it was still a routine surgery here, and the Dr. had to fight the hospital staff not to do it anyway!
mom to Reaghan born underwater into midwife's hands 1/17/07 & Myra born surrounded by doulas and midwife at home 1/12/09. Birth Educator, and Photographer, Baby #3 Coming May 2013!
i think i love you. come to the "jewish moms who didnt circ" thread if you are not there already (i just found it).
btw, re. the OP: i'm not in this DDC, but feel passionately about this topic, only in the last few months since i have taken the time to inform myself. DH is jewish and relatively observant -- i'm neither jewish nor observant. i had tacitly agreed for our first 2 kids that we would circ if they were boys. (i had not taken the trouble to educate myself and thought it was basically no big deal)
anyway, this time around, i put my foot down. i had nightmares about circumcision as soon as i learned i was pregnant. i knew i couldn't live with myself if we did it.
after a few days of misery, DH said "if that's how you feel about it, we won't do it" :
(chances are we may end up with another girl anyway)
i strongly urge anyone who is reading this thread, and planning to circ, to inform/educate yourselves as much as possible before making this decision. this will affect the rest of your son's life, and you owe it to him to at least know why you made the decision you did.