She was using the water-pick thingy which hurts my gums and I was cringing.
Then she told be I should have an epidural because I can't handle a little pain.
I know I have a low pain threshold but does that mean I won't be able to labour naturally?
Does anyone else have a low pain/discomfort level?
Thats just my theory. I had two epidurals and Im doin this one drug free... I just hope I havent bitten off more than I can chew
Christian SAHM to DS 3/04, DS 1/06, and DD 1/09 and expecting a new little one in May 2012
Don't let someone else undermine your decision regarding birth, regardless of what it is. The dentist isn't you, and the outcome of birth isn't a clean set of chompers - it's a baby! That made a huge difference to me - I knew labor would eventually end, and I wanted to be able to walk around during labor (you can't with an epi). There are a couple of good threads in the Birth and Beyond section talking about this very thing.
Anyhow, I had a natural birth--no interventions whatsoever. And I cried like a baby when I flossed all through my pregnancy.
Chasing DS since April 2007 and pumping for DD March 2013.
But, wanna know a little secret? I don't want a natural birth because I think I'm hardcore. I want a natural birth because the idea of an epidural or a c-section scares me WAY worse than pain does! The big old needle in my spine... the possibility of an epidural headache... or freaking paralysis... And as for the cascade of interventions that could lead to abdominal surgery!? NOT FOR ME, ladies! Hospitals scare the crap out of me, I've never even had stitches... So I will proudly claim the title of Queen of the Wimps and hide out at home for my birth.
Also, different pains in different locations are easier than others to handle. You cringed from the water pick because you were detecting injury. Labor isn't injury, it's productive, which I think really makes it easier to take.
Still, if you're nervous, look into something like hypnobabies--a lot of moms swear their labors were easier because of it.
I actually enjoy getting tattoos, and don't mind dental work (until they get to the hypersensitive exposed areas, yow), but I once bawled and whimpered my way through an HSG. (Granted, the doctor was inflating an internal balloon in there, and used one that was TOO BIG, but still. Worst pain EVER.)
That was actually worse than childbirth, and I did NOT have an easy childbirth. It's just...different.
I'm no marathon runner but you get the point. I was able to birth naturally and never once got the "I can't do this" feeling. You CAN do it.
I know labour isn't easy. I wasn't fantasising that I get through it gracefully and looking serene.
But I really think I can do it without medical pain relief if I can move around, remember my techniques and have my husband there to support me.
It was just disappointing to have someone tell me I wasn't cut out for it when I haven't even tried yet.
I think the difference is that the pain of birthing bring you to a beautiful end result, where as waxing and teeth scraping just bring you the pain.
I just enjoyed the labor for as long as I could. I hate medication so I resisted the epidural for the first 24 hours. I found labor to be a lot of fun...especially since I felt so lucky to be feeling contractions at all (given that I was supposed to have a c-section and never feel any stages of labor at all). At nine centimeters I got the epidural -- they said you could have them at any point, early or late at my hospital. I'm so glad I waited to get it...that I felt so much of the labor. Plus, it slowed down my labor a lot, so I'm glad it didn't happen earlier or I may have stalled out. But I also don't regret getting the epidural either. I felt really at peace with it all. I went as long as I could and then I also enjoyed the epidural. And I went on to vaginally birth my 9+ pounder, which was more than I had ever hoped for a month before with c-section date in hand!!
I say, be flexible. Open to the pain. Open to the possibility of interventions. Open to the whole experience. I don't think I would've enjoyed my labor so much if I felt like I wasn't giving myself any options, you know? It made it easier to go on without the epidural knowing that I could have it later if I wanted. Very liberating.
There is an important difference between pain of when there's something wrong and pain of that change like in labor or growing or something along those lines. I am pretty wimpy about pain when there's something wrong, particularly teeth related. But labor was somehow different. You see an end to it, there's a reward there! The fact that it comes in waves for the most part also helps it because you get to breathe between the waves and know that you handled one, and you can sure handle the next one. All you really have to think about is handling that next one once it hits. Vocalizing makes a huge difference. Keeping your mouth relaxed also makes a huge difference. None of those things help with tooth or other 'something wrong' pain.
Gosh, I hope I'm making sense here...
I loved Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth - inspiring stories and great practical tips for managing labor.
And since I'm giving birth in a hospital, I'm going to have big signs and my DH and mom to remind people NOT to coach me when to push. I wanted to punch the OB with DS's birth, and I'm not normally a very violent person. I think they're so used to women with epis who need to be told when to push that they're thrown when women don't need help. Plus, they told me not to vocalize. I know more this time - they can SUCK IT!
They told you not to vocalize? Can someone please explain why they do this? I dont understand what rational reason they could have to tell a laboring woman not to vocally release her pain/ tension/ emotion.
Dental work is not natural and your body is basically under attack, you have no control over what is going on, it hurts because of this. I also agree that most dentist I have seen don't want to admit they are hurting you. I love my dentist now and it only helps a little that he admits that it does in fact hurt some times. I find the dentist very painful and I also find flossing painful.
I have Fibromyalgia so I experience chronic pain on a regular basis, labor was not pain, not in the same way at all. Some parts are difficult but there is an end. My second labor was very fast and intense, at first I started out scared of the strength of it, that did cause pain. I started to worry I couldn't handle it but then I thought about how it was just one day out of my life to give to the work of bringing my baby home. My labor lasted 30 min. It was my second child though but my first was only 4 hrs, I really think the key for me was letting go and just breathing. When you feel something, don't think pain try to think "that's a new sensation, I didn't know I had that muscle before."
to wonderful people with on the way!
Mama to Gabriel (1-10-2009) and newborn Helena (10-9-2011) with DP Julio. ...cloth diapering, attachment parenting, infant EC-ing, etc.
Comforts of Home Midwifery
I figure if I can make it through that hell, I can do a natural, normal birth pain-med free, no problem. People tell me I was "so lucky" it only lasted 2 hours - but let me tell ya, when it's something your body is designed to do over a 12-36 hour (ish?) period, a process with time to acclimate to what's going on, to intensify gradually, and you force it to speed up unnaturally, it's torture. i had no chance to get used to contractions, to let them build up, to work through them because there was no end to them, no break, and very intense from the second they started. I guess I'm very sensitive to the drug, because other women don't have the same intensity/quickness issues, but man, let me be a cautionary tale!
I meditated through it, wthout knowing that's what I was doing. I kept thinking things like "Open" and "down," "relax," "breathe," etc. Those things were very helpful to me. I was very much inside my own head, to the point the nurses were joking that they culd say anything and I'd never know to which I snapped, "I can hear you just fine, now shut the hell up!"