ETA Of course that title should have read Who not Whose,LOL
A friend of mine didn't seem to get the concept that no one knows- she seemed to think that my "doctors" (I've got mw's) must surely know somehow and I just asked them not to tell. I had to explain that, no, NO ONE KNOWS- not me, not anyone, because no one has done any of the necessary things to find out.
I only had a quick 10wk u/s b/c of spotting, and a 10-second ER u/s at 16 wks b/c of fainting (doc insisted ), so we haven't even had the opportunity. I imagine it would be a LOT harder to not find out if we'd done the anatomy scan - I'm so impressed with anyone who does and still manages to wait!
Surprisingly, a lot of people have been really positive about it being a surprise - except my mom, who's extremely annoyed!
SAHM to DS Jan09, DD Mar11.
mom to Reaghan born underwater into midwife's hands 1/17/07 & Myra born surrounded by doulas and midwife at home 1/12/09. Birth Educator, and Photographer, Baby #3 Coming May 2013!
Hospitals around here have a policy of not telling the sex at the 20 week U/S for several reasons. They have made mistakes in the past and want to avoid litigation. Many hospitals here are also affiliated with various religious denominations and at 20 weeks you can still legally abort if the baby is the "wrong" gender. If you ask, a few technicians will let it slip, or linger the scan on the appropriate part for parents to figure it out for themselves. But this is more common in subsequent scans if you must go for fetal assessment.
Most moms in this area go to a private U/S clinic to have "pictures" done and the gender determined if they don't have to go for fetal assessment. To me its not worth the $100+ (medical U/S are covered by our provincial Medicare, non-medical ones are paid out of pocket).
To be honest, when my first was born, I was soo overjoyed to have a baby that after 10 minutes the midwife had to prompt me with, "So, is it a boy or a girl??".
Comforts of Home Midwifery
The funniest thing is that all my friends are always asking me how I don't look at the ultrasound to find out...and then they always wonder why I don't just want to find out ASAP. I just want to be surprised - and since I don't really care if its a boy or girl it'll be more fun to be surprised
Molly, mama to my 3 sweet boys.
My chiropractor also thinks it's a boy, somehow based on my face, although she said she can tell better near the end.
My sister also thinks it's a boy.
Does anyone else have random people in your lives certain about your baby's gender? I think it's funny when people guess, but I'm starting to get a little convinced it's a boy, since everyone but my mom is telling me that!
SAHM to DS Jan09, DD Mar11.
mfrykas, my tech at the ultrasound, after asking if we wanted to know, preceeded it with "Now, we cannot tell you 100% for sure if its a boy or girl for legal reasons, its only a best guess." She then took a look and went "Okay, about 95% sure its a girl." A couple minutes later she kinda giggled and went "Nevermind, I'm 99.999999% sure its a girl." But still not 100% for that same reason as apparently Canada?
Loving wife to an amazing SAHD : Mommy to Aviendha 01/19/09
My MW thinks it's a boy. A lot of my coworkers think girl. I thought girl, now boy. Who knows? Either way, it will be just what was meant to be!
Still - I love, love, love : finding out at the birth itself...so fun!
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