I'm taking over the thread for Calmom, since she is moving forward!
Anything about waiting and wanting to TTC is open for discussion. Tribe #4 has been very helpful for me, and I want to continue on with the support!!!!
Here's to a quick wait for us all!!!!
Here's our list. If you want me to add you or make any changes PM me or post it here in BOLD.
Housekeeping notes: If you are on the list and your month has come and gone, I'm moving you to the "In our thoughts" list. If we haven't heard from you and there is no month next to your name, I'm also putting you on the "in our thoughts" list. If you wish to be moved back, please let me know, I'll be happy to do so!
Waiting to TTC
idigchaitea Jan 2010
PiePie Dec 2009
Vermillion "Whenever it's meant to happen, it'll happen"
rumi79 Dec 2009
MovingMomma June/July 2010
claddaghmom November 2010
3boobykins Nov 2009
Simply Rochelle
BabyA'sMom Dec 2009
CherryBomb May 2010
annettemarie Dec 09/Jan 2010
Milk8shake Mar 2010
zejh
mangosink0 Feb/Mar 2010
ecstaticmama24
M2L09 May 2010
Black Orchid
Thanks for the new thread! I am still here, and ovulating, and miserable.
I went to buy few things for my nephew yesterday and got stuck in the baby section. There were so many cute baby clothes that for the first time after I lost the baby I felt like wanting to be pregnant again. So December, here I come
I will miss this month just to make sure that I can drink on DH birthday Dec 6 and Christmas
I'm officially waiting until I can officially try again in January ::sigh:: My OB said I had a very healthy ovulation the other day. My appointment HAPPENED to be on that day. K... so if I think about it, I get this AF about November 28 and then an O and and AF at the end of December. OMG!!!! And that's all!!!!
hi hi hi hi hi! everyone seems to be in good spirits about their wait for the moment. That's a good thing...time flies when we're having fun!
rumi79, baby things drive me crazy...its all so cute.
CherryBomb, hi!
claddaghmom, I had to look up CTA (charting to avoid, right?). We are doing CTA to avoid light. Its worked pretty well so far.
KeyToMamasHeart, what does mwahs mean??!?!
Evenstar1025, woo! Less than two months and with all the distractions of the holidays, that will be here before we know it!
AFM, I'm about to O and feeling a little frisky ; ), but I'll be good. An "oops" moment would not be the best thing for me right now. I'm STILL waiting to hear about my insurance (read my posts on the wanting but waiting tribe#4 to read my saga, if you need to know. Bottom line, I'm waiting for an ins. co. to accept me before I start trying again). TODAY, I feel okay about the wait. Being PG is such a huge thing that I feel like I'll never be able to say, "ok, let's do this." So I feel like a "heat of the moment" moment will be the way it happens. That's pretty much how it happened with my last pregnancy, the one I lost, the only one I've had. Hopefully I'll feel differently once I have insurance.
*mwahs* is the sound you'd hear if you could hear me blowin' kisses around the board!
haha, i remember when i worked jobs when i was younger, i would think of the last dragging hour as "only 4 sets of 15 minutes left to go".
it HELPED! went by so fast.
the way i think of my cycle (28 days) is this...
4 sets of fridays.
AF gets one friday, then there's only three fridays to go before the start of a new cycle.
makes it sound shorter
or i'll pick other things like:
only 14 loads of laundry left until the next round...
only 28 lunches...
only 14 tubbies... (maybe less, if Lily would stay CLEAN! lol)
only 2 gas fill-ups in the van...
only 2 visits to my parents...
etc...
some work well... some not so much.
Heya, popping in here because I haven't posted to the waiting thread in quite a while. I need to get caught up!!
Can you please change my status from Nov/Dec to "Whenever it's meant to happen, it'll happen"
I don't think we'll be "TTC" at all at any point in the near future. Too much stress. We're not avoiding either, but my cycles are CRAZY lately, so nothing's been happening and who knows when it will. Right now I'm just focusing on being healthy and trying to get my cycles straightened out. If I get knocked up at some point, somehow, than awesome!
But it's not really a major focus right now.
So anyway, I'm not sure I even belong here anymore… I'm not really waiting, but not TTC either, so… I don't know. I'm waiting on my body to cooperate, so I guess that counts! I think I'll hang around
Holy crap. I guess this is my tribe now. I need somewhere to call home.
Of course, I have no idea how long the "waiting" part of this is going to be. However, it will be at least until March 2010 if not longer than that.
Yesterday I had a d&c, so I guess my head won't be right for a while yet - but I can see some waiting happening. Maybe a year? I don't know.
After my last loss, I knew I wanted to try again straight away. This time I don't know. DP wants to wait some too, he reckons he can't stand to see me hurting like this.
I need a project. Something to keep me occupied and something positive to focus on. Oh, and a new job. I've pretty much hated my job since my June loss. Oh and maybe a puppy. That one is DP's idea. As if our big furry 2.5 yo dog-child isn't enough of a handful for me - LOL.
Greedy aren't I?
I empathize, milk8shake. My first loss back in May was ectopic. I wasn't concerned about trying again because it's just a random thing and not likely to happen again. Got pregnant in July and then had an unexplained 2nd trimester miscarriage. Now I'm terrified of getting pregnant again
I know my heart needs to wait until after our son's due date, so it's May 2010 at the earliest for us.
Well, I got my reds last night and I'm pretty psyched to see them! My cycle was.... 33 days! Definitely an improvement over the increasingly long cycles I've been having over the past several months, last month being 48 days! I thought it would be even longer this month as that's the direction they've been heading in since April. I haven't been charting so I have NO idea when I Od (I think I wasn't Oing and/or having a short LP when I did O) but anyway, 33 days still makes me much happier than 48 regardless!
trhat maybe my body will start getting back on track!!
KeyTomammasHeart - I like your way of breaking down and passing time. I might test it out next time I have some mundane task that needs to be gotten through.
Vermillion - First off, I think you totally belong here. Waiting is waiting. But yay for the more normal cycle. I hope you are getting on track soon!
Milk8shake - Sorry for your loss. How's the recovery coming? I hope you are doing well. I know its been a few days. Projects can be so helpful, and a puppy sounds like a MAJOR project...a cute and cuddly major project.
CherryBomb - I just started knitting again too.
AFM - I've had a couple of crazy days. Just been extra sad about things and really ready to start trying again, but not able to. Then today I was at the dentists office and in the waiting room there were these two little girls playing and their moms were talking about birthdays. One mom said that her son's birthday is on February 17th, and I almost jumped into the conversation because that is my birthday, and then I remembered that it was also my due date and it made me sad because I was so excited to be potentially sharing a birthday with my little one (even though I know due dates aren't guaranteed). THEN the other lady said that HER birthday is Feb 14 and her daughter was due on the same day, but she didn't want to share a birthday and thankfully her daughter came early. At that point, I'm actually crying. I try to get myself together before they call me back, and then they call me back. So I'm walking through the office trying to hide my tears and keep my emotions under control. Then they do a quick exam and the billing lady comes in to talk to me about what they are going to do and how much its going to cost and I loose it and start crying again. It sucked so bad. And the dentist totally hurt and I still have to go back for more work. I'm trying to look at the bright side (that being that you are supposed to get any dental work out of the way before getting pg) but its not really helping. Boo on today.
I hope you can get over the sadness soon. It is perfectly fine to be upset and you can cry as much as you want, hell with the others! Who cares what do they think! Sorry for the dentist, I hate them so much and I have to go too this month.
My baby was going to be due in April... well, "technically" May 7 but I expected at least a week early. Now at best-case scenario, we can be expecting in September/October of next year. And I don't expect the best-case scenario... pray for the best but be ready for the worst.
Hi, can I be added? I have no idea when we'll be able to try.
It's been a little over a month since my c-section (I posted about this in a few places, if you don't know my story), which was a vertical incision, so I really have to make sure it's really healed, at the very least, and my OB at the 6-week appointment said he advised against trying before the large fibroid I have is "addressed"--though, luckily, I've got an appointment in a few weeks with a specialist who was also one of the people operating on me, so I'll trust her word on what I should do before trying and how long I have to wait. (I knew about the fibroid for several years before I got pregnant, but it never seemed to cause problems, and getting it removed is far from risk-free or even permanent, so I didn't want to do anything)
If there were no medical issues to worry about, I think I would try to get pregnant as soon as possible, which is strange to say because I had a really difficult pregnancy from very early on, and for all I know I could be signing myself for many more months of restricting my life, without any assurance that things will turn out fine. But I can't stand the thought of not trying. It's so frustrating, but I'm sure anyone who's here understands that.
Originally Posted by colorclash
AFM - I've had a couple of crazy days. Just been extra sad about things and really ready to start trying again, but not able to. Then today I was at the dentists office and in the waiting room there were these two little girls playing and their moms were talking about birthdays. One mom said that her son's birthday is on February 17th, and I almost jumped into the conversation because that is my birthday, and then I remembered that it was also my due date and it made me sad because I was so excited to be potentially sharing a birthday with my little one (even though I know due dates aren't guaranteed). THEN the other lady said that HER birthday is Feb 14 and her daughter was due on the same day, but she didn't want to share a birthday and thankfully her daughter came early. At that point, I'm actually crying. I try to get myself together before they call me back, and then they call me back. So I'm walking through the office trying to hide my tears and keep my emotions under control. Then they do a quick exam and the billing lady comes in to talk to me about what they are going to do and how much its going to cost and I loose it and start crying again. It sucked so bad. And the dentist totally hurt and I still have to go back for more work. I'm trying to look at the bright side (that being that you are supposed to get any dental work out of the way before getting pg) but its not really helping. Boo on today.
I feel like I could have written this. I'm there with you. Even down to the super expensive dental work. I have just been sooo down. We have been living with another couple to cut down on expenses and now we're finally moving into our own place which just makes me want to fill it with babies. We still have so much left to do before we're at a place where dh and I will be on the same page. I still have a $4300 hospital bill from our loss that he wants to have paid off before I get pregnant again. I cry every single time I write them a check. Now I'm having to get extensive dental work done over the next 6 months including an upper partial and that's going to cost me about $2500. I just hate feeling like I'm still YEARS from being a parent when that is all my heart wants. I'm terrified that by the time dh agrees to just go for it, it will take 14 months again for me to even get pregnant (or longer!). I have one of those really Clomid-happy doctors who at the slightest mention of having tried for almost 3 years now, pushes Clomid on me which I just wasn't strong enough to turn down this previous month. I've already decided not to use it until I know that DH is fully on board again but having it around has already started making me bug him more about it every day in the hopes of slowly wearing him down. I secretly hope once we're totally moved in and he sees how much extra space we have, he won't be able to resist the urge to add a baby haha. And now I have to go to work and love on someone else's adorable 16 month old all day.
Milk8shake - Sorry for your loss. How's the recovery coming? I hope you are doing well. I know its been a few days. Projects can be so helpful, and a puppy sounds like a MAJOR project...a cute and cuddly major project.
Well, I have been so suprised that my D&C recovery was super quick - barely bleeding and only *some* cramps. I've been tired, but okay. Crazily, out of nowhere yesterday I'm suddenly bleeding and cramping to the point that I couldn't drive? For a good 8-10 hours. What is that all about?
In other news, coming up to Christmas I'm going to get the award for world's worst friend. I skipped my BFF's son's birthday party, cancelled plans for DP's BFF (+ kid) to come stay with us, and hid in the house when DP's best mate, 2 kids and preggo wife popped over yesterday.
DP says - you can't avoid them forever... Really? Why not? It sounds pretty good to me. I mean I love our friends, and their kids but OW!
Originally Posted by Milk8shake
In other news, coming up to Christmas I'm going to get the award for world's worst friend. I skipped my BFF's son's birthday party, cancelled plans for DP's BFF (+ kid) to come stay with us, and hid in the house when DP's best mate, 2 kids and preggo wife popped over yesterday.
DP says - you can't avoid them forever... Really? Why not? It sounds pretty good to me. I mean I love our friends, and their kids but OW!
hmmm... if i were pg, and i knew my DH's best mate's DP had just experienced a loss... i probably wouldn't go over unless i got DH to ask how his buddy's DP feels about it first... but that's just me.
if you can't handle it, you can't. i can see why you probably can't avoid forever, but for NOW?!? HECK yes you can. do what makes you feel better. not what makes you feel worse. <3
xo
I hope everyone made it through the holiday okay. I know its only Saturday morning, but the worst of it is over, I hope. I had a pretty good Thanksgiving, (phew) but the week leading up to it was sort of rocky. Oh and then for some reason, as I was getting ready for bed on Thursday night the profoundness of my loss REALLY hit me hard. Sometimes, I'm sad cause I was pg one day and then I wasn't. But then other times its like, WOW I had a little baby growing inside me and now I don't and its gone and I'll never get to meet her. This takes my breath away.
I did better at Thanksgiving than I thought I would, considering it was the one month "anniversary" of my last m/c. When my husband's aunt was leading the prayer, she made mention of our son, and it was nice, but emotional. I should have been nearly 21 weeks pregnant and having everyone congratulate us on expecting a boy
Instead I just drank a lot of wine and tried not to think about it.
Same here with lots of wine, I did good. Nobody mentioned my baby, but I felt kinda weird. I started crying earlier that afternoon while cooking because I imagined how would I've looked with 7 month pregnant belly.
I don't know why I keep doing this to myself...
Next Wednesday is a colleague of mine baby shower with the same EDD
I can't say I can't go because they conviniently scheduled it for our lunch break and nobody but my big boss knows that I had a MC.
Hopefully I'll stay on the list. Dh and and I hadn't been together for like 2 months, which doesn't bother me as I have zero sex drive, but I know he was getting frustrated. I've had fertile cervical mucus every day for 2.5 weeks!
KeyToMamasHeart, good luck with TTC! I hope that you find yourself pregnant soon!
rumi79, thinking about you and sending you strength and serenity. On one hand, I hope you find a way out of the shower. I would even call in sick that day, just to get out of it. Or maybe have a "doctors" appointment. BUT on the other hand, I think its amazing that you are planning on facing it.
CherryBomb, I hope you stay on the list too. I know your wait is still long.
AFM, I got rejected by stupid insurance today. I'm so angry about this, because it is really the only thing actually making me wait. They cited an ovarian cyst (the er found a simple cyst during my miscarriage, and my OB/GYN said they are very common and not to even worry about it) and "two miscarriages in two years" as the reason for the rejection. Which is not even correct. I've only had ONE miscarriage. So I get to fight with the insurance right from the start. I have no idea if having only one miscarriage will make a difference. But the rejection was such a kick in the gut today. I really hope that the reform bill is passed. I mean, if simple cysts and miscarriages are so damn common, how can that be grounds for health insurance denial???? How does anyone over the age of 25 NOT have a preexisting condition????
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