I have 1 son who was born perfectly fine, normal pregnancy, nothing wrong. He was 9 mo old when I got pregnant again. I lost our baby when I was 10 weeks. I'm just wondering if anyone knows if the chances of a mc go up after the first one. We have no idea what the cause of it was. :(
Thanks for your help.
My second pregnancy ended in miscarriage. The doctor told me to wait 3 months before trying again as the chance of miscarriage in that period is higher. I have no idea if that is factual or not, however. In any event, I had an uneventful third pregnancy. Best wishes to you.
I'm really sorry about your loss …. hugs.
I lost the baby at 12 weeks and 2 days. I've been told I can start trying whenever I want to - by regular gynecologists. However, that doesn't make sense to me. How can a body recover within a month from three months' pregnancy? Maybe from a one month's pregnancy - I can see that - but not from 12 weeks of pregnancy. I really think there is a humongous difference between a miscarriage that happened at 5 weeks and a miscarriage that happened at nearly 13 weeks. It might be just a few weeks, but the amount of nutrients needed to build the placenta and all that happens during that time is really big compared to what happens in just 5 weeks … This is really just me thinking out loud … But you know where I'm going with this ...
Plus we're all individuals as well. Some of us are more healthy and have healthier lifestyles than others. Then there's conditions - known and hidden - so I really think it varies greatly how long one should give her body to recover.
In my case, I think 3 months is a bare minimum. I have yet to get my first period after my D&C, but I'll wait until at least two more cycles after that (I'm praying to get my period soon, it's been exactly 4 weeks since my D&C).
I've consulted also a Chinese medicine doctor (acupuncturist) and according to TCM, one should wait 6 months, 3 months being a bare minimum before trying to conceive and according to what I read, ayurveda also recommends 3 months' waiting time.
Either way, it's ultimately up to you and your unique situation and how you feel … Good luck and some more hugs.
Proud mommy to our stellar Stella (3/2011). Cautiously expecting our in April 2015 after loosing a sweet little angel in April 2014.
I am sorry for your loss. Apparently your chances of loss after one miscarriage is no different from the usual chance of loss (approximately 30% with each pregnancy). Miscarriage is so common it happens to 1 in 3 women by chance (and it happens twice by chance to 1 in 9 women, according to my OB, but happening 3x is a lot less common). Despite the warnings to wait a certain number of cycles to try again, I have not seen any evidence that it is necessary and I even saw a study once that showed women are less likely to miscarry a baby conceived within 6 months of a miscarriage than a baby conceived more than 6 months after a miscarriage.
Now mom to DS1 born January 2010 and DS2 born December 2014!
12/08 (6 weeks), 1/13 (11 weeks), & 12/13 (9.5 weeks)
Beautiful baby girl born 8/13/2012. Little star baby lost at 10 weeks pregnant, 12/18/2013. Rainbow baby girl born 12/22/2014.
I just found out my first loss on Thursday at 9.5 weeks and had the d&c yesterday. This would have been my 3rd baby. My OB said to give it one full cycle then I can try again. He said that at my age (34) the chances of miscarriage are 1 in 5 and that will be the same for every pregnancy, regardless of past losses. So this time my changes of mc were 1/5 and next time they will still be 1/5.
Now that this has happened to me I've found out that a lot of my friends have also miscarried and went on to conceive and have normal, healthy pregnancies immediately after. So that is reassuring for me and hopefully will be for you as well. I wish you luck!
I've begun to think of my miscarriage as my body preheating the oven for a nice, healthy bake of gooey goodness.
My midwife mentioned to me last time that lots of women miscarry their first pregnancy after a long bout between. It's our bodies way of priming the uterus for an even stronger viable pregnancy.
Here's to healthiness and strength to all of us who are or will be pregnant after having our miscarriage(s).