I really feel that the formula is detrimental to your nursing experience, espically so early in the game. Babies don't "need" to gain their birth weight for at least two weeks.
Some totally bf babies go days without pooping. My dd did it on occasion and my ds does it too. And then sometimes they poop alot. Totally normal.
dd was on the breast NON STOP. I MEAN, she never latched off, and she would have been on all day and all night if I let her...and for the first 9 months, I did. It made it impossible to go anywhere. I remember once I left for 30 min. That was a BIG strech without nursing for us and she was probably 3 or 4 months old at the time. DS is not like that at all. But he's a different kid. ANd what is normal for one is not necessarily for the other.
You have no idea how much milk he is getting from your breasts. PUmping is NOT ANY INDICATION about how much milk you have or how much he is getting. The fact that he gained his birthweight should be sign enough that he's gaining. Then it's not uncommon for bf babies to be VERY SLOW GAINERS. Could be genetics. DS didn't really start getting rolly polly until late in the game compared to dd. ALso, Tipat Chalav goes by the formula fed growth charts. Might want to reserach this and look at the WHO growth charts on this one.
Please call a few Le Leche League leaders (get their info on line and ask one for the phone number of someone else). I NEVER had any help with lactation consultants. They all said DD was nursing fine. But she wasn't. I had to do a lot of trial and error to figure out how to make it work for the both of us. THe most of our problems peaked around 3 months after her birth. It took that long!
Using ANY FORMULA AT ALL is dangerous to the baby and your milk supply. Dr. Sears, Mendleschon and many others are in agreement on this point. THe last thing I would do is give formula so early in the game, espically if the baby were not loosing drastic amounts of weight or showing signs of dehydration. And even then I might only use some sugar water in an emergency (which, I repeat is for an EMERGENCY and something that bli ayan ha ra I've never had to do with either child!) All of his sucking needs to be ON YOUR BREAST!!!
This means no pacifier. No bottle. Nada. Nothing. If he is taking abottle after the feeding then he can take your breast.
Don't change breasts. Let him go all the way on one until he falls asleep. Then switch him to the other side. Let him dose a bit. 10 min or so if you want (or longer if he's not loosing weight) and then give him that side until he's dozing. Then switch again.
I can't tell you how many HOURS AND HOURS AND HOURS I did this sort of thing. I changed positions. Found dd nursed better when we were laying down. Helped a friend find that her dd nursed better while being propped up in a sitting position (no reflux issues).
He could be feeling unsatisfied because of gas, food sensitivity (to something YOU are eating) OR THE FORMULA!!! (totally normal for formula fed babies to go without pooping for periods of time too!)
I forget which dr was quoted as saying this, but he said that a baby with ONE BOTTLE of formula would be considered a formula fed baby because of the mess it makes of his ph balance/gut flora for TWO WHOLE WEEKS. That is one bottle of formula EVER...and certainly not TWO BOTTLES A DAY!
It's hard to trust. I wish you had some more support over there. NOt every baby nurses easily and well right away. It takes time, sometimes months.
Please find some people that you feel you can trust that will help you.
Again, the milk you make is totally dependant on the amount of sucking your baby does. If you let the baby suck ANYWHERE ELSE ( bottle, pacifier, finger) you are decreasing your milk supply.
Also, I DO believe you are making enough milk if you are able to PUMP milk out of your breasts. You absolutely have that capibility. of the less than 1% of women who are not able to make enough milk, the vast majority of them have risk factors. Breast surgery, etc...
Babies might cry alot, or look unhappy, or just want to eat and eat and eat until they puke and then eat again. Or suck suck suck. That is the nature of some babies. DD was like that and I just didn't know any better.
I've NEVER watched a clock. I would advise you to turn them all off. Just set up comfy places to nurse all over the house and DO NOTHING ELSE, as was mentioned.
That is really all a nursing mom can do sometimes. Been there. Hugs.