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So last week brought most of the mamas due mid-month into the third trimester. Is there anyone who is joining us in the home stretch this week? How exciting to feel like we're really almost there! : I saw that there was a baby born in the January DDC and it made me realize that we really are getting close!

Hopefully everyone is working on their birth plans. Do any first-time moms need help or advice on this? Don't hesitate to ask!

Have a great week everyone and for those of you that celebrate, Happy Thanksgiving!
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Akislandgirl: Is the myofacial supposed to help your hips? Mine have been bothering me. I'll be curious to see if you get relief.

I went to the chiro today. I am sore now. Took a nap after and slept slightly better than last night but still not well. I was so sore when I woke up. Iced my lower back a bit. I'm afraid to go to bed bc I know I'm going to be uncomfortable. But I'm hoping I'll wake up feeling better like I did last time he adjusted me.

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Cindy, if it's causing you that much discomfort after an adjustment, I'd venture a guess you might need to find a different chiropractor. Not to speak ill of the one you've been seeing, but in my experience, you should feel relief after an adjustment, not more stiffness/soreness.

I used to see a great chiro, then he sold his practice. The new chiro adjusted me twice. Both times I felt discomfort after the adjustment (for more than a day even). I switched to a totally new one and am back to feeling much much better after adjustments.

I'd try someone else if I were you. Sorry that it hasn't been helping thus far.

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Baby has been kicking me painfully all day. She's definitely gotten a lot bigger -- and is quasi-transverse (not sure the technical term here) -- she's diagonal, from up under my right rib to down on the left side of my lower abdomen. I'm really really hoping she doesn't do what Guinevere did (get perfectly horizontal/transverse in there) because that was extremely uncomfortable for a long while last time.

But I'm afraid that's probably the most roomy position in there, since I'm so short-waisted. Feh.

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I'll cruise into the third trimester this Wednesday. I feel like I've been there for two weeks already. I've had many people tell me that just in the last two weeks I am really exploding (my word, not theirs). I'm starting to understand the discomfort of the third trimester I've heard about. It's fun and exciting to start showing and appear pregnant, which I definitely do now. If I could just stay this size until she's born, I'd be okay. But I have three months to go!

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Oh wow I can't believe the January DDC has a baby! I've been watching for that but I must have missed it.

I have a few miner issues that I would love to hear are normal (or be informed if they aren't). Here goes:

1. I have some sore spots on my belly, it feels kind of like a bruised area in a couple of tiny spots, and when the baby pushes in these spots it hurts. Anyone else have this?

2. Sometimes I get out of breath or feel like my heart is really pumping hard for no reason. Usually it's when I'm sitting doing nothing, so I'm wondering if maybe it's just crammed in there which is reducing my lung capacity and making my heart work hard. Is this normal?

3. The last couple of weeks I've had a big increase in cm. I've actually started to wear a panty liner . I know I've heard this is normal so I'm not really worried. But, I was wondering, how do you know the difference between cm and leaking amniotic fluid? Is there a point when I should worry?

Okay that's my whining for now

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I'm down to about 50 days until Mia's born! Holy cow!

Can I freak out now? Because the fact that I have DS's birthday tomorrow, then Thanksgiving, then decorating for Christmas, then Christmas, then mine and & DH's anniversary...and then comes Mia is freaking me out! LOL!! Not to mention, Jocelyn's birthday is 2 weeks after that!

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1. I have some sore spots on my belly, it feels kind of like a bruised area in a couple of tiny spots, and when the baby pushes in these spots it hurts. Anyone else have this?
I don't, except for my belly button, which hurts like hell sometimes. I have heard people make mention of hernias/umbilical hernias, so I would definitely mention it to your midwife/OB if I were you just in case.

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2. Sometimes I get out of breath or feel like my heart is really pumping hard for no reason. Usually it's when I'm sitting doing nothing, so I'm wondering if maybe it's just crammed in there which is reducing my lung capacity and making my heart work hard. Is this normal?
Happens to me. I'd say normal, personally. Again, mentioning it to your m/w is never a bad thing just in case.

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3. The last couple of weeks I've had a big increase in cm. I've actually started to wear a panty liner . I know I've heard this is normal so I'm not really worried. But, I was wondering, how do you know the difference between cm and leaking amniotic fluid? Is there a point when I should worry?
Ah, this I definitely know for sure: 100% normal. Your body is constantly recycling fluids: CM, amniotic fluid, etc. Even your mucus plug. Expect the CM to be heavy from here on out -- that's totally normal. Amniotic fluid is watery and typically clear. CM is typically slippery and thicker. If you're worried, you can get tested to make sure the dampness isn't your waters leaking.

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I'm down to about 50 days until Mia's born! Holy cow!

Can I freak out now? Because the fact that I have DS's birthday tomorrow, then Thanksgiving, then decorating for Christmas, then Christmas, then mine and & DH's anniversary...and then comes Mia is freaking me out! LOL!! Not to mention, Jocelyn's birthday is 2 weeks after that!
It my dd birthday tomorrow, too! Happy birthday to our kidos :!

I am feeling pretty great, no RLS, no carrying as high as the other three so less rib pain.

Guess what I did today? I made a waldorf inspired play stand! like this http://www.achildsdream.com/creative...playcloths.htm

only just one and no canopy...yet! We made it out of salvaged wood of my oldest dd kindergarten an my ds current prek table top...so many memories made on that table and now we have some small pieces here!

it was so easy!

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Vegan: I am feeling better after my session. Not 100% but I went for a long walk in the snow today without any hip pain. As the day has progressed I am feeling a bit sore though. Not nearly as bad as I normally do though. Maybe try a different chiro as Nighten suggested or look for someone who does myofacial release and see if that helps any. Good luck.

I'm getting some major cleaning and organizing done today which feels so good! Yeah : something is getting accomplished!

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My toddler woke up this morning and announced, "Let's build a Christmas tree, mama!"

I laughed and said OK!

We'd planned on putting the tree up early this year because we have new kitties and one is still quite young and very rambunctious. So we wanted to put up the tree, leave it up a bit, then decorate it, to give the cats time to adjust. Or something. Hopefully.

Anyway, I wasn't planning on putting up the tree until next weekend (it feels wrong to do it before Thanksgiving) but she was so cute and so excited and I just didn't care, so today we put up our Christmas tree. It's not decorated at all or anything, and I tied it to the deck doorhinge (in case kitten climbs it and it were to fall), but by golly, my two year old is in heaven. And since the tree was packed up in the attic (we have a fake tree obviously), I went ahead and organized the baby gear stuff. So it's all handy and right there for when we need to pull it out. I'm excited!

I love the holidays so much, and love decorating for them, but this is like an added bonus: we get to get all the baby stuff out too, once the Christmas stuff is put away. So this year instead of it being a little sad to put the holiday stuff away, we get to pull out all the baby stuff.

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BG, that stand is adorable! You are too creative! This might be a dumb question, but how do you keep your little ones from climbing on the top part? That arch would be the Best Swinging Thing Ever for my toddler. I'm envious. I have zero woodworking skills. Nice job!

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2. Sometimes I get out of breath or feel like my heart is really pumping hard for no reason. Usually it's when I'm sitting doing nothing, so I'm wondering if maybe it's just crammed in there which is reducing my lung capacity and making my heart work hard. Is this normal?

3. The last couple of weeks I've had a big increase in cm. I've actually started to wear a panty liner . I know I've heard this is normal so I'm not really worried. But, I was wondering, how do you know the difference between cm and leaking amniotic fluid? Is there a point when I should worry?
I've been noticing these two things as well. The out of breath, heart pumping hard thing really concerned me the first couple of times, but I asked some other experience mamas about it and they've all told me it was normal. Doesn't seem normal, but then there's not much about pregnancy that feels normal. I'll probably still mention it at my next appointment with my midwife...
I really started noticing the increase in cm just this week and am a little grossed out by it. It hasn't crossed my mind that it would be fluid leaking, because it's fairly thick. I'm just not used to all these fluids leaking from every orifice of my body!

My skin has also started to break out, which really bums me out. I've always had very clear skin, didn't even really have bad break outs during puberty. I usually just get one pimple here and there a few times a year. But right now it seems just as one bad one goes away, another pops up. I'm not finding that very fun...

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It my dd birthday tomorrow, too! Happy birthday to our kidos :!

Yay!! Happy birthday to both of our little ones! (And isn't it kind of great that the calendar's finally making it so our kiddos don't have Thanksgiving weekend birthdays! Those were a bit rough with all of the cooking and less downtime--I like that DS has his own weekend this time! : )

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BG, that stand is adorable! You are too creative! This might be a dumb question, but how do you keep your little ones from climbing on the top part? That arch would be the Best Swinging Thing Ever for my toddler. I'm envious. I have zero woodworking skills. Nice job!

Thanks! It is really easy, the hardest part is cutting out the sides, everything else is just normal sized width and cut to size with a bit of screwing. We had a shelf in the play room already that they didn't climb on so I don't think they will climb on this one either but we will see!

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Yay!! Happy birthday to both of our little ones! (And isn't it kind of great that the calendar's finally making it so our kiddos don't have Thanksgiving weekend birthdays! Those were a bit rough with all of the cooking and less downtime--I like that DS has his own weekend this time! : )
Yeah...Yarrow was actually BORN on Thanksgiving...so not only was it a very dramatic birth it also involved a holiday! Sure fit her personality!

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i must be in the 3rd trimester by now. this pregnancy i'm so busy i actually have to stop and figure out what month i'm in i had to make an appointment the other day 12 weeks from now and i was like what! i'll already have had the baby!!!
my biggest sore spot is my right hip. ever since my last pregnancy its felt a little off IYKWIM now its very sore if i move just right esp. when i'm trying to roll over on the bed and use my legs to support my middle. kind of in my hip and toward my back... i dunno if its just tight or what. sometimes i think my hips separated and then the right one didn't re adjust? i also had a really sore tail bone last time and my hips hurt cause i had to take this really huge step to get inside before we got better stairs anyways....
i also recently did the glucose test haven't heard back about the results yet but i'm sure its fine... i don't know if its because i'm rural but they wouldn't do any test but the one with drinking glucose drink. i did the one hour but i could eat before hand- not during the test just water then and i wsn't suppose to drive either? i didn't remember that from last time. i was really hoping to just be able to eat something....
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Bathrobe Goddess This is funny because when I first found out I was pregnant I had the craziest dream that I gave birth on Thanksgiving and was so upset about missing Thanksgiving dinner! I think having a baby on that day would be totally worth it, though!


So, yesterday my town had our annual local Craft Fair day where tons of people set up booths at the high school and sell handmade items and Christmas decorations and a bunch of local businesses have open houses with major sales. I have an annual tradition to hit all the sales with my mom and go out for a nice lunch. Although I usually gather Christmas decorations during this day, I was unable to find anything I felt like I needed. However, we got lots of stuff for Owyn. My mom got her a beautiful light, light pink crocheted blanket for her Baptism and a wooden rattle for $3 (I have found these rattles online for close to $15!). I found a wall hanging to put in her room that says "I believe in fairies", very fitting since her room is getting a mural with a woodland fairy scene.

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These last couple weeks have been so busy! I'm trying to get in a bunch of shifts at work to save up for baby and Christmas, and man! I'm pooped! I've been lurking around though. Glad everyone's doing well. It's fun reading what everyone's doing to get ready, both for the holidays and for baby.

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Nighten: Ya know it didn't occur to me that maybe he wasn't good. Darn prego brain. I do feel much better by the next day each time though. I feel good now. He said the muscles around where he adjusted my back were really tight so maybe that is causing soreness? It isn't discomfort like he did something wrong. There is a free chiro once/month at my birth center so I will try him out and compare. I am also going to look into the myofascial release.

Yesterday we drove to napa to hang out and have dinner at a place I wanted to try before baby. We also visited DH's highschool friend - his wife is 9 days overdue with their first! It was fun to see their place though - they are so ready - down to having a diaper spreadout on the changing table and ready to use. It got me even more excited!

Can someone remind me what basic clothes I need to have? My friend gave me a bag of clothes yesterday 0-6 mos and it is a lot of cute outfits but I think maybe not enough of the basics. But I don't know exactly what I need as far as basics. Thanks!

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Newborn basic clothes for me are side snap long sleeved t-shirts, and those long gowns that have the fold-over mittens built in and slight elastic at the bottom hem.

And hats and socks, and receiving blankets for swaddling.

ETA: That's for indoor stuff only though. Depending on where you live you might need warmer layers for Going Home outfit and/or early WBVs.

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Nighten: How many of each of those things do I need? Thanks!

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Oh gosh, it depends really on two things: (1) Whether your baby spits up/has poop explosions often and (2) How often you will need to and be able to do laundry.

There's no way to know ahead of time whether #1 will be an issue, but the reality is more #2 than anything.

I honestly don't remember how many times I changed G's outfit as a newborn. She got a sponge bath with plain warm water on a washcloth everyday, so that's one time I know I'd have changed her clothes, but she never spat up, and didn't have too many explosive diapers that messed up her clothes. So honestly I'd say once or twice a day?

But I was lucky and got a lot of her layette as gifts ahead of time and we still have it all on hand -- probably 10 of the shirts and 7 or 8 of the gowns. Lots of socks and probably 6 or 7 hats? Which was way more than plenty for us first time around and should be this time too. I don't know how many receiving blankets we have honestly. We have a ton, but they double for lots of other things, so they're handy -- again, they were gifts.

But if you have a very active let-down, and/or reflux issues with baby, then you may need more gowns, etc., because you may be changing baby's clothes a lot more often.

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I'm pretty partial to Thanksgiving birthdays as I was born on Thanksgiving Day! My mom figured she would deliver late as she did with my 4 siblings before me and wanted to have one last holiday in the house before they moved. Well, I came on time so she woke my sisters and told them that the turkey was in the oven and my Aunt was on her way over to cook the rest of the meal. The whole family celebrated at the old house and they brought pumpkin pie to mom in the hospital after I was born!

i want to shampoo our carpets before baby arrives but I don't really like the chemicals in the traditional cleaners. I was thinking of using just water and vinegar. (or any other suggestions) Do you guys know of any way to get the soap residue out of the shampooer though? I will need to rent one from the grocery store.

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Thanks Nighten that helps a lot! We don't have a washer in out apartment (though it is in our building) so we won't be washing as often.

I just bought my breast pump. Another big thing checked off the list! Yay!

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Well, you're welcome, but please don't go by just what I say. I have only the one other baby for previous experience, so other mamas here might be more insightful about early clothes than I am.

Oh my goodness, I am soooo tired. For no reason! I did very little today. But it was cold and overcast and my husband finally said something about how it was one of those days where you just want to nap all day. Amen! I told him I'd give a million dollars if someone would rub my back. My toddler came walking over and said, "I'll help, Mama!" and rubbed my back for like 30 seconds. It was precious.

Hopefully tonight I can convince my husband it's his turn. I love him and he's a good guy, but dang it, he hasn't rubbed my back once since I got pregnant. At least not that I can remember. And I've been pregnant a long time now!

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Hi ladies! I just joined the mothering boards. I'm Shanna, I have one nursling baby boy who is 21 months. And I'm due feb 19th, a week and a half after his second birthday lol... talk about spacing (We wanted 2 years apart but I didn't expect the same month!) My first birth I had an OB and wasn't prepared the way I should have been. But I also moved from Hawaii to NY 7 1/2 months pregnant so I was a little overwhelmed. I'm seeing a midwife now who I love, and am planning a waterbirth in the hospital. How soon do I need to figure out which doula I want to use? I keep putting it off because I'm a little unsure of what I should be looking for in one... but I feel like I'm running out of time. Anyway, I'm looking forward to meeting everyone
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Hi, and welcome!

I was lucky and already found my doula, but I think anytime now that third trimester has started, would be good.

Good luck!

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Hopefully tonight I can convince my husband it's his turn. I love him and he's a good guy, but dang it, he hasn't rubbed my back once since I got pregnant. At least not that I can remember. And I've been pregnant a long time now!
Ditto! I feel bad saying and even thinking this sometimes... but my DH hasn't once acknowledged that I might be tired, sore, etc. from this pregnancy. For the most part I've felt fine and don't have any major complaints and I know he is so busy working hard for our family, but I keep having these daydreams where he takes the day off and takes the twins out of the house for the day or sends me out to get my haircut or SOMETHING that says "I appreciate that you are carrying out child"! Oh well, enough complaining!

So my question for you experienced mamas is this: How do you come up with a plan for what will happen when labor starts? With my first my water broke at 33wks. I called my mw, called my mil and went to the emergency room. Not much to think about there.

But now Im trying to come up with a plan for when to call my parents, who will be staying with the twins while we go to the midwife's. They live about an hour and a half away and both work. The mw is 30-60 mins. from us depending on weather. I don't want to go to the mw's too early and I don't want my parents here too early either. We have a small house and I don't think I'll be comfortable handling early labor with my dad and mom and two kids hanging around. But, on the other hand, I don't want to wait too long and then have to rush to get someone over here to stay with the kids until my parents can get here. I really want the whole experience to be as un-traumatic for them as possible. I'm afraid of waiting too long and having to drive myself or take the kids with me and, of course, the giving-birth-in-the-car fear....? It's so hard trying to plan for something that follows no plan! What have your experiences been? What are you planning on doing this time? TIA

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Most midwives (and OBs for that matter, I assume) have some kind of guideline about how far apart contractions need to be, and how long they last and so on, before you go to the place you're birthing (if you're leaving your house). I'd ask my midwife if I were you (I need to re-ask mine as I don't remember what her guideline is).

My plan is to call my mom and let her know when my water breaks or labor has started. And that should give her plenty of time to get here. It really depends on timing -- if it's middle of the night, versus right before Guinevere's bedtime versus morning, etc. I don't want her here while I'm laboring, but it's inevitable since I'm planning to labor at home. At least she'll be distracted caring for my toddler. Unless it's the middle of the night in which case she won't need to get here until we're ready to leave.

But, I'm counting on having a lengthy-ish labor. Last time it was nearly 22 hours. So I suspect I'll have plenty of time before active/hard labor hits, and will be okay before my mom and my doula arrive (since I'll call them at the same time pretty much). What time I leave to go to the birth center (or in your case, to go to your midwife's) depends on my midwife's guidelines.

But I'm not laboring at the birth center long if possible. Since you'll be laboring at your midwife's longer than at home (I'm assuming?) I'd ask your midwife what she recommends.

Either way, better to call your mom too soon than too late.

That was probably no help at all, huh. I need to get offline and go to bed. My brain's a jumbled mess.

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Hey guys- my husband's birthday is today! : He's old! : We had a party last night, but tonight he's watching 24 I think. Boy oh boy, it's all downhill from 30, I say.

I'm still battling my skin. Tonight I had a sweet almond oil bath, and followed up with coconut oil, I've been trying to be very diligent with my water intake, and I'm taking omega 3's...so hopefully things will improve! I'm also getting used to not washing every day- at least every 2nd day- and sometimes longer.

Vegan- I'd say up to 1 doz- 1 1/2 doz sleepers/nightgowns. I've had spitter-uppers and leaky boobs, and go through lots of clothes. Plus undershirts, because you can always get away with just an undershirt and a receiving blanket. Don't forget, you're likely to be given some, and they grow fast. To be honest, I never worried about whether I had enough.

Clovermom- I second Nighten in that your mw/ob will help you plan. I would personally probably let your parents know fairly soon after labour starts, just to give them the heads up, although not to come right away. Last labour I could just feel the timing. I don't know if that's because my labour's are short, but I knew when I should call the mw, when Axel should be picked up, etc. Perhaps it would be more important if they were longer. (Axel was 3.5 hrs, Eva was 4.5 hrs start to finish) This time I'm expecting a similar length, and will probably just 'play it by ear' again, because I feel like there's lots of time even when they're short.

This baby has been kicking in the same area a lot! Sometimes I can clearly feel little feet. I'm surprised it doesn't shift around more.

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Okay....I made it through the first three threads, but I've got to go to bed now...

But...I wanted to suggest (sorry, I don't know how to quote)...

...scrubbing with baking soda and then (after drying) using olive oil feels really clean and good. It seems to clear up a lot of skin problems for me.

...a pounding heart is probably one of 3 things: high or low sugar, dehydration, or a need for iron/protein...being sure to eat regularly, avoid sugar, take a vitamin including iron (with C...and watch taking it with stuff that mess up absorption), drinking about a gallon of water a day, and being sure that you eat some sort of protein (think meat...) everytime you eat should solve the heart pounding issue.

...amniotic fluid smells sweet...everything else, uhm...doesn't.

...I try to think in terms of how much I need for a week for the kids. Two is ideal for me, actually, because we travel a lot and having 2 weeks worth of clothes means I don't have to worry about laundry on our trips, usually. Actually, 15 outfits is best...that keeps them from wearing the same thing every Monday or whatever...it throws off the rotation by one. But, 8 would do the same thing...you'd just be obligated to do laundry once a week...which isn't a big deal if you're home. So, I plan on pajamas, and an outfit, plus one receiving blanket/burp cloth/hat/socks per day. If something goes bad (blowout, etc), and I have a two week rotation...then it's no big deal...I just move on to tomorrow. But...if I only have one week's worth...you can go through that in 2 days sometimes! You know...you wake up first thing in the morning and they've leaked through...on themselves, you AND your sheets. You get everyone cleaned up and then they have a blowout. So, you clean that up, and then you nurse the baby but leak everywhere, so you need a new outfit for them...and you. And then they spit up. So...now you've used a pair of sheets, 2 shirts for you, 2 outfits for them, and a pair of pajamas for them...and it's only 8:30a. Ah...tis the life. So, I'm most comfortable operating with a 2 week supply. Oh, and I plan on a diaper an hour...and am happy if I don't have to use it. (Usually don't, but that's a good start...more like ever other hour...maybe a little longer at night).

...clovermom...what if you called your parents right away...and then had them take your twins on a preplanned outing that will last several hours...the zoo or something. Then you get the house to yourself, but they aren't rushed last minute. Of course, the middle of the night would be trickier...but even in the evening or bedtime, they can go get ice cream or something, and that would buy you a little time. Do you have a neighbor who could stand in for that hour and a half if you happened to wait too late to call?

Okay...hope everyone has a good week. Tomorrow I'm doing "preschool" with the kids, then we have to go to the ortho appt for ds and get his cast, then I have to go do the blood draw labs at the hospital...and then, it will be naptime and maybe I can work on the den or sew a bit. Or take a nap...I dunno.

Good Night!

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I have no idea who is going to stay with my children once I go into labor. This is always the trickiest part for me everytime I have a baby. Closest family is 3 1/2 hours away. We never use babysitters, so I don't have anyone in mind really to keep the them for when we have to leave. Oddly enough, it always seems easier for me to get the overnight hours covered. I have someone lined up for overnight, but they are graduating in December. (we live in Seminary housing) So, there is no guarantee that they will still be here in Feb. So, I have to have a serious back up. During the day . . . well, I just don't know. I need someone to keep them for the 3 1/2 hours it takes my mom to get here. I know my mom would prefer to be at the hospital during the birth like she has been for my others, but I really need her with the children. I have a couple friends here that I know will do it, but they all have 3 children of their own and homeschool like I do.

Anyway, that's my biggest struggle right now, and I need to get it settled soon.

Yesterday, I cut out size small fitted diapers. I am using some of the softest, fluffiest cotton sherpa I have ever felt before. I cut about 16 out. Then I sewed in the soaker for about 6 of them and sewed on the aplix. I might pull out my serger today and start serging. I love making new diapers when I am pregnant. But my doesn't love me. It's hard work!

I am also thinking about using some really fabulous knit print fabric that is super girly . . . for a few of them. I would use the knit on the outside and the sherpa on the inside. That would make for some really fun diapers!
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Thanks for the advice everyone! I have a midwife appt next week so I'll be mentioning the belly pains to her just in case.

I've been holding off on really stocking up on newborn clothes because I figure I'll get some for Christmas. Newborn gowns are so hard to find - which is really strange because I always hear how great they are. So far I have 2 - that's all I have found! I have some other sleepers and some sleep sacks too.

I just found out I'm going to have to order my diapers from Canada which is going to make them more expensive. I had been planning on ordering from a US site and having them sent to family, but the family isn't going to be able to make it for Christmas this year. Oh well.

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