Who's on your birth team? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 04:37 PM - Thread Starter
 
Citykid's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Queens, NY
Posts: 680
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Who are you having at your birth? I'm curious to know what you all are planning. For me right now it's just my MW and DH (DS will go to Grandma's house). I'm mulling the possibility of asking my dear friend K to come too, but I'm not sure. So I'd love to hear what you're doing.
Citykid is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 06:17 PM
 
Larissa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 685
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just me and dh. And that's how I want to keep it. My mom has been there for the other births, but I really want my mom to be with my 3 boys, so I know for sure that they will be fine.
So, hopefully, it will be just me and my husband. What a tender moment that will be!
Larissa is offline  
#3 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 06:20 PM
 
justKate's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Gloucester Point, VA
Posts: 3,549
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
God willing, it will be me, Huz, my doula-in-training, and our midwife. Unless it's a weekend, in which case we switch out the midwife for one of three on-call doctors.

justKate is offline  
#4 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 06:25 PM
 
milky80's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 75
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just me, DH, and midwife. Hopefully MIL can come up here to watch the kids. If not I might have to do it alone...
milky80 is offline  
#5 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 07:02 PM
 
kssinca's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: California
Posts: 498
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am giving birth at a hospital so.... I'm not really sure how many people will be there but family/friend-wise... it will just be me and DH. I'm a little worried about fil being alone. I told my baby he has to come out between the hours of 10pm-8:30am or 12pm-2:30pm so that way DH will be home for fil. It makes me a little sad because my entire family is willing to take care of my baby but no one wants to help out with fil. I tell them it's just like taking care of a BIG baby but....no takers/offers.
kssinca is offline  
#6 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 08:50 PM
 
BathrobeGoddess's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: The rural foothills of N Colorado
Posts: 5,524
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Me, dh, dd. midwife and best friend...hopefully my two little ones will be sleeping for a good portion of labor/birth but if not...eh...

Eden yikes.gif, working on a PhD in Education mama to Laurelleshamrocksmile.gif (16), Orijoy.gif (6), Yarrowfaint.gif (4) and Linusfly-by-nursing1.gif (1) partner to Brice. 
BathrobeGoddess is offline  
#7 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 09:56 PM
 
Mainstream Hippie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: NE Florida
Posts: 226
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My midwife and whoever she brings, my husband, my kids, and two friends who are doulas. I think I need to have a third doula, though, because one has expressed an uncertainty that she will definitely be able to attend, and the other has three kids and a husband who works crazy-odd hours. I need to be sure I have a doula there, for definite-definite.
Mainstream Hippie is offline  
#8 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 10:05 PM
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 177
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
my midwife, dh & my mom

Mommy to Abigail 2/09hearts.gif and Ollie 3/11energy.gif

jasonswife06 is offline  
#9 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 10:31 PM
 
cagnew's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: BFE, AL
Posts: 1,283
Mentioned: 41 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 43 Post(s)
I'll be at a hospital, so I don't know who will be there when I deliver. Hopefully just me, dh, my doula, and the doctor. Of course, I am sure there will be nurses too... hopefully kept to a minimum.
AHHHH! It's getting so close... I'm getting nervous!

Corrie, "trad" Catholic, wife to DH and Mom to DD (4/07), DS (2/09), DD (2/11), DD (4/13), two angel babies. 
cagnew is online now  
#10 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 10:40 PM
 
Everrgreen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,806
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Me, 2 midwives, DH, my mom, and I have my 2 close friends who are booking time off but they are both 3 hours away so unless the baby comes when they have time off (or on a weekend) then they won't be able to make it. Right now I'm thinking I may need to uninvite my mom as things have been a little tense between us. That would really upset her but I just don't know...

Mama to my charming little boy, born at home January '09
Everrgreen is offline  
#11 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 11:41 PM
 
JamieBrewHa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: NJ
Posts: 389
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
me, 2 midwives, and DH.... and I'm hoping my mom will watch DS but be around so he can be there for the birth itself but out of the way/not bored during the whole labor.

Mama to two boys (1/07 and 3/09) and due with baby #3 in May.
JamieBrewHa is offline  
#12 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 11:54 PM
 
mamamillet's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: east TN
Posts: 1,968
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Me, DP, DS, girlfriend that has doula training and the midwife. DP and my friend will be switching off attention for me and attention for DS depending on how/what he is doing.

Mama to ds 6/00 and dd 1/09
mamamillet is offline  
#13 of 27 Old 12-10-2008, 11:57 PM
 
starling&diesel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: West Coast, Canada
Posts: 3,813
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 14 Post(s)
Me, DP, one of our two midwives (whoever is on call that day) and their student (we gave permission for it to be a teaching birth) ... my sister and her partner (we're birthing at their house), my best friend, and, if logistically possible, my mom, along with my favourite wise crone, Carla.

That could be nine women! Wow!

dust.gifFour-eyed tattooed fairy godmother queer, mama to my lucky star (5) and little bird (2.5). Resident storyteller at www.thestoryforest.com. Enchanting audiostories for curious kids. Come play in the forest!
starling&diesel is offline  
#14 of 27 Old 12-11-2008, 12:43 AM
 
nighten's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: A mountain in TN
Posts: 5,727
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Me, husband, doula, and midwife.

My mom will be looking after Guinevere.

Should something happen and Mom not be able to look after Guinevere, then my husband will, and the doula will be the primary person for me.

SAHM to Guinevere (04/05/06) and Eowyn (02/13/09)
nighten is offline  
#15 of 27 Old 12-11-2008, 02:44 AM
 
AKislandgirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Alaska
Posts: 2,055
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
As of right now it's my DH and my mom. My mom is flying in from Seattle so we are just hoping the timing works out. Also hoping the weather is decent and she doesn't get stuck in Anchorage. I'm thinking positive thoughts!

Plus the hospital nurse...they assign one nurse per patient here so I should have the same nurse the whole time (a second would come in at shift change). I'm also looking into having a Doula but that is very much up in the air. My OB is a friend too which is comforting.

Sue, Mama to Fiona Aileen (2/1/09) and  Maeve Penelope (10/7/11) familybed2.gif cd.gif
 

AKislandgirl is offline  
#16 of 27 Old 12-11-2008, 10:25 AM
 
AllyRae's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Ohio
Posts: 6,192
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My doula will be waiting for me outside of the OR, so I'll see her before and after the c-section. DH will be in the OR with me. MIL will be with the kids in the waiting room.

And then the other people--perinatologist, nurses, hematologist, NICU team, assistants, & anesthesiologist. Way too many people, but we have to have both my specialists and the baby's specialists on hand.

~Brandon Michael (11/23/03), Jocelyn Lily Nữ (2/4/07, adopted 5/28/07 from Vietnam), Amelia Rylie (1/14/09), & Ryland Josef William (9/7/05-9/7/05 @ 41 wks). 
AllyRae is offline  
#17 of 27 Old 12-12-2008, 03:20 AM
k13
 
k13's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Bad Town, WA
Posts: 271
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
We're at home and we've got quite the "team" although I reserve the right to have hubby send any of them to the showers

Midwife, husband, one of two doula friends who are going to "tag-team doula" for me (they both have kids etc. and may have to trade off) my mom will be there to help with my two daughters, who will also be there, and possibly my mother in law, and possibly my friend who is due a week later than I am with her first (she lives a block away).

Luckily we have a guest shack with heat, a bathroom and a TV so the grandmas and girls can escape out there and watch movies/sleep if I need some space, yet they will be close enough to summon for the big moment. My oldest daughter is 12 and seems to want to be more involved this time.

I have worried about it being too many people (although during past labors I didn't notice who was in the room one bit) I have still discussed with my husband and the others that I might want "space" and not to be offended.

I ran into a former professor who is teaching anthropology of reproduction next quarter and she jokingly asked if she could bring her class what a field trip!
k13 is offline  
#18 of 27 Old 12-12-2008, 06:55 PM
 
JosieAK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Alaska
Posts: 717
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
In our teeny tiny apartment, it will just be my husband, midwife, and back-up midwife. I've been hearing about a potential student midwife, but since I haven't met her yet, I think I will say no to her presence. I really need to sit down with family and make my wishes known--no calls or visits until we give the okay. I plan to call them at the beginning of labor, mid-labor, and after the baby is born.

However, in case of an emergency transfer, I'm not sure why, but I really want my mother there. Maybe because I know she's a veteran of natural birthing in a hospital and will help me keep my cool. It will probably be hard to tell her to pray that she isn't needed though!

Happy Wife  partners.gif since 12/31/05 ~ Blessed Mama to stillheart.gif 2/8/09 and stillheart.gif 6/11/11, with stillheart.gif on the way due 2/24/14

 

JosieAK is offline  
#19 of 27 Old 12-12-2008, 07:20 PM
 
Devaskyla's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: in my great new home
Posts: 4,596
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
H, the kids & my friend, with her new baby. That's it. Should be fun.

mom to all boys B: 08/01ribboncesarean.gif,  C: 07/05 uc.jpg, N: 03/09 uc.jpg, M: 01/12 uc.jpg and far too many lost onesintactlact.gifsaynovax.gif

Devaskyla is offline  
#20 of 27 Old 12-15-2008, 01:47 AM
 
javilu's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California
Posts: 1,763
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)
We'll be at a birth center, so the midwife on duty will be there. Additionally, my husband will be my main support person. I had thought I would like to have my mom there, but very recently I've started to think it should just be my husband and me (and the midwife). At one point, I also thought I would like to have my stepmom there with us, but now I'm leaning toward keeping things very small and intimate. My sister is due less then 2 weeks before me (and she does not have a supportive partner, so my mom will surely be there for her), and it's all just become very awkward and I think keeping it just between my husband and me is the best choice.

SAH dissertating mama femalesling.GIF to my sweet little boy (2/2009)
and his rainbow1284.gif baby brother (7/2011)
javilu is offline  
#21 of 27 Old 12-15-2008, 02:13 PM
 
kohlby's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Posts: 878
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'll be at the hospital for a scheduled c-section. My other two births were unscheduled c-sections and included my OB, a back up OB, a ped due to meconium both times, the anethsiologist, and a slew of nurses, one intern, and my DH.

I have both an OB and a peri this time around. I don't think my peri will attend the birth unless needed. But her office is in the in the hospital so she can get there easily. I'm hoping to not need a ped in there this time. And get a lot less nurses! I am hoping to get an intern in there again. I found the drs explained things in much greater detail due to the intern being in there. I like to learn too!
kohlby is offline  
#22 of 27 Old 12-15-2008, 07:13 PM
tak
 
tak's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 210
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Mike (husband) and our doula. The doctor will be one of the six in my doctor's maternity practice (we meet all of the before the birth and whoever is on call that day will deliver the baby). Our hospital tries to have one nurse per labouring mama so you have her full attention.
tak is offline  
#23 of 27 Old 12-15-2008, 09:02 PM
 
Eliseatthebeach's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 2,260
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just me, my dh and the mw.

Mama to Zoe (8/00), Morgan : (10/01), Brooke9/06), Casey 20wks (2/08), and Riley : (2/09): She's really here!!
Eliseatthebeach is offline  
#24 of 27 Old 12-17-2008, 12:23 AM
 
triscuitsmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Between Toronto and Ottawa, Ontario
Posts: 1,822
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Honestly... I won't know until way closer to the time, possibly/probably not until I am actually in labour.

I have a list of people who "could" be there if I needed/wanted them... which includes:

My partner
Our son
My friend A, who lives about 20 steps away from me (and her house is another option for our son if I don't want him there with me)
My friend E
My Mom
My midwives

The plan is to UC. I am not planning on being alone... I think it's very likely my partner and my son will be there at the very least, but I'm leaving all options open and we'll see how I feel at the time.

Alison
Mama to Toad (08/06), Frog (01/09)... and new baby Newt born on his due date, Sep. 8, 2010
triscuitsmom is offline  
#25 of 27 Old 12-19-2008, 12:55 AM
 
elspethshimon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Columbus, OH
Posts: 995
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Me
Andy (partner)
My midwife
Andy's midwife (really, the second midwife provided by the organization we are using)
Maybe a friend of mine who is a doula-in-training.
elspethshimon is offline  
#26 of 27 Old 12-29-2008, 07:50 PM
 
JesiLynne's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Posts: 12,304
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Midwife, her assistant ( another midwife), DH, my sister, and my mom.
So far that is, I am debating a doula, I really want one, but I am so broke right now.
JesiLynne is offline  
#27 of 27 Old 12-30-2008, 07:37 AM
 
Lisanne's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 491
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just me, dh, and my midwife. If my MIL can come from the states she'll watch Anika and they might be in the room. If she can't come Ani will go to a neighbor's house during the day.

military wife to Eric, mommy to Ani 11/06 and Emi 2/09 and our angels angel1.gif 12/10, and angel1.gif 2/12 and our newest addition Izzy 4/13

 

Lisanne is offline  
Reply

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off