Wow, the hits just keep on coming - long - Mothering Forums
Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 02:30 AM - Thread Starter
 
jenr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Lawrence, KS
Posts: 139
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sorry I have been absent but things have not gone smoothly in our household since the move. And, I only just got Internet back today. I am now living in San Antonio, but the move was horrible. I will bullet point this to make it less lengthy. Please feel free to laugh, it is better than crying.

1) movers came a day late and then three hours earlier than they were supposed to. Then a snowstorm hit.
2) we left the next day in a snowstorm, and Blossom (the Great Pyr) threw up all over all the bedding I had put down in the back of the van for her and our Dane within 20 mins of our pulling out of the driveway. Luckily the cats gave up meowling an into the ride, and Cordy slept for a good portion of it.
3) thought we were making good time considering the road conditions until we hit a 3-hour traffic jam outside of Dallas - took that long to move 7 miles. Lost my hubby (who was in the other car with the boys) in the mess and with no way to reach him (he forgot his cell phone when he drove back to KS) spent about 1.5 hours after that trying to find him on the highway.
4) couldn't drive anymore after about 21 hours so pulled over for nap and finally made the new house 23hrs after leaving Lawrence.
5) expected the movers the next day...no movers...no answers. Took 9 days of living in an empty house with antsy kids to finally reach the owner of the moving company only to be told that the van had been in a slight accident during the storm the day they picked up our stuff and they would give us an $800 discount, and to let them know if there was anymore damage. I got so frustrated with them that I started bleeding profusely out of my nose and mouth (yup it was that bad) and couldn't get it to stop for 45mins. I never even get little nosebleeds so it was truly spokey and the kids were terrified because I got so weak that I couldn't stand up and had to call my DH to come home from work.
6) movers show up the next day in a rented U-Haul because the 'slight' accident destroyed their van. Half of our stuff was outright destroyed, about a 1/4 has massive damage. I am living without a vacuum, washer/dryer, television, most of the bedroom furniture (which was all handmade by my father). Some furniture that we have had for years is totaled and the clothing buckets shattered so I have to go through every single item of clothing (yes, from newborn up to adult) to sort it out, figure out what ended up on the road during the accident and is therefore wet and mildewy by now. We are sleeping on a mattress that has a huge welt running horizontally down the middle so our bums are elevated. $800 should cover it - my (insert cruder word for bottom).
7) Also, things run differently down here, and all the midwives are actually out of network for the insurance so what they do is estimate what you deductible will be and then what your copayment will work out to, adn then need to have that amount paid to them by 36 weeks. Anyway, I have interviewed the medwives who deliver at the hospital and are covered in-network by my insurance. They were okay, but I want a water birth. Then I went to the birth center, and loved them (they were really great with my kids) but had no idea how I was going to come up with $2000 in 6 weeks considering the move and the mess with all our stuff. Yesterday I interviewed the homebirth midwives and they have to be the nicest human beings on the planet. I am a little small-looking (people don't believe I am 30 weeks along and keep telling me I am more like 5 months) which is probably due to stress. When I mentioned to the midwife that we had only just told the kids about the baby 2 weeks ago, and that I felt bad because they hadn't heard the heartbeat or seen the baby, she offered to give me a free sonogram (very quickly) so the kids could see the heartbeat. They have one in their home office just in case. She let Spencer push the buttons on the machine and take the picture of the heartbeat and let Xavier squish the jelly on my tummy, and then let Cordy move the wand around. Well, in the process of doing that she discovered that LO is breech. I have never had a breech baby!!! So, that rules out going with the medwives because they don't do breech births. Also, the homebirth midwives are the breech experts in Texas so the birth center calls them. Luckily, I had already pretty much decided to go with the as they are willing to work with me on the $$ situation and they think I can convince the insurance to give me an in-network exception for them because delivering vaginally at home as opposed to a C-Section in the hospital makes monetary sense for them. They also gave me some exercises to do, and some homepathics to try to turn the baby because it is still pretty early and we are only concerned because I always go early (37, 36, and 36 weeks) so I only have about 5.5 to 7 weeks to make this baby move. Also, found a chiro who is certified in Webster Technique....not covered by insurance, of course.

Ah well. Not sure what else can happen. Now I just need to badger the movers to give me my $10,000 worth of damages back (they said they will pay me dollar for dollar because they were not at fault for the accident and will just charge the other guys insurance) but I can't get them to answer me back about how soon I can expect my money. Now I also have to figure out how to get my insurance to give me an in-network exception.

See, I told you laughing would be better than crying.
jenr is offline  
#2 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 06:11 AM
 
kssinca's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: California
Posts: 506
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Holy cow mama!

Well....that was definately an "adventure"!!! But now your family is all back together again! sending you some :
kssinca is offline  
#3 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 08:21 AM
 
tomsTXmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 147
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Holy Smokes Girl! You have certainly been through the ringer!

My thoughts and prayers are with you. What can I do to help? I'm in Houston.

Tracy
due 2/10/09
tomsTXmom is offline  
#4 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 09:25 AM
 
Larissa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 685
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow, I can't even believe all of that happened! I am so sorry about the horrible move! I hope that you are able to get every penny that is owed to you. And even in the midst of all the craziness, it's great that you are back together as a family.
Larissa is offline  
#5 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 10:59 AM
 
Everrgreen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,817
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh wow! That whole thing sounds awful. I hope everything get's straightened out asap for you. Try and take some time for yourself to relax and recover from all the stress.

Mama to my charming little boy, born at home January '09
Everrgreen is offline  
#6 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 01:49 PM
 
nighten's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: A mountain in TN
Posts: 5,743
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh my goodness, BLESS YOUR HEART!

I'm so so so sorry you had to go through all that (and still are) and I hope the moving company pays you the amount for replacing all your damaged items, and then some for emotional damages and outright inconvenience too.

Holy cow, I'd have been livid. You sound much calmer. Hang in there mama, all this too shall pass.

And good luck with turning the baby!

Check out www.spinningbabies.com to if you need.


SAHM to Guinevere (04/05/06) and Eowyn (02/13/09)
nighten is offline  
#7 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 02:02 PM
 
justKate's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Gloucester Point, VA
Posts: 3,568
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Jen, what a nightmare! I'm sorry you had to go through all of that.

justKate is offline  
#8 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 02:35 PM
 
starling&diesel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: West Coast, Canada
Posts: 3,804
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)
Sending easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy vibes your way in hopes that all of this struggled means that you will have a delightful birth and one lovely, calm baby!

dust.gifFour-eyed tattooed fairy godmother queer, mama to my lucky star (5) and little bird (2.5). Resident storyteller at www.thestoryforest.com. Enchanting audiostories for curious kids. Come play in the forest!
starling&diesel is offline  
#9 of 14 Old 12-19-2008, 03:40 PM - Thread Starter
 
jenr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Lawrence, KS
Posts: 139
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thank you everyone. I had to stay calm so that DH would not totally go ballistic, but my level of frustration is the highest it has ever been.

I did a wee bit of X-Mas baking last night so I am starting to feel a little more seasonal despite our total lack of decorations or festive spirit.

I am generally not too big a witch (replace the w with a b) when dealing with people, but if the movers try anything, and I mean anything, with me I will probably go ape-dung all over them. You do not want to mess with a 7+ months preggo woman who has been stuck in a house with three stir-crazy kids and no way to clean it or any clothing for weeks. It won't be pretty.
jenr is offline  
#10 of 14 Old 12-20-2008, 02:01 AM
 
nighten's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: A mountain in TN
Posts: 5,743
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I found something I wanted to share with you: I have been reading up on homeopathic remedies in labor, etc., and found that Pulsatilla is used for turning breech babies. So there's a lot you can try between now and when you go into labor, but I wanted to toss that one out there, since it can't hurt.

SAHM to Guinevere (04/05/06) and Eowyn (02/13/09)
nighten is offline  
#11 of 14 Old 12-20-2008, 06:26 PM
 
AKislandgirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Alaska
Posts: 2,057
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh my gosh Jen! What a complete nightmare. Thankfully you only lost "stuff" and you and your family are ok and back together again. Big hugs and peaceful vibes for the rest of your pregnancy. You deserve it!
:::: goodvibes:

Sue, Mama to Fiona Aileen (2/1/09) and  Maeve Penelope (10/7/11) familybed2.gif cd.gif
 

AKislandgirl is offline  
#12 of 14 Old 12-20-2008, 09:33 PM
k13
 
k13's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Bad Town, WA
Posts: 274
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
That is so crazy! It made me anxious just reading it! I hope things settle down soon :
k13 is offline  
#13 of 14 Old 12-20-2008, 10:24 PM
 
LionTigerBear's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Northern California
Posts: 6,690
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh my goodness! How AWFUL!!! At least your new midwives sound wonderful. Gosh, I hope you get that money back soon! Just . . . wow! Oh, and I remember what it was like not having a vacuum for several days (with wild kids) -- ugh! I can't imagine what you are going through will all of the things you are missing.

♥ blogger astrologer mom to three cool kiddos, and trying to figure out this divorce thing-- Blossom and Glow ♥

LionTigerBear is offline  
#14 of 14 Old 12-21-2008, 03:28 PM - Thread Starter
 
jenr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Lawrence, KS
Posts: 139
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
So, I am now a firm believer in karma. Just before we moved, I gave all my baby stuff (playpens, swing, portable crib, etc) that I never use and had multiples of (I was able to bring the kids to work when they were babies so I had stuff for home and office) to a nice lady who needed some help and who had lots of friends who were down on their luck. I was chastised by several people because I could have "sold" them. My response was "maybe someday I will need help and someone will help me". Well, we were talking to my DH's uncle and aunt and I was kind of joking about how rough things were without a washer/dryer. Well, they are in their 80s, retired, etc., but they went out and bought us a brand new, high efficiency, giant capacity washer/dryer because his aunt just couldn't fathom her darling great-niece and great-nephews having to re-wear their dirty clothes. I love them.
jenr is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off