how is everyone doing? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 23 Old 04-29-2009, 01:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
JillyD's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 471
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hey ladies..thought i would start this thread to see how everyone is doing. It's been pretty quiet around these parts these days!!

How is life with your baby?
we are doing quite well...little Charlie is now 5 weeks old and is smiling all the time. those smiles melt my heart! I am loving it! it's bittersweet though because I already miss the little floppy newborn. how quickly they change huh?

Our day to day life is pretty mellow - i feel fortunate to have lots of one-on-one time with him. My DD is in preschool M-W which gives me some much needed down time. I keep feeling like i should be doing something productive but then just find it impossible to motivate.

I will say, however, that my house is a mess. there is a monster pile of laundry on the floor of my bedroom...it is quite comical actually. I should take a photo of it. At least it is clean laundry and not dirty laundry.

How are you doing physically?
Physically I feel really good. I haven't been exercising that much yet but am starting to feel like i should get out and do something good for my body. i take nice long walks a few times a week and have gone to the climbing gym a couple times (though, i feel VERY weak right now). I am looking forward to more nice weather. Summer time is coming!!! yes!!! I am still about 10-15 pounds above my pre-pregnancy weight but I know from past experience that it will (eventually) come off. I get down about it sometimes though...

How are you doing emotionally?
Well, emotionally I am still having a hard time. I have plenty of good days but i still have days where I am pretty down which is frustrating. it seems like every time something stressful happens, the next day i feel really down. I am starting to worry that I have PPD but when i take those online quizzes i score really low so I guess it isn't anything to worry about yet. I guess my hormones are still kinda out of whack. ugh.

i also get sad about my little guy growing up so fast. we aren't going to have any more babies so it's been even more difficult than last time b/c I know I'm never goign to have something this small again. It is frustrating feeling this way! the whole point is for them to grow up big and strong!!

What else is going on?
Well, we had a pretty crazy weekend. Charlie got a fever of Friday night and it got high enough on Saturday to bring him to the ER. Long story short (and I know some of you know this drill), he had a spinal tap, multiple blood draws, urine analysis, and IV antibiotics. We were there until Monday. Everythign checked out clean but man, i feel SO BAD about bringing him there in the first place. I know it was the right thing to do considering but still...it sucked. his little body is just too small to have all those antibiotics pumping through them. Ick. The folks at the hospital were great though - they let me sleep with him every night and were supportive in every way. i am so glad to be out of there though...at one point, i thought we were going to be there for 3 weeks (when one of the cultures came back with a positive bacterial growth - turned out to be a contaminate). Anyway, that was our crazy story of the week.

how are all of you doing???
JillyD is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 23 Old 04-29-2009, 05:24 PM
 
birthangeldoula's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Southeast Michigan
Posts: 814
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Life with baby
Life's been okay. Baby Kate is currently asleep in her crib as I type this. She only sleeps in there for naps during the day starting yesterday. Otherwise she sleeps in our bedroom either in the bassinet, in our bed, or in the swing. Last Thursday she started sleeping for 5-6 hour stretches at night between feedings. She takes on extra feedings in the early evening and then conks out around 9 p.m. and doesn't wake up until 5-6 hours later. It's been an adjustment to motherhood, and the first 2 weeks were the worst for me but we're adjusting.

How are you doing physically?

Doing pretty well. I've healed from my c-section and have been doing all the "normal" stuff that I was doing before baby.

How are you doing emotionally?
I have my good days and my bad ones. I had so many panic attacks in the first 2-3 weeks after kate was born but they've lessened as we've settled into some sort of routine. I get alot of help from DH so that's been my saving grace.

What else is going on?
I've just been trying to get used to not having my "freedom". I loved the days before baby when I could just run to the grocery store or have lunch with DH. Kate and I still get out 2 times a week to have lunch with DH, it's just alot harder to coordinate since I have to wake up, somehow shower and get dressed, and get her ready to go -- but we still manage to do it.

Wife, Mother and Doula.
birthangeldoula is offline  
#3 of 23 Old 04-30-2009, 12:09 AM
 
YayJennie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 850
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Life with baby
Wyatt is an amazingly easy baby. Not only is he absolutely adorable, but he hardly fusses, nurses very well, sleeps great, and is a joy to be around. I love being a mother. He's already starting to smile and laugh at me, and I can't get enough of him. I look forward to watching him grow, and even though he seems to be growing up so fast, I'm happy about it.

How are you doing physically?
I healed very quickly. By 2 weeks pp, I was pretty much back to 100%. Now, at 5 weeks pp, I am walking everyday, exercising regularly, my tear is completely healed, and I have no pains from anything. I feel fantastic, though my body is so different, I have trouble with body image. Breastfeeding is not making the weight "fall off" like it does for some, so I'm adjusting to this body.

How are you doing emotionally?
Besides body image issues, I'm doing pretty well. I'm happy my husband and I seem to be handling parenthood and keeping our relationship strong. I get frustrated with him sometimes, because I do 90% of the care for baby, but he is really amazing and takes care of the house, cooking, works and goes to school, and makes sure I get nap time. I get cranky if Wyatt is fussy, but I think I'm handling it pretty well for a first time mom. All in all, pretty good for having a baby 5 weeks ago!

What else is going on?
I'm on vacation from school for a few weeks, and happy to just enjoy baby time! We're moving to a bigger place next month, and just signed the lease which I am STOKED about. I can't wait to have more room! Besides that, I'm just doing the mom thing

Jennie, mama to Wyatt (3/25/09) and Emma (11/22/10) novaxnocirc.gifhomebirth.jpg
YayJennie is offline  
#4 of 23 Old 04-30-2009, 06:49 PM
 
SaraC's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Shreveport, LA
Posts: 855
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
Life is pretty much back to normal. Evelyn is a very happy baby with very minimal fussing which is totally different than my last baby so that is nice. She is thinking about smiling so we are all looking for the first smile.

How are you doing physically?
I am feeling great. I had a very short labor and birth with no tearing so I am all healed up. My DH was off the first 2 weeks and he took care of the kids while I rested and that made a huge difference. I hope to start exercising soon because I really want to get healthy.

How are you doing emotionally?
I feel really great. I was dealing with some depression during pregnancy but that seems to be resloved now. I worried a bit that it might creep up afterwards but so far I feel really great.

What else is going on?
It has been ok here. We are trying to get back on track with homeschool but honestly we probably won't get there for a few more weeks. Life with 4 kids is hectic but I think it is going to settle down once the baby doesn't need to nurse every hour in the evening and I can reclaim my school room from the mess. My mom is in the hospital right now with some heart issues and that is a little stressful and we live 10 hours away so I can't visit her like I want. But overall we are all doing ok which is nice.

Sara
I love my girlsMadaline(9), Mary-Grace(7), Georgia(3), & Evelyn(1)
SaraC is offline  
#5 of 23 Old 04-30-2009, 09:35 PM
 
GoddessJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Los Angeles CA (Topanga Canyon)
Posts: 209
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Life With Baby

Well, Today has been particulary hard, don't know if I am dealing with Colic or just Gas Pains, but Eamon is incredibly fussy with screaming fits (they even happen in his sleep). We were off to a great start, he was even sleeping through the night, now I can't figure out how to calm him at all. I'm not sure I am cut out for this mom thing after today.

How are you doing physically?
I felt great about my PP body for about a month, now physically I am healed and itching to workout or do something to start getting back into shape, but the little guy is so demanding these days that I can barely get food and go to the bathroom. I am also having a bit of pain and blood when having a bowel movement...I am guessing that I have hemmoroids or a fissure. I have a great libido, but my partner is overwhelmed with so much that he hasn't engaged with me physically at all, this is getting frustrating.

How are you doing emotionally?
I am starting to wonder if I am getting signs of PPD. Today I have felt at my wits end and want to run away from everything. I know that I need to ask for more help and to get breaks for showers and personal time. I am taking my placenta still but it doesn't seem to help this week. I've been crying a lot, when the baby screams I often cry too. It is hard for me to understand why he is so fussy when he has everything he needs and we had a natural home birth. Perhaps my mood is contributing. I am overly stressed with work, caring for him, and trying to be very supportive to my partner.

What else is going on?
We closed up the Venice house last weekend which was really hard, we fell in love there and concieved Eamon there, and it respresented a time of growth and prosperity. I have been alone with the little man for long stretches and finding that being a new mom is really, really hard for me. I feel like I would rather just go back to work and get away, especially after today when he has been crying and I can't even get him in the sling to go for a walk outside. Both of my partners are working like crazy, I'm thinking that I need to reevaluate the parenting style that I have choosen (attachment parenting) and perhaps break down and hire help or get a swing or bassinet (he's been sleeping in bed with us and I am holding him all the time)
GoddessJ is offline  
#6 of 23 Old 05-01-2009, 08:24 AM
 
eewieew's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: bmore hon
Posts: 955
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by GoddessJ View Post
Life With Baby

Well, Today has been particulary hard, don't know if I am dealing with Colic or just Gas Pains, but Eamon is incredibly fussy with screaming fits (they even happen in his sleep). We were off to a great start, he was even sleeping through the night, now I can't figure out how to calm him at all. I'm not sure I am cut out for this mom thing after today.

How are you doing physically?
I felt great about my PP body for about a month, now physically I am healed and itching to workout or do something to start getting back into shape, but the little guy is so demanding these days that I can barely get food and go to the bathroom. I am also having a bit of pain and blood when having a bowel movement...I am guessing that I have hemmoroids or a fissure. I have a great libido, but my partner is overwhelmed with so much that he hasn't engaged with me physically at all, this is getting frustrating.

How are you doing emotionally?
I am starting to wonder if I am getting signs of PPD. Today I have felt at my wits end and want to run away from everything. I know that I need to ask for more help and to get breaks for showers and personal time. I am taking my placenta still but it doesn't seem to help this week. I've been crying a lot, when the baby screams I often cry too. It is hard for me to understand why he is so fussy when he has everything he needs and we had a natural home birth. Perhaps my mood is contributing. I am overly stressed with work, caring for him, and trying to be very supportive to my partner.

What else is going on?
We closed up the Venice house last weekend which was really hard, we fell in love there and concieved Eamon there, and it respresented a time of growth and prosperity. I have been alone with the little man for long stretches and finding that being a new mom is really, really hard for me. I feel like I would rather just go back to work and get away, especially after today when he has been crying and I can't even get him in the sling to go for a walk outside. Both of my partners are working like crazy, I'm thinking that I need to reevaluate the parenting style that I have choosen (attachment parenting) and perhaps break down and hire help or get a swing or bassinet (he's been sleeping in bed with us and I am holding him all the time)
jaiya - sounds like you're having a really hard time. i practice mostly ap with eden but found, as a single mama, that the true parenting style that i practice is ww - whatever works. i have a cosleeper, a swing, a little mat with tons of hang-y things, a bouncy seat, and she's happy with those things, thriving, and very attached to me. part of ap is having a happy mama too, and your little guy is going to love you no matter what. be gentle with yourself and understand that you don't have to fit into any particular mold to be ap...it's more theory than guidelines. you don't have to hold your baby 24/7 to be ap. your needs should be met as much as eamons's.

: single mom extraordinaire, keeper of eew since 02/09
eewieew is offline  
#7 of 23 Old 05-01-2009, 10:36 AM
 
eewieew's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: bmore hon
Posts: 955
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
nak

How is life with your baby?
pretty good. eden will be 10 weeks on monday. she's incredibly happy and alert, and super chatty
we sleep well (last night, she slept for 9 hours. 9. that's a first) and have generally developed a good routine. she does get pretty fussy at times, but she's very easily pacified and goes right back to being her usually smiley self.

How are you doing physically?
hmm. we're getting back into the swing of things but i'm very conflicted about my body.a few years ago i was really big and then i lost over 100 pounds. i keep reminding myself of that. what i am right now is nowhere near what i once was. the other thing i'm telling myself to feel better is that my body is merely the box that houses my consciousness. i want to take care of it, to have a strong box that will stand the test of time, but the box isn't THE most important thing.
the other thing is that i have reconnected with someone and there's a possibility that it could become sexual, and i'm so scared about that. i haven't been intimate with a man in a long time, and i've finally ( rediscovered my libido, but am so insecure about the shape i'm in. i've just gotta keep walking and hiking and dancing with the baby.

How are you doing emotionally?
dare i say, i'm doing awesome. besides the body conflict, i feel so centered right now. like my normal pre-preg self with this amazingly grounding baby. all the best parts of me are present, and she whips everything else into perspective for me. things that used to derail me are totally unimportant now.

What else is going on?
well...i mentioned a reconnection, that is happening. i went out last week, with a man i met at the farmers market last spring, and had a great time...there's mutual attraction so we're just sort of seeing what happens (we're both coming out of huge relationships so it's likely a friends w/benefits sort of thing, but that's all i really have time for anyway). even if nothing happens, i feel like i'm rejoining the land of the living, and that's nice.
the other thing is that my h and i are talking about sort of working on things in a very unorthodox manner (poly) but our relationship has reached a really awesome place, whether we decide to move forward with it or not. he is so in love with eden and we have great family time, even if she sleeps through it. it's like we remembered how to like each other. that feels good.

otherwise, i'm mostly just enjoying the fact that i didn't have to go back to work last week and that i'm so far able to work it so that i'm able to raise my kid. everyone i know says that motherhood becomes me.

: single mom extraordinaire, keeper of eew since 02/09
eewieew is offline  
#8 of 23 Old 05-01-2009, 11:58 AM
 
YayJennie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 850
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by jdubbelewe View Post
jaiya - sounds like you're having a really hard time. i practice mostly ap with eden but found, as a single mama, that the true parenting style that i practice is ww - whatever works. i have a cosleeper, a swing, a little mat with tons of hang-y things, a bouncy seat, and she's happy with those things, thriving, and very attached to me. part of ap is having a happy mama too, and your little guy is going to love you no matter what. be gentle with yourself and understand that you don't have to fit into any particular mold to be ap...it's more theory than guidelines. you don't have to hold your baby 24/7 to be ap. your needs should be met as much as eamons's.
I just wanted to agree with this 100%. I consider myself "AP", but we have a swing and a bouncer. I use them rarely, and don't put Wyatt in there unless I need a break, but I do think they're necessary for my sanity. Take care of yourself, and don't feel like you're "breaking down" because you need to put your son down for a bit. It won't ruin him, and giving yourself a little time out sounds like it would be good for you. Take care momma :

Jennie, mama to Wyatt (3/25/09) and Emma (11/22/10) novaxnocirc.gifhomebirth.jpg
YayJennie is offline  
#9 of 23 Old 05-01-2009, 04:48 PM
 
dividedsky's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 709
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
^^i know, sometimes w/my alex, he WANTS to be put down. sometimes he surprises me by mellowing out when i just let him do his thing...

being a mom is hard, 24/7 work. get a big obnoxiously-colored swing and see how it goes... and if you can hire someone to help with the baby, clean, cook a little.... do it!! esp since you're also trying to work.

as for me, every day gets better. i just can't wait until they can sit up at least + eat real food. no offense but i think having 1 babe after this would be a breeze, lol! but i'd never think that if i didn't have the twins now. this is all i know.

now i'm working on getting them to sleep in the cosleeper, and not on top of my giant nursing pillow/me. they're getting too big/squirmy!
dividedsky is offline  
#10 of 23 Old 05-01-2009, 06:43 PM
 
SaraC's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Shreveport, LA
Posts: 855
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I just wanted to say to you first time mamas or any mamas new to "AP" that using a swing, bouncer, crib, bassinet, etc does not make you any less "AP". I have 4 kids and life would not get done unless I had a place to safely put Evelyn down and attend to my other kids or my needs. Do I ignore her and let her cry all day? Never. But sometimes mama needs to pee, the 2 year old has to eat, or the older girls need help with homeschool and Evelyn has to be put down. Sometimes I need a free hand to eat or tend to my others and the swing is there. Evelyn will happily swing or hang out in the bouncy for a while and if she gets fussy then she gets picked up. Then my other kids have to wait a bit for Mom's attention while Evelyn gets nursed, cuddles, or put in a carrier so she can join us in whatever is going on. But using those things does not mean I am not attending to her needs, which is the principles behind AP. It is all about balance and if using a swing while baby is happy allows you to eat, use the bathroom, veg out for few, or attend to your partner/other children then I don't see how that is not being AP.

Everyday will get easier and you will find that balance between your past life and life now. Life now is your new "normal" and it does get easier.

Sara
I love my girlsMadaline(9), Mary-Grace(7), Georgia(3), & Evelyn(1)
SaraC is offline  
#11 of 23 Old 05-02-2009, 12:17 AM - Thread Starter
 
JillyD's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 471
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
hugs Jaiya...and things WILL get better. It takes time but you'll find a groove that works for you and your family. Be sure to take care of yourself and like the PP said, if you can work it, get some help. Even just a couple hours here and there can make a huge difference. Remember that there are HUGE demands on you right now - on top of the usual baby demands, you are also trying to work. It's hard.

As far as being AP, i agree with all the PP's. Remember that parenting is about you, not some definition of what an "AP" parent is suppose to be. You need to do whatever works best for you, your baby, and your family. Sometimes that might take a while to figure out. take a deep breath.
JillyD is offline  
#12 of 23 Old 05-02-2009, 02:53 PM
 
GoddessJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Los Angeles CA (Topanga Canyon)
Posts: 209
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thanks everyone for all your support! My partner gave me the day yesterday to just focus on work and it was great, so I am feeling better.
GoddessJ is offline  
#13 of 23 Old 05-04-2009, 11:05 AM
 
amybird's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Good thread...

Life is good! I'm not on this board as much as I would like to connect with you mamas, but me time is scarce and I have to use it wisely! Sleeping and eating come ahead of computer time.

Five weeks post partum, baby is prospering, and I feel good most of the time, too. A little teary when I'm over tired! I think DD is an easy baby, though I have nothing for comparison. She's hanging out in her bouncy chair for the moment, looking around with her beautiful big blue eyes .

We've had tons of out of town company. They've done so much wonderful cooking and cleaning, but I'll be glad when they go home and leave us to our little family. I'm a quiet, private person, and it's too much to have company all day every day in our small home. DH is at work, so today I'm entertaining my in-laws on my own...

Cheers to all!
amybird is offline  
#14 of 23 Old 05-04-2009, 03:46 PM
 
GoddessJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Los Angeles CA (Topanga Canyon)
Posts: 209
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Amybird...What kind of bouncy chair did you get? I haven't seen one I like for newborns. I am considering getting one since he loves movement and using his legs.
GoddessJ is offline  
#15 of 23 Old 05-04-2009, 09:28 PM
 
amybird's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
goddessj - Boppy brand, a gift. Seems cozy and stable. Haven't put batteries in the music/vibration part. Good luck, J!
amybird is offline  
#16 of 23 Old 05-04-2009, 10:40 PM
 
baileyandmikey's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: NY
Posts: 2,991
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
sorry too tired to post a long thread, but overall things are back to normal... baby is cosleeping, but I still wake up tired, he is one hungry little man, and is gaining weight like crazy@

Kristin- Wife to J, Mommy to B (11), M-S (8), and little J (4) and J&J (7 months)
baileyandmikey is offline  
#17 of 23 Old 05-04-2009, 11:21 PM
 
galincognito's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: central canada
Posts: 770
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
we're doing pretty good; dd2 is 2 months old now and loves to talk. she makes this fabulous cooing/trilling kind of sound that i absolutely love. she seems to know that too because she'll start doing it as soon as she sees me! day-to-day is kind of whatever, it would be nice to have some sort of routine. dh is busy at work right now (school bus driver) with lots of charters for the spring field trips so every day is different. i get lots of time to rest with dd2 though since dd1 goes with dh on the bus (so nice!). sometimes i feel guilty for not doing something productive while they are at the bus but on the other hand, it's nice to eat my lunch at a leisurely pace with no kids hanging off me or someone wanting to eat half of it!

How are you doing physically?
for the most part, pretty good. i've healed from birth but the past week or so i've got this weird pain sort of in my butt/groin area; it's super hard to explain. but the result is that i cannot run. walking is fine but it's impossible to run which really sucks because my ultimate frisbee season starts next week so off to physio i go!

How are you doing emotionally?
it's weird, i feel like i've been more emotional the past week or so. not really sure why but overall, i'm doing okay.

What else is going on?
not really a whole lot else happening. i'm still waiting for dh to finish the basement renos (which started 15 months ago!! so that we can move dd1 into her new bedroom so that dd2 can go in the nursery. definitely glad that spring has finally made an appearance around here; we go to the park everyday and we went for a two hour walk the other night. it's great to be outside!

wife to dh, mama to dd1   june 2007, dd2 march 2009 and dd3 april 2011
galincognito is offline  
#18 of 23 Old 05-05-2009, 09:28 AM
 
Conchobhar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Denver, CO
Posts: 605
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
Each day, I'm falling more and more in love with my DD! She's 7 weeks old, smiling and starting to reach out for things (like Daddy's long hair, mwahaha!) It's so fascinating to see her thinking processes. This past weekend, we celebrated Beltane and had her naming ceremony at the same time. It was an awesome ceremony full of love with friends and family. Each person gave DD a small token, which we will put in a shadow box, along with the labor necklace that I wore during her birth.

How are you doing physically?
Personally, I think I'm healed. Though, there are still a few times where I'll cross my legs too fast and feel a twinge of muscle pain. I'm still bleeding (it's just slightly more than spotting), which is annoying. I still can't run without having an accident, but I'm back to walking 3 miles daily, which is WONDERFUL!

How are you doing emotionally?
MUCH better than those first 2 weeks. There are still evenings where I'll get a small panic attack, when I can feel my hormones taking another drop, but it's bearable. I'm still finding it hard to adjust sometimes. I'm still mourning the loss of putting my full attention on my SO. He's starting to act out by playing his computer games more and ignoring chores and baby cries. We're working on it, though.

What else is going on?
My work is allowing me to work part-time from home, which has been a small lift on our financial stress. I'm still dreading going back to work, but at least this way, I didn't have to go back as soon as I had first thought. I really with I could be a WAHM. I feel like I'm going to miss out on DD's life when I go back to work. Makes me sad.
I decided not to have my hernia repaired at this time. My mother decided to have knee-replacement surgery a week after I had my baby (yes, decided...she was told she could wait a few months with no problem, but she was tired of not getting any attention because of the baby), so I had to take care of her. Added to the fact that I'm just now feeling better and close to being back to normal, I don't want to intentionally make myself feel like poo.

Wife to Phil, Mom to Saoirse (3/09), and Niamh (1/12)  waterbirth.jpg.crochetsmilie.gif
 

Conchobhar is offline  
#19 of 23 Old 05-18-2009, 02:58 AM
 
javilu's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California
Posts: 1,763
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)
bumping

(also hoping to remember to reply to this prompt soon myself, when not nak.)

SAH dissertating mama femalesling.GIF to my sweet little boy (2/2009)
and his rainbow1284.gif baby brother (7/2011)
javilu is offline  
#20 of 23 Old 05-18-2009, 11:38 AM
JMJ
 
JMJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 2,278
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
Great. She figured out how to roll over off her changing mat (we put it on the floor), and I'm just delighted to see how she's changing every day. She gets fussy when she's tired and has a hard time shutting down. She's happy during the process as long as she is up on my shoulder/against my chest and I am walking, bouncing and singing simultaneously. Otherwise, she's not so happy. Daddy has yet to figure out how to do all that at the same time, so, it's basically Mommy's job. She then has a hard time transferring into bed with us at night once she's asleep, so I usually have to go through 3 cycles of putting her to sleep and trying to transfer her into bed. Each takes about 20 minutes.

That's really the only difficult part, though. She's generally cheerful when she doesn't need something. She's been happy to sit/sleep in the sling so that I can still sing at church so far. She's eating and sleeping well, and I've been able to get a good amount of sleep. We're also doing EC, so she goes in the potty most of the time. I think I've only had to change one real poopy diaper (I don't count 1 drop of poop) in the past week.

I've been learning how to do things one handed, and she is happy to spend some time playing on the floor. She loves laying on her changing mat and rolling off of it (at least until she finds herself face down on the floor). I'm thinking about getting another carrier because I don't feel comfortable taking both my hands off of her when she's in the sling. I'm thinking about one of those front/back packs that goes over both shoulders. She's usually happier being more upright.

How are you doing physically?
Warning TMI: I felt mostly better after a week, but I've still got hemorrhoids bothering me. Right now, my bum doesn't hurt all the time like it did a week ago, but now they're starting to bleed when I have a BM. I went on a nice hike yesterday. My DH goes on a 2 hr hike every Sunday, so I went on most of it and then stayed back with the baby for the last bit (the most intense part) so that I could potty her and nurse her. It was great timing. He was gone for about half an hour, and I was burping her when he got back to where I was.

How are you doing emotionally?
Taking my placenta really helped. Upping my dose when I had rough days at the beginning really helped. Then, when I had to start cutting back because I was running out, things got harder again, but I can't up my dose because I'm going to have to figure out how to live without it because I only have 4 pills left. I've been getting really frustrated with DH about the amount of time he spends with DD and me, but we had a great brainstorming secession on Saturday to figure out some things that we can do to make things better. I'm going to try to get more housework done while he's gone at work so that he doesn't have to spend his time on that. He's going to delegate some more of the work that he has to do for organizations outside of work. I'm going to hike with him when I can. He's going to try to leave one day a week open for family time. He's going to stay up and chat with me while I'm putting DD to sleep. He's going to look into telecommuting one day a week.

What else is going on?
We'll be visiting my family in a couple weeks, so she'll get to meet her grandpa and aunts and some extended family. DH is looking at job opportunities, which could be good,though change is hard for me. We have a friend who is all of a sudden moving under some complicated circumstances, and I'm having a hard time with that. Some good friends just got engaged, so exciting! I guess there's wonderful and difficult things going on all the time. It just seems like a lot at once.
JMJ is offline  
#21 of 23 Old 05-19-2009, 12:18 AM
 
filiadeluna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 3,231
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
It's sooo much better. She is 8 weeks as of yesterday. Things were really, really rough the first few weeks. Isobel is an extremely fussy baby, but since being on some meds (yeah I hate that, but the ped thinks she has stomach issues or reflux), she has been in such a better mood - almost a different baby. She still has her fussy time of night, but it's not nearly as dramatic, and she is happy most of the time when she is alert now.

Before I could not even set her down for two seconds to pee or get some water for myself without her screaming bloody murder. I couldn't even feed myself, take a shower, pee, etc, and I was getting extremely weak, pale, and fatigued. I thought I would have to go back to the hospital for an IV, honestly. It was bad. Things are so much easier now that she is content to stare at the ceiling fan or some toys for up to 20 minutes if I need to fix a meal, clean a little, etc. I do wear her in a wrap or carrier when I can, but she doesn't always like it, and there are some chores I really can't wear her for (i.e. doing laundry or dishes - it's just too dangerous IMO as I am clumsy).

Now that she is getting older, she is babbling (as of about 5 weeks old), her vision is getting better, she is smiling and almost laughing, and making funny faces. She is so adorable. I've taken some cute videos of her "talking" and smiling. I love it. She seems more like a "real person" now that she is interacting and not just crying all the time.

Isobel has been sleeping through the night pretty consistently for a few weeks now. She generally sleeps 5-7 hours and wakes up at the butt crack of dawn or just before it. It is always a struggle to calm her down at night. It still takes me about 30 min to an hour to fall asleep most nights, and she goes to bed right around the time Justin gets home from work, so I don't get to see him often until morning. She generally takes two nap during the day, too, for anywhere from 1-3 hours. She naps longer if we are out somewhere because the car ride puts her to sleep.

How are you doing physically?
I have lost around 40lbs already, possibly more! I only gained 15lbs during my pregnancy (lost 10 initially & gained back 25), so I am significantly smaller than I was even pre-pregnancy! : I have a ton of stretch marks, and a bit of a "pooch", but I don't plan on wearing a bikini anytime soon. I was able to fit into my pre-preg jeans (which were tight before) by 2.5 weeks PP, and could fit into even smaller jeans by about 6 weeks pp. I am getting plenty of arm strength from lifting the baby. Haha. I take her on walks through the neighborhood and through stores quite frequently. It calms her down a lot, and I get some exercise and a chance to relax my brain a little. Sex is pretty much back to normal, but things are still a little pinchy/sore sometimes, and it is very difficult to find time for it, honestly, as DH is usually home when I'm asleep and I'm usually up when he's asleep. When we're both awake, the baby needs constant attention. Argh. It's very tough.

How are you doing emotionally?
Much better overall. I was diagnosed with PPD by my Nurse Midwife, and am now seeing a Psychiatric Nurse she referred me to for counseling. She put me on Zoloft, too, which I wasn't thrilled about (I have a history of depression and had weaned myself off of meds a two or three years ago as they started to make me feel numb). Anyway, my relationship with DH has been very difficult, but is getting better again. He feels like "a third wheel", because Isobel freaks out on him frequently (always wants Mommy), and for the same reason we rarely get any alone time. He's been rather depressed too, and there have been a lot of tears (mine) and heartache (both of us).

Having a child has been the single most amazing, wonderful, and difficult thing we've ever done - all in one. : It's up & down from day to day and hour to hour, honestly, and I really worry about how things are going to work out once I go back to work. I worry how Isobel will react with the babysitter, and I also worry about how the heck I will get *any* sleep, let alone find time for myself or DH.

What else is going on?
Hahaha! What else do I have TIME for? j/k - seriously, though I want to become a doula, childbirth educator, and breastfeeding educator now, and potentially later a nurse midwife! Woohoo! I am so excited. I really think it is something I can finally be passionate about, and it was my own birth and the kindness/awesomeness of my midwife that inspired me. I am currently researching all my training and certification options, and trying to come up with a business name so I can get started.

-
filiadeluna is offline  
#22 of 23 Old 05-20-2009, 12:55 AM
 
Aly22681's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Columbus Ga
Posts: 1,107
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
How is life with your baby?
Things are going great. London is a dream come true. Difficult, but a dream come true. He loves me, what can I say, I must be pretty darn great since he SCREAMS at everyone else : My husband has recently deployed for a little while so it's just me and London around the house these days. He is 11 weeks old now and weights 14.5 lbs. so he is chunky little man, I LOVE IT! He loves his sling and it immeidately puts him to sleep so sometimes it works against me when I am trying to keep him awake so he will go to bed on time. We are still trying to stick to the schedule that he put himself on. He also LOVES his mobile. That will entertain him for a good 45 mins as long as I make sure to SPRINT across the house every 2 mins to wind it back up He started sleeping through the night at about 7 weeks old. It's AWESOME. He has always been a good sleeper though. He goes to bed between 6:30-8:00pm and doesn't wake up again until 5am. Then I change him and he eats and its right back to sleepyland until 9am. I love that little boy.



How are you doing physically?
I feel 100% back to normal. Everything in the nether region has healed up. I have to admit I was pretty self conscious before the hubs left about sex, I just couldn't believe that things down there had tightened back up after pushing almost 7lbs of baby out. He said it was back to normal but he loves me and would probably lie to me even if it wasn't. I have such a good husband I have lost all of my baby weight, however my body is just ALOT different now. My goal is to lose about another 20 lbs. I gained alot of weight doing infertility treatments, so if lose those 20 lbs I will be the same size I was almost 9 years ago when DH and I started dating.

How are you doing emotionally?
GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still feel a little hormonal. I guess that is to be expected though. The hardest thing for me is not being able to let go of being a Mom now. If consumes me 24/7. Before DH left all I wanted to do was go out for a night ALONE with him. So I took the little man to my SIL and we went out. However all I could think/worry about was London. It's like I can't let go, no matter how much I want to. I will DEFINITELY have to work on that. I miss being my old self, but wouldn't trade London for THE WORLD!!!

What else is going on?
Not a whole lot. I have a beautiful son and some great friends who keep me entertained while DH is gone. I could not ask for more.

*Aly* Proud ARMY Wife and SAHM to our IVF miracle London Michael 2/28/09 We are so in love! We beat infertility once, lets see if we can do it again. TTC #2!
Aly22681 is offline  
#23 of 23 Old 05-21-2009, 09:38 AM
 
filiadeluna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Posts: 3,231
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Aly22681 View Post
How is life with your baby?
Things are going great. London is a dream come true. Difficult, but a dream come true. He loves me, what can I say, I must be pretty darn great since he SCREAMS at everyone else :
Isobel is the same way! It sucks when she screams, though, because I cannot get much of a break at all (she even screams at DH quite frequently). Plus, I am going back to work soon, and she will have to stay with the babysitter for 4-6 hours a day while we are both at work. I am really worried about how she will react, but maybe if I am not there she'll be better with the babysitter & with DH as well.

Quote:
The hardest thing for me is not being able to let go of being a Mom now. If consumes me 24/7.
No kidding. DH gets tired of hearing me talk about the baby all the time, even when the baby is asleep & we are out eating or doing something non-baby-related. It's so hard NOT to talk about her, though, as she is my 24/7 job right now. It will be really hard not to think about her when I'm at work and worry about every little thing. I can guarantee you I will be texting the babysitter constantly (she's a good friend of mine) to see how Isobel is doing. Ugh.

-
filiadeluna is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off