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#1 of 27 Old 08-01-2008, 11:44 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Sad news. 9 weeks today, started bleeding very lightly yesterday afternoon, started cramping this afternoon, then passing clots. Saw the MD (family practice, only guy nearby) and he said that at this gestation period, it's definitely a miscarriage (didn't do an ultrasound or anything...), and that I'll be feeling like I'm having a horrible period over the next few days. He said that it will just look like blood clots because the fetus isn't big enough to see yet.

And I am. Moderately severe cramps (taking ibuprofen), passing tons of clots. I'm going to see my OB on Monday because I just want more answers (do I need a D&C, what might have happened, when can we try again).

Would appreciate any stories about miscarriages at similar gestation. Doing okay right now, I know it will be an emotional journey.

I enjoyed getting to know you all, and will hopefully be back on the boards soon.

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(((HUGS))) My first baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, we found out at 12, I had no bleeding right away. Then one night I got really sick, and bleed all night, still had to have a D&C to complete the miscarriage. I am so sorry for your loss. We did concive again two months later and had a healthy baby.

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I'm so sorry Sarah
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So sorry, Sarah I hope your recovery is swift.

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I'm sorry for your loss.
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((((hugs))))) I'm so sorry

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Im so sorry hun ... take care of yourself and hopefully its not too long before your back in a due date club...

My M/C didnt happen naturally so had to have D&Cs but i did fall pregnant after the first within 3 months of trying again, the second was a while longer before falling pregnant again ... Hope you feeling better soon
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s I'm so sorry.

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I'm so sorry for your loss Sarah.
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So sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry.

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So sorry for you.
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I am so very sorry hon! That totally sucks in a major way, I am just so sorry. There is nothing I can say to help it be better....just know that I am with you in spirit. And know that your little one WILL come back around at some point, when he/she decides that the conditions are perfect! It is so awful though, and you get filled with this ache that is beyond words. I know, I was just there in February, right at the same place and same everything. I'm sending you such big hugs! Sweetie, take care of yourself and get lots and lots of rest. Hugs.
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i'm so sorry.

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I am so sorry for you loss. Please take care of yourself
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Sorry mama.

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hugs to you mama. so sorry for your loss.
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Sorry. double sorry since i don't have any stories, my miscarriages are all after 15 weeks.

Just take it easy, honor this pregnancy and baby for the gifts you did have, and heap blessings upon yourself. It took me several losses to get to that point tho.

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Sorry for you loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I had 2 miscarriages at home at 9 weeks. I'm scared to death of D&C! The body knows how to clean itself out.

It wasn't fun. It felt like labor. Bleeding was heaviest on the final day. I passed large clots - nothing recognizable as a baby, although one time I did pass something that looked just like a peanut shell. I saved the large clots in a baggie and had my own little funeral. Some sort of ritual makes one feel better I think.

I cried and cried - really wanted to talk it out, but we hadn't announced it and if you haven't experienced it, you can't really identify.........

I'm wishing you hugs and a hot cup of tea. Take it easy.
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so sorry for your loss. I was out of this ddc at 7 weeks. It's so hard I know.
I did a blood test to figure my "deal" out and my doc (holistic) (but he still sent the blood to a regular lab for review) noticed my hormone DHEA was VERY low.
I asked him if that would effect my ability to get pregs and stay. And he said if I was a man, I would have Erectile Dysfunction (ED). (I am 26, can you imagine a 26 year old male with ED?)
Turns out my adrenal glands are over worked (and underpaid) and he put me on a supplement regiment that will hopefully give my adrenal glands a break.
do you feel stressed? do you have a hard time coping with stress?
I saw that you welcomed any personal stories so I thought I'd share with you mine.
I stand with you. It was SO hard to understand. And I am so sorry for your loss.

(and a hot shower/warm bath is really your best friend for the cramps...)

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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.
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I'm sorry for your loss.

I don't buy that too small to see, btw. I saw the ones I lost around 6 weeks. Very, very tiny but they looked exactly like the pictures for that age. You probably won't see anything, but don't be freaked if you do.

Take it easy, over doing can definitely make you bleed more, or cause you to start bleeding again after you thought you'd stopped.


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