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#31 of 35 Old 07-10-2010, 06:55 PM
 
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My point is that if it was along the lines of a 'chuckle under the chin' as you put it, it wouldn't have been followed by 'you're a bad mother.' Would you honestly say something like that as a joke? I get direct with people, but direct doesn't have to mean physical or even insulting. I wouldn't make excuses for poor behavior. She's an adult, and regardless of where she's from, she should know better. I grew up around aggression. My own mother was very abusive, her mother as well. The majority of families I knew believed in 'spare the rod and spoil the child.' Meanwhile, I'm intelligent, empathetic, and I have a mind of my own. I choose not to get physical with people because it's not right, period.

As for the last point, I don't mind saying I grew up in a third world country. How does 'third world' imply anything other than less progressed/developed? It's not an insult to say it's a less advanced nation. In fact, that is one of the few things I remember fondly about it. It allowed for a more laid back lifestyle.
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I can't imagine a culture that turns a blind eye to smacking people in the face. This "woman" (not really sure if that word is appropriate for her) is off her rocker!
Yes, this. Especially if it was done in front of children. Assault is assault and it's not acceptable. This woman needs to be asked not to return to the group until she can act in a non-violent manner. People disagree with others all the time, but assaulting someone is not the answer.

Mama, I'm sorry you were violated like that. She had every right to disagree with you...she did not have the right to strike you. :

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It could mean nothing. It could have been a sign of affection.
I'd like to think I'm a bit culturally aware and culturally sensitive. I try to be. I've also taken quite a lot of anthropology and cultural sociology courses in my education. I've never ever heard of a culture where slapping someone in the face means nothing or is a sign of affection. And in *this* country, it is assault. In *this* country, it is not legal for an adult to strike another adult. In every other culture I know of, slapping someone in the face is a way to show domination, disrespect, anger, or any other number of negative emotions.

Unless the two people involved are named Larry, Curly, or Moe ( ), slapping someone in a face followed by an insult isn't generally a sign that you're showing respectful discourse.

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The fact the the woman said the OP was overreacting means a lot as to her intent with the slap.
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Leave the group. That is totally unacceptable.
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